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Old 8th February 2018, 8:49 AM   #31
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Haha of course Iíll look normal during the day and make the tweaks (remove blazer, change shoes, amp up make up etc) only for the night. I can easily add up stuff in my car, there is not even a neeed to run home And yet Iím thinking it maybe too much... because of the desire for very slow unforced development.
Don't worry about it. While the development has been slow so far, there has to be some form of progression if you want things to go somewhere. Being dressed up for dinner is a good step forward IMHO.
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Old 8th February 2018, 9:01 AM   #32
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However, I'd be wearing bodycon dress, stilettos, red lips, cat eye
I had to Google that. This is what I found in case others are interested. If he doesn't escalate when you're wearing that then you're sooo friend zoned.
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Old 8th February 2018, 10:52 AM   #33
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I had to Google that. This is what I found in case others are interested. If he doesn't escalate when you're wearing that then you're sooo friend zoned.
From the link - something like the 4th model on the 1st row but not that short and black with red details. That's not too much, right?

Hah, yeah, if I'm getting friend zoned again, it will suck Do you guys put so much time in someone who you consider just friend? I'm not excluding the possibility though because I got friend zoned once last year.
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Hah, yeah, if I'm getting friend zoned again, it will suck Do you guys put so much time in someone who you consider just friend? I'm not excluding the possibility though because I got friend zoned once last year.
In general, I think women have no problem spending lots of time with a guy they only see as a friend, but most men won't spend that much time with a woman unless they are attracted to her.

This guy sounds more interested than the other guy.
Are you just as crazy about this guy?
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Old 8th February 2018, 11:37 AM   #35
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From the link - something like the 4th model on the 1st row but not that short and black with red details. That's not too much, right?
Hubba hubba!

If he doesn't escalate then somebody else will
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It's apples and oranges but the intensity is about the same The hormonal rush is there.

With the other one there was this crazy dreams about nature & space & doing grand things together. This was the 'muse' part I referred to. He also always kept his distance creating this mystery that was drawing me to him. He was turned inwards, very in tune with himself but less in tune with the outside world.

With this man - he's like a home base. When I need grounding, he's there. He still lets me dream big without being embarrassed lol, but I reflect my thoughts on him instead of getting lost in space We have this warm connection, and we're both hands on building things, handling difficult pets , and difficult people together. I've always felt safe and respected around him, and even when we were more distant friends in the beginning, he was the person who I'd run to if I want advice or just someone to talk to. And yet he has this sexy vibe, pressing the right string with a single word sometimes and leaving me sleepless the night after


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In general, I think women have no problem spending lots of time with a guy they only see as a friend, but most men won't spend that much time with a woman unless they are attracted to her.

This guy sounds more interested than the other guy.
Are you just as crazy about this guy?
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Old 8th February 2018, 12:01 PM   #37
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It's apples and oranges but the intensity is about the same The hormonal rush is there.

With the other one there was this crazy dreams about nature & space & doing grand things together. This was the 'muse' part I referred to. He also always kept his distance creating this mystery that was drawing me to him. He was turned inwards, very in tune with himself but less in tune with the outside world.

With this man - he's like a home base. When I need grounding, he's there. He still lets me dream big without being embarrassed lol, but I reflect my thoughts on him instead of getting lost in space We have this warm connection, and we're both hands on building things, handling difficult pets , and difficult people together. I've always felt safe and respected around him, and even when we were more distant friends in the beginning, he was the person who I'd run to if I want advice or just someone to talk to. And yet he has this sexy vibe, pressing the right string with a single word sometimes and leaving me sleepless the night after
That's awesome!
Saying he feels like home is a big statement - the way it should be.
I hope this works out!
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Old 8th February 2018, 1:42 PM   #38
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ooooo you're going to look so pretty no_go!!!
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Ooh! I like this story!! :

Have fun on Friday and just go with the flow.

In the meantime focus on the plans of workwear and eveningwear so you know exactly what you need to take, it'll take your mind off the actual night out if you focus on the practical stuff. This has always been my trick with nerves for dates (or anything nerve-wracking for that matter). I focus on the getting there or the whatever I need to do beforehand, If my mind flicks to thinking about the date I consciously flick it back to the stuff I need to do right before the date.
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Old 8th February 2018, 4:40 PM   #40
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Thanks Gemma!

Thankfully I'm pretty skilled at dress/make up conversions but as you said is nerve wracking so I loaded (almost) everything yesterday night Rehearsing tonight again.....

Gosh he's so nervous it makes ME nervous. He sent me a million messages today that scream nervousness to me, usually he's very calm, I really hope we don't mess it up..........

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Ooh! I like this story!! :

Have fun on Friday and just go with the flow.

In the meantime focus on the plans of workwear and eveningwear so you know exactly what you need to take, it'll take your mind off the actual night out if you focus on the practical stuff. This has always been my trick with nerves for dates (or anything nerve-wracking for that matter). I focus on the getting there or the whatever I need to do beforehand, If my mind flicks to thinking about the date I consciously flick it back to the stuff I need to do right before the date.
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What were the messages about?
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Old 8th February 2018, 7:37 PM   #42
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What were the messages about?
About tomorrow mainly! And some ambiguous jokes Gah my face is hot, I need to calm down to take a nap tonight
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No_go, I think I am a little concerned about you now that this really might be happening.
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Thanks Gemma!

Thankfully I'm pretty skilled at dress/make up conversions but as you said is nerve wracking so I loaded (almost) everything yesterday night Rehearsing tonight again.....

Gosh he's so nervous it makes ME nervous. He sent me a million messages today that scream nervousness to me, usually he's very calm, I really hope we don't mess it up..........
AWwww that's adorable. I am a bit envious! I wish I had a real first date again!
I am always nervous to see my boyfriend when I haven't seen him for a whole busy week, and I get butterflies.... But still, first real dates are the best.
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