Amethyst68 Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 Having had a quick look through the OP's earlier threads getBS why do I the sickening feeling this pregnancy is just another way to get a strike against the BS? Is there a reason you can't find a single man to settle down with? To give your children the stability they need. There is no way all this drama can be good for them no matter how much you seem to thrive on it. No need to say it again, I know YOU DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK but ever think about what your kids may feel in the future when they realise their siblings are also their cousins? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Maraud3r Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 You have my deepest sympathy. Why though? I mostly feel bad for the kids. She has serial relationships with MM. In this case two brothers and had several children with either of them. She got into this willingly and knowingly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 op, I'm beginning to suspect that these pregnancies are no accident. Either you planned to get pregnant or you were incredibly negligent. Why? Why are you purposely creating children in this situation? Why are you having affairs with married men and getting pregnant? Do you not care that they may have to go through a lot of difficulties because of they are both cousins and brothers? I think I know the answer, and that you posted this in the "infidelity" section as a single woman sleeping with married men is very telling. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I don't think a lack of BC knowledge is the issue here. The OP seems to see getting pregnant by these guys as a strategy, though what the end game might be only she could tell. I have to wonder where the various wives are in this complex equation... Mr. Lucky I know. I was being somewhat sarcastic... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 (edited) there only 2 fathers and they are brothers. i dont care what people think What about what your kids think? How are they supposed to explain to their friends that they are simultaneously step siblings & cousins? Why would you intentionally make your children's lives more difficult by not caring about them? Edited September 20, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3 Link to post Share on other sites
NotCamelot Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 Ok, I can't help but think, for at least two years he has proved that you are not his priority. So, why would you continue with him and take the risks of getting pregnant by him again? Does his W know? Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 Your relationships are what your children are going to accept as their normal, is that what you want for them? You are the one that will have to explain all of this to them one day. It will take a special man to take on all of your baggage. I hope you find a man that only wants to be with you. I think you've wasted enough of your life being the part time entertainment for a couple of brothers. I hope it all works out for you and your children. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyLibertyBelle Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I have to say I find this astonishing. Why have you done this again? You have been in so much pain for so long and now these poor children. Are there no other men in your area? This is so toxic for all concerned. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I’m still stuck on the awkward holidays thing. I mean how’s that going to work? “Would the father of my second 2 children please pass the stuffing?” 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BTDT2012 Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 What is your objective here? Do you think another child will make his wife leave him? Link to post Share on other sites
jah526 Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I dunno, but I'm getting a sense of desperation here, like the OP has just given up and is letting these men do whatever they feel like to her. I was at that point just before I hit my breaking point and began to pull myself out of it. OP, is there somewhere you could go where you never have to be around these men? Family somewhere else? You must know that this is an extremely sick and messed up situation you are in. If you really value your kids, you will do what is best for them. Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I dunno, but I'm getting a sense of desperation here, like the OP has just given up and is letting these men do whatever they feel like to her. I was at that point just before I hit my breaking point and began to pull myself out of it. OP, is there somewhere you could go where you never have to be around these men? Family somewhere else? You must know that this is an extremely sick and messed up situation you are in. If you really value your kids, you will do what is best for them. I really think the reprehensibility for all of this lies on the shoulders of the op. She wasn't forced to have sex, she chose to. She has options to both prevent and terminate a pregnancy she doesn't want. Instead, she walked into the situation, eyes wide open. By blaming the men for her current situation, it removes any hope she has that it can change. If she takes reprehensibility for her own life, she can make any changes she needs to make to have the life she wants. As it stands right now, she has gotten herself involved with a married man again, knowing full well he isn't interested in a full time relationship with her. She made the choice to get pregnant ( I mean come on, after three kids, if she doesn't know about birth control, then she's a fool, and I don't get the sense she's a fool at all) for whatever reason, and that is on her. There are no "victims" here...except maybe the kids and BS. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mizz Layta Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 there only 2 fathers and they are brothers. i dont care what people think Did you intentionally plan on getting pregnant again with this MM? I remember reading your older threads and I thought you moved on by now to better things. Are they shortage of single men in your area?Seems like you enjoy messing with married men Link to post Share on other sites
Dis Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 i dont care what people think You don't have to care about our opinions But in order to be a good Mom, you need to care about your children... I don't get the sense that you do Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 I really think the reprehensibility for all of this lies on the shoulders of the op. She wasn't forced to have sex, she chose to. She has options to both prevent and terminate a pregnancy she doesn't want. Instead, she walked into the situation, eyes wide open. By blaming the men for her current situation, it removes any hope she has that it can change. If she takes reprehensibility for her own life, she can make any changes she needs to make to have the life she wants. As it stands right now, she has gotten herself involved with a married man again, knowing full well he isn't interested in a full time relationship with her. She made the choice to get pregnant ( I mean come on, after three kids, if she doesn't know about birth control, then she's a fool, and I don't get the sense she's a fool at all) for whatever reason, and that is on her. There are no "victims" here...except maybe the kids and BS. the bolded was supposed to be " responsibility". damned autocorrect... Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 Did you intentionally plan on getting pregnant again with this MM? I remember reading your older threads and I thought you moved on by now to better things. Are they shortage of single men in your area?Seems like you enjoy messing with married men I know i was fertile, so did he cos i told him, i wanted to make another baby. thing i dont get is why when i told his wife last time he has a son Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 You don't have to care about our opinions But in order to be a good Mom, you need to care about your children... I don't get the sense that you do I have Bpd Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 I have Bpd Do you mean bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder? Either way, I'm sorry you have mental health issues. That being said, please stop doing your best to make everyone else unhappy too. You have no right no visit your problems on anyone else, let alone soon to be four children who could really suffer because of your actions. Are you trying to make sure they end up with mental health issues too, as that is the road you're heading down? Link to post Share on other sites
imsosad Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 I know i was fertile, so did he cos i told him, i wanted to make another baby. thing i dont get is why when i told his wife last time he has a son You say you wanted another baby. Can you tell us more about why you wanted a baby now? It can't be easy being a single parent to three young kids. It also can't be easy to financially support them. Are the fatherspaying child support or taking any part in raising these children? I have four children myself, so I know the amount of effort it takes to raise a big family. Are you hoping the pregnancy will split up the MM's marriage? Or make him more committed to you? I have to say, neither sounds a likely outcome. Do you work? You say you are dealing with BPD, I'm guessing it's not bi polar, but borderline personality. Are you recieving help/counselling? I know you don't care what we think, but you do post hete, so some of the things that are being said must resonate with you to a certain extent. I think deep down you know this is mot creating a healthy environment for your children. Dealling with mental illness is not a free pass or an exvuse for poor parenting. I really hope you have support available to you where you live, because your decisions don't seem to make a lot of sense, and I fear your kids are growing up in a very confused, unstructured atmosphere, with no clear boundries or examples of positive, healthy relationship and communication. It's never too late to decide you want to do things differently. I know you have the power to choise better. Goid luck. Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted September 21, 2018 Share Posted September 21, 2018 (edited) Have you told your MM that you are pregnant? I know you don't care what people think but do you care what your children think and feel? [] I also don't think you have ever said how all these children are being supported. Who is paying the bills for these kids? [] Edited September 21, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Topical questions/content 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 Have you told your MM that you are pregnant? I know you don't care what people think but do you care what your children think and feel? [] I also don't think you have ever said how all these children are being supported. Who is paying the bills for these kids? [] yes hes happy hes going be a dad again. his wife cant have anymore kids. this is what we both wanted. he wants to have a big family to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 Ok, I can't help but think, for at least two years he has proved that you are not his priority. So, why would you continue with him and take the risks of getting pregnant by him again? Does his W know? she only know about me son. im hiding it from her, shes wont be happy if she found out about the baby. not that i care after the way she acted last year Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 Are both men paying child support? Do their respective wives know that their children have half siblings who are also cousins? yes they are Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 I guess this means she'll be getting child support payments from 3 different guys? Is this a strategy or the result of loving sex? there only 2 dads and its not a game Link to post Share on other sites
Author misspalmy Posted September 21, 2018 Author Share Posted September 21, 2018 op, I'm beginning to suspect that these pregnancies are no accident. Either you planned to get pregnant or you were incredibly negligent. Why? Why are you purposely creating children in this situation? Why are you having affairs with married men and getting pregnant? Do you not care that they may have to go through a lot of difficulties because of they are both cousins and brothers? I think I know the answer, and that you posted this in the "infidelity" section as a single woman sleeping with married men is very telling. both men brother 1 and brother 2 wanted to get me pregnant. yes they all planed. I wanted to be a mother. Link to post Share on other sites
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