I don't know what to do in my relationship

[unsureguy99]

2 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Those good qualities are coming at a serious price to your mental health and emotional well-being, OP. 

You're not expecting too much of this woman. She sounds very unstable and takes it out on you. I am wondering, have you had a girlfriend before? 

Only a short relationshop when i was 20 years old.

I was lonely for a very long time.

[Sanch62]

11 hours ago, unsureguy99 said:

I'm not sure but she is serious 

She gets really dysregulated sometimes 

It may be manipulative but not deliberate 

But she's under pressure to get married 

Her family are super traditional 

 

I'm scared of leaving her shed be 29 and unmarried nearly 30?

 

I feel really bad 

None of this is your issue to resolve. Either she’s a grown adult capable of seeking the professional help she needs, or she’s not even qualified to marry and manage childbearing and child raising. So it would be irresponsible to insert yourself into such an untenable situation.

Often doing the right thing is the most difficult thing, but it’s right for good reason. Emotions are not facts. We’re allowed to feel lousy about doing difficult things. It’s counterproductive to compound the problem by talking yourself into feeling even worse about doing the right thing.