Originally posted by KissMyTiara
LadyLuck - was this recently? What was the scenario? How long was he with OW before you broke up? How old are your children? Do you have another love in your life yet?
We seperated around 3 years back now, so I'm over it all and am now able to speak about it and so here goes:
OK, I kinda suspected that he was having an affair and I did actually confront him and ask if he was having an affair. He denied it, which they do. The signs were all there however and these were the 'warning' signs for me:
His mobile phone would bleep (text messages) in the early hours of the morning. (He wouldn't allow me near his mobile phone)
He'd stayed out all night on two occasions, which he'd never done throughout the whole ten years. (told me he'd stayed at a friends home).
He began buying me flowers more often, paying me more attention, he would kiss me on the way to work, etc... (something he'd ever rarely done before).
Sex increased (yep, that happens)
A week prior to him walking out on me, I'd noticed he was very quiet, lost his appetite and was very withdrawn. I'd asked him what was bugging him, he replied that he was just having a tough time at work.........so I left it at that.
The night before the morning he left for good, we were talking of where we were going to spend our summer holiday......LOL!! Little did I suspect that he was planning to walk out on me a few hours later for the OW! But this particular night also, he'd started an argument with me, for no reason at all and I'd totally lost my cool with him. He'd then told me that he was going to spend the night at a friends house and off he went. I know now that he'd deliberately caused the argument, to go off and be with OW for the night!!!
Next morning he came back very early and began packing his cases. He told me he was leaving me, he was going to stay at his friends home. This is when I knew that he was having an affair. I begged him to tell me the truth, he kept denying there was anyone else involved.........but then he broke down and told me that 'yes', he'd met someone else and he was leaving me and our kids to be with her!!
I asked him if he loved her, he said 'yes'. Iasked him how long the affair had been going on, he replied, '3 weeks'. I'd laughed when he said that, couldn't believe that he was actually leaving me and his kids for a woman he'd only known three weeks. But apparantly and it turned out, that his friendship with this woman had begun six months previous. They'd been involved emotionally, before the physical happened. OW was in a bad marriage and he'd become her listening ear and support..........hence it went from there.
Our kids are 9 & 7 years old!
And yes I do have another love in my life. A guy with whom I was in a long relationship, before I met my husband and got married........so I kinda look upon the whole thing now, that my H and his OW actually did me a big favour.....lol