This is weird to me

[E in N]

5 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

I'm guessing you two are late teens/early twenties based on the interaction you described with her parents.

 

Oh, we're much older than that. 

[Sony12]

Oh ok well if she is much older then that and does invite guys back to her place, share alcohol with them, and bed them within the original couple dates then she probably has formed a habit of doing it. Nothing at all wrong with it as it's what I do but if that's not what you are looking for then it's probably best for you to end things with her.

[E in N]

5 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Oh ok well if she is much older then that and does invite guys back to her place, share alcohol with them, and bed them within the original couple dates then she probably has formed a habit of doing it. Nothing at all wrong with it as it's what I do but if that's not what you are looking for then it's probably best for you to end things with her.

I prefer not to sleep with a girl until we get to know each other. 

Also, having sex with her was not very satisfying for me. 

[Sony12]

10 minutes ago, E in N said:

I prefer not to sleep with a girl until we get to know each other. 

Also, having sex with her was not very satisfying for me. 

Ok well to be honest then if you didn't enjoy the sex and she has already told you that she just wants friendship then there really is little point for you to even go over to her place this weekend. People should only have casual sex with each other if they have a lot sexual chemistry with one another. If you didn't have a good time with her in the bedroom (and chances are she feels the same way about the encounter) then you two clearly don't have a lot of sexual chemistry.

The first time having sex is usually a lot of fun for two people with sexual chemistry as they both enjoy doing a lot of the same things in the bedroom.

[E in N]

29 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Ok well to be honest then if you didn't enjoy the sex and she has already told you that she just wants friendship then there really is little point for you to even go over to her place this weekend. People should only have casual sex with each other if they have a lot sexual chemistry with one another. If you didn't have a good time with her in the bedroom (and chances are she feels the same way about the encounter) then you two clearly don't have a lot of sexual chemistry.

The first time having sex is usually a lot of fun for two people with sexual chemistry as they both enjoy doing a lot of the same things in the bedroom.

I can't disagree with you.

How would you handle this?

Call her, text her, just not show up?

 

Edited 2 hours ago by E in N

[Sony12]

You two have only been on two dates so far and you guys having sex was just as much her idea as it was yours as if she was opposed to that type of behavior she wouldn't have invited you over to her place and drank alcohol with you in the first place.

A simple text at this point saying that you had fun but you don't feel like you two are looking for the same thing would still be fine.

[E in N]

4 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

You two have only been on two dates so far and you guys having sex was just as much her idea as it was yours as if she was opposed to that type of behavior she wouldn't have invited you over to her place and drank alcohol with you in the first place.

A simple text at this point saying that you had fun but you don't feel like you two are looking for the same thing would still be fine.

Thanks for the advice.

And to all who have chimed in here.

I enjoy this forum and I'm going to stick around.