The only way to overcome fear is to face up to it. Allow yourself to feel the fear without trying to push it away.
Trying to push it away creates tremendous inner tension, and feeds the fear.
Notice the physical sensations in you body that come with it, but don't try to suppress them, just notice the way your body feels.
Allow yourself to fully experience it for a few minutes, and then just go about your business.
"Our search for such [moral] principles can start with . . . the unconditional imperative to acknowledge every person as a person. If we ask for the contents given by this absolute, we find, first, something negative—the command not to treat a person as a thing. This seems little, but it is much. It is the core of the principle of justice."
- Paul Tillich.
The key to dealing with anger is externalising it.
You can do this by:
Speaking about it to a trustworthy person, writing about it, or any other means of expression that works for you.
Anger is very physical, so physical ways of externalising it can be be particularly helpful. Some examples are:
Going to a place where nobody can hear you and shouting it out as loud as you can, for as long as you can.
Hitting a punch bag until you can't punch any more.
Breaking something, and th
To be loved, be loving.
To find peace, be peaceful.
To find forgiveness, be forgiving.
To be cared about, be caring.
To be treated kindly, be kind.
To be understood, be understanding.
To have friends, be friendly.
Etc.
We have no right to receive anything that we do not give.
*Don't try to avoid your thoughts and feelings. That resistance just creates conflict and tension inside of you.
Allow your thoughts to come and go naturally, and do the same with your feelings.
You will find that there are nuggets of understanding and realisation in there which will help with your recovery.
If you block the painful feelings, you are at the same time blocking any good feelings which are being formed.
What you resist, persists.
The relationship you have, is the relationship you have today.
If you're happy with it today, you'll probably be happy with it tomorrow.
If you're not happy with it today, you'll probably not be happy with it tomorrow.
The past is gone, and the future is unknown.
1. Sit down in a dining chair, or other upright chair.
2. Close your eyes, and let your attention come to your body. Let your attention wander around your body, just noting any sensations you feel. You may feel anything. Itching, hot, cold, tight, heavy, relaxed etc. Just notice any sensation.
3. Notice your breathing. Don't try to breathe in any particular way, just notice your breathing.
4. Bring your attention to the heart area, and let it rest there for few moments. You might like t
All in all
Each man in all men
all men in each man
All being in each being
Each being in all being
All in each
Each in all
All distinctions are mind, by mind, in
mind, of mind
No distinctions no mind to distinguish
They all say,"I needed xyz, and you weren't giving that to me."
Then you can get really clear in your head that its all your fault.
Then you can get really clear in your head that you're just not good enough.
Then you can get really clear in your head that you must do better.
Or, you can look at it this way: He did it because he wanted to.
Which is a good way of looking at it, because it's the truth.
*No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you.
*No indirect contact through third parties.
*De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media.
*No 'little birds' feeding you news.
*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.
The most fundamental relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. It sets the tone for all your other relationships. With this in mind, it's important to be loving and kind to yourself. Cultivate loving kindness towards yourself and you will be able to love others freely and without reserve.
It's OK to feel OK, and it's OK to feel good. It's OK even when somebody else isn't feeling good. It's OK even if someone else is suffering. In fact, we need to be OK, so that we can help others when they need us. We can't give what we don't have. If we aren't feeling peaceful inside how can we bring peace? If we don't feel the love inside, how can we give love?
