Does anyone else get made fun of and have kids displaying intimidating behaviour...

[Spiderman]

Spidy's old school survival advice :-

 

Bullies, ha. The vast majority of them couldn't fight their way out of a paper bag, they're all mouth.

 

Stand your ground no matter what. It's irrelevant how big they are, how many of them there are, f*ck it. Worry about the finer details afterwards. Start giving some back, take it as far as you have to, they'll soon back off.

 

Have respect for yourself and others at all times. If someone gives it to you, give it back twice as hard. Always go for the biggest guy first, the others will run a mile after you've put him down.

[Ross_K]

Ross... re-read this again. This was very sensible advice. You have to change, for these things to change. Are you willing to make a change?

 

Yeah I've thought about what she was saying. And I am definatley willing to make a change.

 

I've had teenage girls force me to walk on the road. I've even had one refuse to get out of my way in the supermarket. I tell you what, that 14 yr old cow was bigger than me!! Know what I did? I pushed past and bashed her with my basket!! Serves her right. She shouted something rude and pathetic after me. But she wasn't about to bust my chops, so who gives a ***?! I'm not big, I'm not scary, but I will not be pushed around. Not by anyone. Why? Because I spent to many years already doing that and being bullied.

 

I'm sorry this happened to you. The reason why it bothers me so much is because it effect the way I feel so much. And it is hard to do something dramatic towards them, plus I just get a feeling I'll come off looking stupid.

[Ross_K]

OH i think its normal. i always get things like that happen. its jsut what the little dicks in the uk do.

 

i had a younge guy come up to me one day and say

"if someone came up to you and told you that u were the prettiest girl they'd seen all day... they'd be lying"

 

ive people shout out car windows at me.... people shouting "pig" "dog" "fat ass" across the street.

ive had people give me dirty looks and scowl at me n stuff

 

actually its got a little less since i have my daughter in the push chair with me but i think its normal... kids these days jsut wanna make themselves feel big and hard by trying to intimidate other people

 

Wow! Is that you in your avatar?

 

Yeah, these dicks usually don't bother if you're walking with a little kid or say if you're walking with someone say over 60.

 

Anyway, I'm sorry that you've had people saying stuff like that at you, I've had it happen a couple of times to me, and it does hurt a lot (well, it does with me anyway).

[quietintrovertgirl]

Cool, what part? I live in Mountain View myself.

 

Ross,

These bullies only bother men not women

 

 

Tanbark,

I wish i can answer your post but the board too public.

[burning 4 revenge]

The UK is so f*cked up. Ross this kind of stuff doesn't happen to adults in the states very often.

 

Funny that we get the reputation for being such barbarians over here.

[samsungxoxo]

Sorry to hear that my friend, I really don't know what I woudl do in that case, esp. if it's not just one but group of thugs. Lucky you have your mother to be there to prtect you but remember that someday you're gonna be left alone. You have to file a report on this or try investing money, find a job and move someplace else.

 

By the way, are you still with the "Social Anxiety" syndrome?? If you are, you're gonna have to get over it else you don't process. Is it something you do or the way you look at people in the eye that makes you their target???

[samsungxoxo]

Ross, you have shut down from everyone that cares about you, really you have, you're doing nothing at all to improve yourself, instead you're going backwards like a kid, it;s like you're still in your childhood stage. Wake up already!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

By the way, you might also try stop hurting those that care about you, my friend. Otherwise you're gonna run out of friend and they're gonna shut down like you;re shutting down on them as well.

 

You killed every single friendship that was openly given to you.

 

Once again, don't mean to sound harsh, but I already been dying to say this for quite a while since you decided to shut down completely.

 

But yes, Ross, I have been very patient with you for a while long. In fact, you were the only person I was patient with. As you may already know, I'm quite short temper, I give attitude to my parents and anyone wanting to dry out my patience, but with you it was something different, I can't explain what it was, it's so hard to explain. Even though I didn't see you in person, only online, it was something that wnet in my mind, sparklings, something like that, I cna't really explain it. At some point, I wanted to share some of my other secrets with you, until you dropped me off, you shut down.

 

Funny how I'm still writing on your post when I shouldn't, I dunno what's keeping me from contacting you on this, I really don't. You also did made someone cry out once.

[quietintrovertgirl]

Ailec1987,

 

High five girl.My little bro had to hear the truth. We love ya but Ross.You're a pain in the butt.

[Ross_K]

Spidy's old school survival advice :-

 

Bullies, ha. The vast majority of them couldn't fight their way out of a paper bag, they're all mouth.

 

Stand your ground no matter what. It's irrelevant how big they are, how many of them there are, f*ck it. Worry about the finer details afterwards. Start giving some back, take it as far as you have to, they'll soon back off.

 

Have respect for yourself and others at all times. If someone gives it to you, give it back twice as hard. Always go for the biggest guy first, the others will run a mile after you've put him down.

 

I think doing this could just make things worse for myself, I mean some of these guys (the older ones not the 14 year olds obviously) could beat me up.

 

As for the 14 year olds, I feel as bit stupid doing something back to a kid, and anyway, they could always get older people onto me.

[burning 4 revenge]

Ross, Spiderman is a self-confessed body-builder. I think it's hard for him to put himself in the regular guy's shoes.

 

If I were you I wouldn't risk my teeth. You have problems enough getting girls.

[burning 4 revenge]

Spidy's old school survival advice :-

Worry about the finer details afterwards.

 

The finer details may include a ruptured spleen, a different looking nose and a smile like a Ukranian peasant.

[Ross_K]

Sorry to hear that my friend, I really don't know what I woudl do in that case, esp. if it's not just one but group of thugs. Lucky you have your mother to be there to prtect you but remember that someday you're gonna be left alone. You have to file a report on this or try investing money, find a job and move someplace else.

 

Yeah that's what I'm working towards, getting a job, saving money, and moving to a nicer place.

 

By the way, are you still with the "Social Anxiety" syndrome?? If you are, you're gonna have to get over it else you don't process. Is it something you do or the way you look at people in the eye that makes you their target???

 

I dunno, Ailec, maybe I don't look good and look like an easy target, maybe it's because I come across different to people round here and wear different clothes, maybe it's because I don't hold eye contact and that makes me look like an easy target, or maybe it just happens to everyone.

[stoopid_guy]

If I were you I wouldn't risk my teeth. You have problems enough getting girls.

The problem is that those bullies can smell the "I wouldn't risk my teeth" attitude and consider that person an easy target. A "Yeah buddy, I'll risk my teeth. Do you wanna risk your's?" will actually result in less risk to your teeth.

[burning 4 revenge]

The problem is that those bullies can smell the "I wouldn't risk my teeth" attitude and consider that person an easy target. A "Yeah buddy, I'll risk my teeth. Do you wanna risk your's?" will actually result in less risk to your teeth.

That's one of those things that sounds good until you're surrounded by ten teenagers armed with god knows what who get regular beatings from their alcoholic unemployed fathers and their staring you down and shouting cockney-inflected insults at you.

[Ross_K]

Ross, you have shut down from everyone that cares about you, really you have, you're doing nothing at all to improve yourself, instead you're going backwards like a kid, it;s like you're still in your childhood stage. Wake up already!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

By the way, you might also try stop hurting those that care about you, my friend. Otherwise you're gonna run out of friend and they're gonna shut down like you;re shutting down on them as well.

 

You killed every single friendship that was openly given to you.

 

How do you mean by shutting down? And I've not killed any friendships.

 

Once again, don't mean to sound harsh, but I already been dying to say this for quite a while since you decided to shut down completely.

 

But yes, Ross, I have been very patient with you for a while long. In fact, you were the only person I was patient with. As you may already know, I'm quite short temper, I give attitude to my parents and anyone wanting to dry out my patience, but with you it was something different, I can't explain what it was, it's so hard to explain. Even though I didn't see you in person, only online, it was something that wnet in my mind, sparklings, something like that, I cna't really explain it. At some point, I wanted to share some of my other secrets with you, until you dropped me off, you shut down.

 

Ailec, I'm really sorry, we can talk about this further in PM if you'd like.

 

Ailec, the reason why I stopped talking on IM is because I'm not really that into talking on IM with anyone, I do really like talking with people, but only on message boards, PM's and emails, plus I sorta felt like you were probably bored with me, I mean, I read your post where you were talking about dating those two guys, I was really happy for you, but I thought why would you still want me around?

 

I guess, maybe I should've said something, but it kinda felt awkward, and we didn't really keep in contact that often anyway, so all in all I just basically forgot about IM.

 

Funny how I'm still writing on your post when I shouldn't, I dunno what's keeping me from contacting you on this, I really don't. You also did made someone cry out once.

 

I made you cry? Sorry.

[stoopid_guy]

That's one of those things that sounds good until you're surrounded by ten teenagers armed with god knows what who get regular beatings from their alcoholic unemployed fathers and their staring you down and shouting cockney-inflected insults at you.

It doesn't just sound good, it works. Ross's mom is proof of that. No, I haven't spent much time in London, but I frequently work in DC.

[Ross_K]

Ailec, you can see where I've said the same thing to 'R' as well, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=937203#post937203

 

It ain't you, I do enjoy talking to you.

[burning 4 revenge]

It doesn't just sound good, it works. Ross's mom is proof of that. No, I haven't spent much time in London, but I frequently work in DC.

I don't know man. Thank God I live in suburban America.

 

Do you face dangerous situations in D.C.?

[stoopid_guy]

I don't know man. Thank God I live in suburban America.

 

Do you face dangerous situations in D.C.?

Well, I wouldn't wander around looking drunk or vulnerable.

 

Different areas are different too. I work in Silver Spring, MD quite often. That area's great during the day (business people and working class,) but a whole different crowd comes out at night. I live in rural VA about 90 minutes away, so when I do go I often go in mid-day and stay late for traffic.

[samsungxoxo]

plus I sorta felt like you were probably bored with me, I mean, I read your post where you were talking about dating those two guys, I was really happy for you, but I thought why would you still want me around?

 

No I wasn't Ross, when I was dating and getting to know the two guys, I still kept looking for you, you weren't there. Funny, now I'm currently in a relationship of 1 1/2 month, yet I'm still contacting you right now, I dunno why. When you stated there was nothing b/w us a long while ago, I still talked to you as my friend, my brother. I guess a got a bit off when I mention that part about making me cry, but it's true.

 

Dunno, sometime seems you'll still be on my mind, I won't forget you, even though I'm in a relationship now. I really hope life treats you good my brother (from now I'll instead refer to you as brother if you don't mind). Pm or e-mail brother, which one do you prefer??

[Ross_K]

To be honest Ailec I actually left all relationship sites, and closed my account on Okcupid and myspace, to not end up meeting anymore women since sometimes, when a woman does have something for me, or there ends up being a bit of a 'thing' between me and a woman, it sometimes makes me feel a lot worse because I can't do anything about it. They always live thousands of miles away.

 

What does b/w mean?

 

Pm or e-mail brother, which one do you prefer??

 

Why don't you surprise me?

[Ross_K]

Tell you what, talk to me in PM, I prefer that over email. Email feels like there's a lot more distance between you and the other person.

 

Anyway, speak to you soon.

[quietintrovertgirl]

Ross,

What just happen between me,you ,Ailec and other online women is a learning experience for you because I keep seeing the same pattern.Ross this has to stop.You should be lucky Ailec is giving you another chance to redeem yourself because i can't do it anymore.My friendship wants and need can't be meet by you as long as you're unhealthy and hanging around the people on the involuntary celibate group. The people on the incel group are F***k up and making you keep this unhealthy lifestyle.

I rather you post on Love Shack and other Boards so you can see the real world not the fantasy world Captain,Bella,Lori,shadow,Soltiaire,Joy and some of the other F**k up incel people has created for you.

Ross we're going on 2 years now and nothing has change for you.You don't have offline support but you do have online support.Why haven't you maded one change yet.One.There are people with SA who date and have some type of job.How about a telecommute job or a home business job?It's time for step one.

[Ross_K]

'R', I've basically left the involuntary celibacy board, because there's stuff on there that makes me feel worse.

[Guest]

First, get some therapy. Gettng therapy doesn't mean it's your fault or that you are doing something wrong. It can help you cope.

 

And consider moving. There are places where the culture is hostile and violent and alienated people strike out because of their own misery. My cousin's boyfriend used to get challenged to fight every time they went to a bar. He's a big guy. He's gentle but not an easy target either. Still, for some reason, there were a lot of drunken bullies in the area they lived (somewhere in London). Doesn't happen where they live now. Maybe he's changed but I do think there are some places where it is OK to bully. You see it in schools too. One school kids are mean and bully and in another they don't--even in same socio-economic situation.