This is weird to me

[E in N]

I recently met a girl and our first date went very well (at least I think so)

For our second date she invited me back to her place. We decided to pick up some to-go food and a 12 pack of beer.

After dinner, her father and stepmother did a facetime call with her and she asked me to chat with them. About 5 minutes if not less her father asked me to come down to their family Thanksgiving dinner in November.

Again, weird to me. This is our second date and I'm already being invited for Thanksgiving?

 

 

 

 

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, E in N said:

I recently met a girl and our first date went very well (at least I think so)

For our second date she invited me back to her place. We decided to pick up some to-go food and a 12 pack of beer.

After dinner, her father and stepmother did a facetime call with her and she asked me to chat with them. About 5 minutes if not less her father asked me to come down to their family Thanksgiving dinner in November.

Again, weird to me. This is our second date and I'm already being invited for Thanksgiving?

 

 

 

 

It is a little weird but some families do stuff like that. It at the very least likely shows she has a nice family (unless they are a group of serial killers.....joking). If she does sleep around her family is probably not aware of it and it shows she at least likes you enough to introduce you to her folks.

Doesn't in anyway mean you have to accept the invitation and she might not be big on the idea of you going either. But it at least shows she has a nice family.

[ExpatInItaly]

I find it strange as well. 

You don't know them and they don't know you. They don't know who they are inviting to their family gathering. You are likely a good guy but they could just as well be inviting the next Ted Bundy into their homes. The point is, they are showing a lack of discretion and so is this woman. 

I personally tread with caution around people who have flimsy boundaries so early on. 

[Sony12]

Did you two end up having sex on that second date? If you continue to get together with her I would watch what you tell her because if she was willing to introduce you to her folks chances are she will be talking about you to them.

Edited 18 hours ago by Sony12

[Sanch62]

Sounds like her dad was trying to signal to daughter that he would welcome her to bring a partner when she visits them. They probably really miss their daughter and want to encourage more time with her, so dad went a bit overboard.

[lemonicetea]

I think that’s kind of strange too but I think they probably mean well. Like I think the parents are just trying to be welcoming. In any event I think I would proceed with caution around people you don’t know well. Even though it’s probably innocent the lack of boundaries can be a red flag.