Always the dumpee. What am I doing wrong?

[Gebidozo]

9 hours ago, Smallturtle26 said:

Gosh this makes me so sad. I care so much. How do I make peace with the fact I lost who I wanted to spend forever with

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You can’t lose a person (unless it’s to death) - if they dumped us it means they weren’t our soulmates to begin with.

I think you should focus on finding more mature and compatible partners, not on blaming yourself and trying to change yourself, change your habits, fit and squeeze your behavior into every relationship with a demanding, insecure, and clingy partner.

My partner also has an avoidant attachment style, while I’m anxious. Yes, it is not always easy, but it doesn’t mean it can’t work. After some misunderstandings and doubts I began to notice that she cares for me very much in her way, it’s just that we express our feelings differently. I know she needs some time for herself and it doesn’t bother me anymore. Being bothered by that was sign of my own insecurity, not something she had to change.