Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 3 Author Posted July 3 3 hours ago, Sanch62 said: So you have met the friend when asked to help with something? Did GF introduce the two of you by name, or were you left to introduce yourself? Friendship Is it possible that the two women were or are lovers? As for daughter, we don’t know whether she brought her own life issues to her mother and isn’t in a state to meet you at this time. That may not be about you, but rather the daughter herself. Have you introduced GF to anyone significant in your life? Yes, I did introduce her to both my ex and my son. I finally did meet the roommate after 1 year to help her with her car and then again to help her with moving about a month ago. Lol, it did occur to me that there was something going on between them but apparently there was not.
Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 3 Author Posted July 3 35 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Surely this didn't just dawn on you now? She does not have a lot of family and close friends here. Her daughters live all around the country and she only really has one friend here and a sister she is not that close with.
Sony12 Posted July 3 Posted July 3 In anycase the ball is really in her court to continue things. While it is odd that people would suddenly start flaking after a year and a half it does happen. Often times its a situation that the individual felt things were becoming more serious then they were comfortable with and instead of just breaking things off they find it easier to just start to disappear. A lot of people find it difficult to reject people so poofing is there way of telling the individual without actually having to tell them. Is it a mature way? No. But it is a way that is much easier for an individual who doesn't do well handling conflict. Chances are things lasted longer then she probably ever intended for it to last and with her now having some changes in her life such as getting a new house now is likely the right time in her mind to end things (if she intended to). You are a divorcee while she is a widow. You two were approaching this dating relationship from entirely different angles. Unless her relationship with her dead spouse was basically over already it would have been much more difficult for her to move on then it would have been for you as someone who got divorced. She likely enjoys your company and probably enjoys having sex with you if you two have been dating for a year and a half. However just going on dates and giving another guy a blowjob doesn't force her to replace her late spouse with you. Actually turning you into a serious relationship and choosing to move in with you would. And that might just be something that she is not ready for yet and perhaps never will be. Many of the widows I have gotten involved with have said that it took them years just to become comfortable going to bed with another man. Let alone getting serious with one. If you are looking for a potential serious relationship I would honestly avoid dating widows if I were you and just stick with divorcees who went through a similar end to their previous relationship that you did. Widows usually have more baggage when it comes to moving on to the next relationship then divorcees do. 1
Alpacalia Posted July 3 Posted July 3 Yeah, whatever the reason ends up being, ghosting you like this (especially over your birthday) is pretty cold. I can understand someone not being ready to introduce a partner to their adult child, or even wanting to take things slowly after being widowed. But after 19 months together, discussing moving in, and you being there for her through a difficult time, simply disappearing, I'd be floored! 1
Gebidozo Posted July 4 Posted July 4 Her daughter refusing to meet you is not the problem. She has the right to refuse to meet you for whatever reason. The problem is your girlfriend ghosting you and her strange decision to hide you from her roommate. She might be keeping some important secrets from you, because I can’t see any logical reason to hide someone you’ve been dating for a year and a half from someone you’re living with. 1
Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 4 Author Posted July 4 2 hours ago, Gebidozo said: Her daughter refusing to meet you is not the problem. She has the right to refuse to meet you for whatever reason. The problem is your girlfriend ghosting you and her strange decision to hide you from her roommate. She might be keeping some important secrets from you, because I can’t see any logical reason to hide someone you’ve been dating for a year and a half from someone you’re living with. Onlinedating course Looking back, there are a number of strange things that just don't quite add up, so you're probably right.
Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 5 Author Posted July 5 Update. So, her daughter was supposed to leave yesterday, so I sent a text and called. No reply so left a voicemail saying that I don't understand why she felt she needed to end things this way but I love her and good luck
Sony12 Posted July 8 Posted July 8 This kind of thing happens more often then you realize. It's easier for people to just disappear then to have to face someone and officially break up with them. 1
Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 9 Author Posted July 9 Well, I got my cold, hard answer this morning. She came by my work to say goodbye to OTHER people(we used to be coworkers) and just so happened I ran into her on the way out. She told me she is up and leaving town with her daughter and just figured it would be easier to not tell me anything. well, shows what that was worth...
Sony12 Posted July 9 Posted July 9 8 minutes ago, Foolforlove82 said: Well, I got my cold, hard answer this morning. She came by my work to say goodbye to OTHER people(we used to be coworkers) and just so happened I ran into her on the way out. She told me she is up and leaving town with her daughter and just figured it would be easier to not tell me anything. well, shows what that was worth... Didn't you say she just got her own place? Is she not good with money?
Author Foolforlove82 Posted July 9 Author Posted July 9 2 minutes ago, Sony12 said: Didn't you say she just got her own place? Is she not good with money? No she's not, but she had some stock and 401k she cashed out, so I imagine she paid whatever to break the lease
Sony12 Posted July 9 Posted July 9 Hope the daughter is prepared to have Mom living with her/close to her for quite awhile. Doesn't sound like she is ready to spend much time alone yet if she is leaving with her kid so soon after finally getting a place of her own. 1
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