Too many I Love You's????

Cursing and yelling to your mother in a way is normal,

Maybe for you.. but you have an self proclaimed anger problem.

I think most people don't scream and yell at their parents and call them names

Maybe for you.. but you have an self proclaimed anger problem

Which I'm fully aware of. I have yelled at my dad at times as well too. Actually I have been thinking of going to a psychology department, which is in my campus and well I'm majoring in psychology so it's no trouble. Only dunno how much it cost, hope it isn't too expensive. The most horrible thing I did say once was not only called her a b**** but telling her to die. But yea, I can be like a bomb that explodes fi my buttons are pushed too far and so I'm gonna seek help.

I'm 32 and live with my sister. I still have to ask my folks for money often. I just got my financial aid letter and will be getting $5000 for the semester and that's going to dissapear to cover my debts. I never get an oil change on time. I'm a terrible shag. I'm losing my hair.....should I go on?

That definatley doesn't seem like a loser to me anyway.

Seriously art critic, it is normal, all kids to people in their late teens argue with their mothers.

Maybe for you.. but you have an self proclaimed anger problem.

 

I think most people don't scream and yell at their parents and call them names

My 65 year old father would fracture a wall with my face if I called my mother a bitch.

My 65 year old father would fracture a wall with my face if I called my mother a bitch.

Which in turn really teaches you nothing about respect, but fear.

Which in turn really teaches you nothing about respect, but fear.

Fear is respect. Besides I respect the fact that he would stick up for his wife.

And I would never say that to my mother anyway, ever. She's my best friend in the world.

Sorry about the hijack LRB. This guy seems needy. maybe you just need a bit of a break, not a full cessation of the relationship. If you handle it properly and he goes off the deep end then you know he wasn't for you.

And AIlec I know you're Peruvian and I'm Cuban, so what kind of Spanish girl disrespects her own mother that way?

Actually there is a difference in the following statements I about to make, examples based on what these children say:

1) Oh I do not nor hit my little sister nor steal or talk back b/c daddy would spank the hell out of me (out of fear)

2) Oh I do not hit my little sister nor steal or talk back b/c it's morally wrong, I love my family, I can't picture my self doing that (out of morality and values, thus total respect)

In the first example the moment the positive punishment (reinforcer) is gone, you just go back to your previous behavior, the amount of times does decrease but it doesn't completely go away. In the second the reinforcer is always there.

Seriously art critic, it is normal, all kids to people in their late teens argue with their mothers.

Ahhhhhh.... you're 30 .... and the other poster is 19.. not kids..

And I'll wager that fewer that 5% of teens have called their Mom a bitch and lived... unless at that time they were thrown out of the house for good..

young teens I can see...sometimes that can fall into the testing the boundaries and limits.. but it needs to get under control.. that is where the parenting kicks in and the parent parents..

Ross,

I've known you for 2 years and i can say that your relationship with your mom.It's effecting your relationship with women because I think our "friendship" died because of it.

LRB, it's all about your feelings and how you perceive this guy. Not about how people here see him.

By the way, the type of guy who can't live with his mother, but can't live without her either is the mamma's boy type, believe me. The arguments he has with her every 5 minutes are also a proof for this. His mom may act nicely in front of you, but they are both pathologically connected and it's not healthy. I bet you, she bugs the crap out of him about everything on a daily basis. My dad is a mamma's boy and he knows it. His mother, my grandma whom I love very much, is 86 and half dead. He lives next door and does everything in her house now that she can barely go to the bathroom without help. She still tells him how to do things, such as how to put the leftover in a pot, which pot to choose, where to put the dirty pot, how to wash it, where to store the other meal... you get the picture. His heart is breaking that she is dying and he has to waste his time on such things with her. I told her to stop, that it really doesn't matter anymore, that he is a 62-year old single guy and knows all about living alone, he is severely depressed, and it really isn't f*cking important how he does the dishes, it won't make him any happier. She told me that she is trying to teach him the things he needs to know. She thinks she is doping a good deed and is completely oblivious to the fact that she is destroying the little will he has left for living. At the end of her life, she thinks it's extremely important where he will transfer the macaroni and which sponge he will use for washing the blue pot. If it weren't tragic, it would've been hilarious.

My husband is pathologically related to his twin brother. They can't live without each other. They live next door, they work together, they do everything together, they drive the same car model, they have coffee and breakfast together every single day. His brother hates me and ignores me, hates hubby's ex-wife, hubby hates his brother's wife. Nobody is good enough for their brother and they are perfect for each other. They are like a husband and wife... Same with mamma's boys.

Run for the hills from any guy who keeps in regular (daily) touch with any member of his family. In such a relationship, there is no room for a woman... another woman.

My husband is pathologically related to his twin brother. They can't live without each other. They live next door, they work together, they do everything together, they drive the same car model, they have coffee and breakfast together every single day.

that's sort of strange...even for twins. which brother dominates?

that's sort of strange...even for twins. which brother dominates?

Mine is the husband and the brother is the wife. This occurred to me last night for the first time. They are very different though.

His brother is also his wife's puppy. I think they would be happier if they lived together. On the other hand, they do have a need for women as partners. But the closeness they share interferes with the closeness they are supposed to have with their wives.

I think his brother is jealous of me. He used to call every Sunday morning and think of a zillion excuses to drag hubby away from our bed until I called him and told him to stop. He seemed very disturbed by me telling him that maybe we want to make love on Sunday morning and that we are passionate about each other. I think he wishes that his brother is passionate only for him. Sick... Sick!

Of course, if you asked my husband about this, he'd tell ya that I am full of it, that I am paranoid and jump into wrong conclusions. But how do you call it when two people have spent 50 years together and have to see each other every single day? My husband told me that he would rather have coffee with his brother than with me. I told him I'd rather have sex with someone else than with him in that case. What's the difference?

gawd RP practically everything you were saying i could glimses of in his relationship with his mom.

Thanks Guys !! Ya'll are the bestest friends a gal could have! :love:

ummm.... but i am sooo passive..... i hate "talking" to people.....

i hate "talking" to people.....

that has been made quite apparent LRB...

that has been made quite apparent LRB...

i am typing....plus i am virtually anonymos

If only you could put some people on your "ignore" list in real life. But, then, I guess they could too.

If only you could put some people on your "ignore" list in real life. But, then, I guess they could too.

I can think of an ex that has me on their ignore list... I wonder if it is like LS's list where you can still read the post ?

I can think of an ex that has me on their ignore list... I wonder if it is like LS's list where you can still read the post ?

How does that work? Is my post somewhat faded?

Sorry, laRubiaBonita...but now that you're sorted we need to move on to more pressing issues.

LRB, you're not in love with him or you would know so there is no point in marrying him. He doesn't seem to be even close to making you fall in love with him. It's up to you whether you will stay in a relationship that basically has no perspective or move on.

Very good post. If you ever have to ask if you are in love with someone, or if they are the right one for you, then the answer is always "no"! When you are really in love, and with the right person, you'd have no doubt and wouldn't even dream of questioning it.

Ahhhhhh.... you're 30 .... and the other poster is 19.. not kids..

I never said that I still do it now, and 19 is someone in their late teens.

Ross,

I've known you for 2 years and i can say that your relationship with your mom.It's effecting your relationship with women because I think our "friendship" died because of it.

Our friendship died because of you, you're the one that starts arguing with me and you're the one that has stopped emailing me.

Sure, I was the one to stop talking on IM, but I explained to you that I don't really enjoy using IM with anyone anymore, I'd rather just talk in PM, email or on message boards.

sooo.... i have decided to write him a letter, telling him my woories, concerns, fears and perceptions.

i am sure there will a few drafts, and i will throw the first up here when i have it composed.

thank ya'll for your insights!

Our friendship died because of you, you're the one that starts arguing with me and you're the one that has stopped emailing me.

 

Sure, I was the one to stop talking on IM, but I explained to you that I don't really enjoy using IM with anyone anymore, I'd rather just talk in PM, email or on message boards.

Ross,

Friendship needs loyality,support,communication and commitment. I never got those things from you fully and that's why i needed a break from you. My wants and needs wasn't being met by you so i'm taking abreeakfrom you.

I think your relationship with women has something to do with your mom.

i am sure there will a few drafts, and i will throw the first up here when i have it composed.

Do us all a favour and leave out all the soppy stuff. Please.

Don't you think that this sort of thing should be for his eyes only? I know we're collectively the relationship guru...but believe it or not there are some problems that even we can't solve.

Advice can be extremely helpful in gaining insight, and hence valuable...and naturally I give everyone the benefit of my wisdom as a community service - not because they're too dumb to manage their own futures.

You're the one who knows him best - too many cooks spoil the broth.

Do us all a favour and leave out all the soppy stuff. Please.

 

Don't you think that this sort of thing should be for his eyes only? I know we're collectively the relationship guru...but believe it or not there are some problems that even we can't solve.

 

Advice can be extremely helpful in gaining insight, and hence valuable...and naturally I give everyone the benefit of my wisdom as a community service - not because they're too dumb to manage their own futures.

 

You're the one who knows him best - too many cooks spoil the broth.

i can be brash and too blunt.... plus for grammer too.... helloooo??? have you seen some of my fragmented Sentences?! :lmao: