d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2018 Posted October 30, 2018 Talk normal to her. Then just ask her if she'd like to have dinner with you. Save the declarations. 1
Author Tagalz Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 Talk normal to her. Then just ask her if she'd like to have dinner with you. Save the declarations. Why save the declaration? By telling her that I like her is a good way to let her know that I’m interested. I just hope that she would not look after a another guy cause she might think right now that I’m not interested in her after I saw her teasing as cuddling....
Author Tagalz Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 Also I would say thanks alot d0nnivain this time I will not screw things up. Just hoping for the best
MaleIntuition Posted October 30, 2018 Posted October 30, 2018 Earlier you said that you already where dating, I kind of think you don’t really know what that means? Being on a date with someone is not the same as simply “hanging”. Even mature girls keeps getting confused when guys aren’t clear about their intentions.
d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2018 Posted October 30, 2018 If you are already dating she knows you like her. You should tell somebody you ARE dating how you feel about them. If you are not dating -- and here you are not -- when you ask somebody on a date, that implies you like them. No declaration needed.
Author Tagalz Posted October 30, 2018 Author Posted October 30, 2018 Talk normal to her. Then just ask her if she'd like to have dinner with you. Save the declarations. Sure I will let you know how it goes (: She will visit me this week.
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 If you are already dating she knows you like her. You should tell somebody you ARE dating how you feel about them. Yeah sorry for that it's more of that I'm hanging out with her. I think it is about time that I ask her out on a date because now I feel anxious. She will attend a halloween horror house with her friends. Why I'm anxious? Since she had slept with that guy from school a long time ago, and few days she tried it with me and now she might hook up with a guy from the horror house. She will hook up more guys with me knowing it or not and I don't want her to do that.. just to stay loyal. Just the thought off her possible hooking up again hurts like hell. That is why I'm anxious right now....
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Alas this is what happens when you put somebody on a pedestal. You think she's this sweet innocent 17 year old who is pure & naïve. You have been waiting until she turned 18 & you have this whole romantic fantasy built up in your head. Instead she's a bit of an experienced wild child who wants to live life to the fullest & is off having adventures with other boys. At 22 you are emotionally, intellectually & maturity wise on the same page as this 17 year old. I fear she will outpace you rather quickly. Ask her on a date soon. Do not think that the hanging out you have been doing was dating. It was not. It was hanging out. She may not even be interested in dating you but her behavior at the recent party that you were late to, when she called you & asked you to come rescue her from her EX, indicates some interest. If she does agree to the date, fasten your seatbelt. I have a feeling you are in for a ride you don't expect. But be cautious. Despite your reverence for her, I don't think she's the excusive faithful type who wants a committed relationship right now. She's too busy having fun at all these parties. At 17/18 she is too young to be tied down. 1
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) Alas this is what happens when you put somebody on a pedestal. You think she's this sweet innocent 17 year old who is pure & naïve. You have been waiting until she turned 18 & you have this whole romantic fantasy built up in your head. Instead she's a bit of an experienced wild child who wants to live life to the fullest & is off having adventures with other boys. Ask her on a date soon. If she does agree to the date, fasten your seatbelt. I have a feeling you are in for a ride you don't expect. But be cautious. Despite your reverence for her, I don't think she's the excusive faithful type who wants a committed relationship right now. She's too busy having fun at all these parties. At 17/18 she is too young to be tied down. Sorry my English is not so good, but what does pedestal and reverence mean? Cautious of what? she being with other guys on parties while we are dating? Yeah not only is she experienced wild child who likes to have adventures with boys and the worst thing is that I can't do anything with it. So she can hook up with as many guys as she likes with me knowing it and I can do nothing just because I'm not her BF I will ask her, but it might take a lot of dates before she wants to be tied down. I don't think she goes a lot to parties though... she rarely mention it and since I knew her she has been to 2 parties. She might attend more parties now that she will be 18. Edited October 31, 2018 by Tagalz
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 "putting her on a pedestal" means thinking more highly of her then she deserves. You look at her through eyes of love but not necessarily the reality of the situation. She's not perfect. She is a flawed human being like everybody else. Be careful not to idolize or worship her or you will be disappointed because she is not as saintly as you want her to be. "reverence" means awe, profound honor or respect Ask her out. See what happens. But do recognize that she might not want a steady BF.
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) "putting her on a pedestal" means thinking more highly of her then she deserves. You look at her through eyes of love but not necessarily the reality of the situation. She's not perfect. She is a flawed human being like everybody else. Be careful not to idolize or worship her or you will be disappointed because she is not as saintly as you want her to be. "reverence" means awe, profound honor or respect Ask her out. See what happens. But do recognize that she might not want a steady BF. Yeah that is true I think too highly of her. Her friend that hosted the party is 18 and are with a asian guy. They go to parties together so I could do the same with her when she is 18 meaning like I allow her to go to parties, but with me or if not with then she has to promise not to hook up. It could also be me overthinking because at this point I'm not sure who she's going with at that event. And she also need time with her friend, I cannot always be there. One thing I know for sure is that it's more likely she will attend more parties and with parties you meet a lot of new guys Edited October 31, 2018 by Tagalz
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Yeah that is true I think too highly of her. Her friend that hosted the party is 18 and are with a asian guy. They go to parties together so I could do the same with her when she is 18 meaning like I allow her to go to parties, but with me or if not with then she has to promise not to hook up. Oh boy. "Allow" is a bad word in modern relationship. You want to be her BF. You are not her father or her jailer. You have no control over what she does & she doesn't need your permission to go out without you. That said, if you two are in a committed exclusive relationship because you two talked & she agreed to that, she should not be hooking up with others when she goes out. If she does hook up with others after agreeing to be your GF & only be with you, that would be cheating. I suspect she's not ready for that level of commitment & she's too busy having fun. The only way to find out is to ask her on a date. On the date, give her a kiss. After the date, talk to her about your expectations & having a relationship. 1
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) On the date, give her a kiss. After the date, talk to her about your expectations & having a relationship. The only way I could talk about having a relationship is when we are walking home. It's awkward having that type of conversations on the buss or in the train. You see because in Oslo most of the people tries to avoid eye contact. So when we are talking about that most people would look at us like we are presenting something hahah. That makes me uncomfortable because I'm talking to her and not them Is it not too soon to talk about expectations? If I say I want a relationship and her to be loyal it could scare her Edited October 31, 2018 by Tagalz
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) Why save the declaration? By telling her that I like her is a good way to let her know that I’m interested. I just hope that she would not look after a another guy cause she might think right now that I’m not interested in her after I saw her teasing as cuddling.... lol, ever since she entered puberty she's had lots of guys chasing after her, trying to get with her. You don't need to spell, ''girl I want to sleep with you/date you'' for girls to realize what you want from them, there is no need to spell it or write about it Every girl from every culture even if their parents didn't talk about it know what guys want from her. Just take her out on a date if she's legal, and then go from there. er friend that hosted the party is 18 and are with a asian guy. They go to parties together so I could do the same with her when she is 18 meaning like I allow her to go to parties, but with me or if not with then she has to promise not to hook up.Eh, listen. This isn't a patriarchal society, especially not in the Scandinavian nations. We don't ''allow'' women to do something, and we don't ''forbid'' women from doing what they want to do, say, feel, or take part of. And that's how it should be. This girl is 18. She's in the prime of her life, with those years(18-22) being the years when she's at her most beautiful and at her most fit level, naturally. She might want a relationship with you, a committed, exclusive relationship. But what's more likely for her to want is to have the freedom to date several guys, hook-up with guys, and to just enjoy her youth. So don't get emotionally attached to her. A five years difference is not much. When she's 25 and he's 30.. or when she's 30 and he's 35. But when the girl is 18 and the guy is 22.. they're going to have different goals and desires. Edited October 31, 2018 by sabaton 2
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) Just take her out on a date if she's legal, and then go from there. She might want a relationship with you, a committed, exclusive relationship. But what's more likely for her to want is to have the freedom to date several guys, hook-up with guys, and to just enjoy her youth. She will most likely not want a relationship. She as you said is in her best age and she wants to get wild and have fun. However it is worth a try. Yeah she will visit me this weekend, so this could be my chance to ask her out. Right now she is ignoring my snaps or is just sending "Nice" to whatever I send her. This could be a bad sign... and it does not surprise me... because she thinks I'm not interested Edited October 31, 2018 by Tagalz
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 She will most likely not want a relationship. She as you said is in her best age and she wants to get wild and have fun. However it is worth a try. There you go, bro. I think I told you in this same thread or another that if she hangs out with guys she hooked up with, knowing that there's a guy romantically interested in her(not just interested in sleeping with her) who is going to be around her former fling, she lets those two guys be together in the same place because she's not all that interested in having an exclusive relationship with the guy. Girls usually don't want their ex-boyfriends or their ex-hookups to be in the same, close proximity to the men they are very interested in dating. Yeah she will visit me this weekend, so this could be my chance to ask her out. Have you ever considered that maybe she just wants to sleep with you and that she doesn't want to go out on a date, but actually have sex, and now that she's of legal age she's going to expect you to try to sleep with her. Right now she is ignoring my snaps or is just sending "Nice" to whatever I send her. This could be a bad sign... She's ignoring your snaps, and she's sending passive-aggressive short, generic and repetitive replies to your snaps because she's probably talking to other guys she's more interested in. When a girl is into a guy, the quicker she replies to his texts, the more material those texts have in them, and the more flirty/emotional she is with the guy. Someone who really wants you doesn't ignore you or replies with ''Nice'' while you do the majority of the work. 2
Gaeta Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Tad: Here's the thing, she likes you but is not 'that' into you but because you're very infatuated with this girl you will have to make a move and take a chance. This weekend you ask her to be your girlfriend. She will probably declined, she's just a young girl wanting to have fun and live life. It won't be the end of the world you'll survive and most importantly you will have your answer and you'll be able to move on. It would be a good idea you spend time with young women your age, you'll have much more success connecting with them. Good luck. 2
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 (edited) Have you ever considered that maybe she just wants to sleep with you and that she doesn't want to go out on a date, but actually have sex, and now that she's of legal age she's going to expect you to try to sleep with her. She's ignoring your snaps, and she's sending passive-aggressive short, generic and repetitive replies to your snaps because she's probably talking to other guys she's more interested in. When a girl is into a guy, the quicker she replies to his texts, the more material those texts have in them, and the more flirty/emotional she is with the guy. Someone who really wants you doesn't ignore you or replies with ''Nice'' while you do the majority of the work. She is ignoring my snaps because she either is busy or she isn’t interested and all that is my fault just because I didn’t have sex with her the other day. Also I have my reasons. There was a guy sleeping to the left so It would have been even more awkward than it was Yeah I have consider it but I take it as it comes. If she wants I’ll do it but the most important thing is to ask her out. Edited October 31, 2018 by Tagalz
Normm Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 all that is my fault just because I didn’t have sex with her the other day. That's not it. Also I have my reasons. There was a guy sleeping to the left so It would have been even more awkward than it was You could have f%$ked her quietly.
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 That's not it. You could have f%$ked her quietly. Then what more? That I got emotionally attached? Yeah it’s too late know the days have gone by
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 Here's the thing, she likes you but is not 'that' into you but because you're very infatuated with this girl you will have to make a move and take a chance. Yes. He seems to be attracted to her a lot more than she is attracted to him. If she was really into you, she'd be making all sorts of moves on you, OP. She might go out on a date with you but that is no guarantee she wants from you want you want from her, but there's no harm in trying your luck.
Author Tagalz Posted October 31, 2018 Author Posted October 31, 2018 She might go out on a date with you but that is no guarantee she wants from you want you want from her, but there's no harm in trying your luck. She could talk and say what she wants from me
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 She could talk and say what she wants from me . 1 - she's 18. She has the entire world at her feet. 2- Every man who is going to come across her is going to be sexually attracted to her. 3- she has endless options with men. 4- Unless she belongs to a more sexually forward female culture like say, Southern European women, she doesn't have to put in any of the work. 5- she doesn't feel feminine if you act in a shy manner and go about getting what you want(sex/her to become your girlfriend) like you are intimidated by her and afraid of rejection.
Normm Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 2- Every man who is going to come across her is going to be sexually attracted to her. On the other hand any man who is sexually attracted to her is going to want to come across her. 1
sabaton Posted October 31, 2018 Posted October 31, 2018 On the other hand any man who is sexually attracted to her is going to want to come across her. I don't understand what you mean? Do you mean to say that every guy who is sexually attracted to her is going to want to meet her? Well, sure. But there's tons of attractive teenager girls around, even if a guy doesn't come across that particular girl, there's still lots more for him to meet.
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