Got Rejected By A Girl In My Biology Class Today

[bradt93]

Today, I got rejected by a girl today in my biology class. And yes it did sting, yes it did hurt, it makes me feel bad about myself when I get rejected.

 

But despite getting rejected, I am proud of myself for putting myself out there, I feel proud of myself for showing my interest.

 

You see, just a couple of years ago, I wasn't even able to talk to girls at all, let alone ask a girl out. I was incredibly shy, I mostly avoided women because they had hurt me in the past, I bundled up my feelings of attraction towards women.

 

That all changed when I met a girl who I had a huge crush on, and I let her walk away because I was too scared to make a move. And that's what ultimately motivated me to get better.

 

And that's when I started to get out of my comfort zone and slowly but surely, worked my way into being able to hold conversations with pretty girls. And for the first time in my life, I was actually friends with a girl.

 

I was 21 years old when I asked a girl out for the first time in my life, a girl from Tinder. She didn't respond at all, and yes it felt bad. Since then, iv'e asked out 10 girls in my life on a date, 3 of them have said yes. The first girl I went on a date with wasn't interested in me, the second girl I wasn't interested in her, the third girl I figured out we are not compatible with one another.

 

And even though I have yet to kiss a girl nor have sex, I am making progress in my dating life. Slow but steady progress.

 

I now feel like if I like a girl, I can show interest in her and then ask her out within a couple of weeks of knowing her. Sure I may get rejected, sure I may get blocked or deleted from Snapchat (iv'e had that happen to me a couple of times) sure she may think i'm a creep or weirdo, but at least now I feel comfortable enough to ask a girl out.

 

 

So even though I have been rejected, I have succeeded. Because now I know she doesn't like me, I don't have to live with the regret of never knowing what could have been.

You handled it better than I did, I would've went off on her. I've never asked a woman out in person and I never will, because that's the reason why. Also, I thought college women would've been more mature.

[normal person]

You handled it better than I did, I would've went off on her.

 

A little drastic, don't you think?

[preraph]

I think I'm turning gay right now.

[bradt93]

How dare the right girl actually want to find the right guy!

That girl probably had no reason to reject guitarguy, she did it, because he wasn't perfect. A lot of men are sick of their attitudes.

[normal person]

That girl probably had no reason to reject guitarguy, she did it, because he wasn't perfect.

 

Then why did she do it?

 

You have absolutely no way of knowing any of this.

 

A lot of men are sick of their attitudes.

 

A certain type of man who can't figure things out and then assumes it's someone else's fault or failure to see something.

[bradt93]

The dude very likely got rejected because the girl he asked out did not find him sexually attractive. This is why women generally reject men. So, do you think that women should stop rejecting men they aren't attracted to? What reason should a woman go for an unattractive guy over an attractive one? So that they can date a guy like you that is here voicing their disdain for women and their preferences? So they can date a guy that admit they will go off on a girl because they had the nerve to deny their advances?

What about me? Anyways, it doesn't matter, women shouldn't expect men to be perfect, because noone is. Also, I think I'm very attractive thank you very much and please don't insult me personally.

[bradt93]

Then why did she do it?

 

You have absolutely no way of knowing any of this.

 

 

 

A certain type of man who can't figure things out and then assumes it's someone else's fault or failure to see something.

[normal person]

 

How insightful, point taken.

[GorillaTheater]

How insightful, point taken.

 

 

The issues he may be having with dating couldn't have anything to do with him, so it has to be those damn wimmenz.

[GuitarGuy7]

Yeah well since I don't really fit the stereotype for a conventionally attractive man looks wise, (and I never will) then it's going to make sense that the majority of women won't find me sexually attractive.

 

And no it's not because i'm too big or too fat. Literally the opposite. I'm super short and skinny. And it's not like i'm going to get taller anytime soon, and despite working out 4 times a week and eating pretty good, I have a hard time putting on weight.

 

I could walk into a Louisville bar the week of the kentucky derby, tell a bunch of people i'm a horse jockey competing, and they would probably believe me. That's how small I am.

 

 

If I were born a woman, I would be perfect. Lots of guys love short skinny girls who they can pick up and throw around. But since i'm a man, dating is harder because a lot of women don't like the idea of dating a guy that is smaller than them.

 

 

And the worst thing about my situation is that I can't do anything about it.

Edited July 27, 2018 by GuitarGuy7

[Mysterio]

Michael J Fox is short and he has been married for over 20 yrs. I don't know any man that has a abundance of women, unless they are a movie/tv/rock star.

 

All my male friends never dated tons of women. The ones that have GF/Wives. They just stumbled into it. Thats it for the most part.

 

GG I think that you are a great guy and you don't have to sell yourself short to yourself. Just think of yourself as the Handsome short spectacular guy that has something to offer a great girl.

 

I think you have to think better of yourself. Keep on with your goals. Only ask out women that you have some sort of warm repore with. I think that is the key and also, each woman you ask out is for practice. Its their job to turn you into the husband/BF/FWB.

 

I think a lot of us and I am guilty of it myself. Put dating and romance and women on this big platform that can't be fulfilled. Romance/Love just comes in and out of our lives. Life is not straight for the most part. Its loppy at best.

[Juha]

LOL Just let that rejection slide off your back man. Don't be a dick towards her, just be cordial when you see her like the rejection did not bother you.

Talk to to her girls in front of her and for get her...

 

You are in college and there are so many women there don't sweat it.

Just chill out...It's all good

 

Women at that age are 100% working on physical attraction as they are very shallow.

 

Forget her and just move on and talk to a bunch of other girls...

 

I wish you luck

[Mysterio]

Most women around the age of 20, are not really capable of being very loving. I would say 30 + is the best.

 

I think that GG should and will move on to the next woman. Most of them will say no, but it all depends on how they are asked out. Some women just are not in that mindset. Also the world around us tries to shame us for being single. I would rather have it later in life. There really are no finite gaurentees anymore.

 

I think its just best to be happy with what you have in your life now. Love comes in and out of out lives anyways.

[Chris2016]

I've never slept with an average looking woman

 

Well, me neither, but some guys aren't as blessed as we are.

 

If the girl is hot to you, she's not average.

 

When I was younger I had an unrequited crush on a girl. My mind compared her to Drew Barrymore.

 

I'm much older now. I'm not blind anymore. She's nothing like Drew Barrymore, not even close, at all. She's kind of fugly really.

 

It doesn't matter if the person/people you like (your type) is hot or not, if they don't like you back, stop pursuing those people.

 

Find people who may like you (show interest in you), and like them back (show interest in them). I wished I would have learned that (sooner) when I was younger.

[basil67]

That girl probably had no reason to reject guitarguy, she did it, because he wasn't perfect. A lot of men are sick of their attitudes.

 

And a lot of men who don't walk around with this kind of attitude are getting laid. Let's face it - a lot of guys ARE getting laid.

[bradt93]

And a lot of men who don't walk around with this kind of attitude are getting laid. Let's face it - a lot of guys ARE getting laid.

Good for them, but women can't expect every man to be perfect.

[normal person]

Good for them, but women can't expect every man to be perfect.

 

Most don't, you're the only one here making assumptions like that about this specific woman you've never met, and the other billions of women you've never met. It's myopic. Recall the post where OP said he had to move back in with his parents because he, at age 20, couldn't figure out how to feed himself. Then continue to try and convince me this is undoubtedly a case of him simply not being "perfect."

 

There are currently 7.6 billion people on Earth. That means 3.8 billion women decided to sleep with at least 3.8 billion men. By your logic, that means either there are 3.8 billion Channing Tatums walking around, or women's standard for "perfection" is actually incredibly low and isn't nearly as unattainable as you make it sound.

 

At some point, if everyone's rejecting you, you have to realize that it's most likely due to your own shortcomings, not everyone else's supposed impossibly high standards. Stop blaming women and start improving yourself.

[bradt93]

Most don't, you're the only one here making assumptions like that about this specific woman you've never met, and the other billions of women you've never met. It's myopic. Recall the post where OP said he had to move back in with his parents because he, at age 20, couldn't figure out how to feed himself. Then continue to try and convince me this is undoubtedly a case of him simply not being "perfect."

 

There are currently 7.6 billion people on Earth. That means 3.8 billion women decided to sleep with at least 3.8 billion men. By your logic, that means either there are 3.8 billion Channing Tatums walking around, or women's stecauandard for "perfection" is actually incredibly low and isn't nearly as unattainable as you make it sound.

 

At some point, if everyone's rejecting you, you have to realize that it's most likely due to your own shortcomings, not everyone else's supposed impossibly high standards. Stop blaming women and start improving yourself.

Well, I guess I will never know, because I will never ask a girl out just to be rejected. I think I will stick with escorts.

[normal person]

Well, I guess I will never know, because I will never ask a girl out just to be rejected. I think I will stick with escorts.

 

The point is that the overwhelming majority of women don't expect perfection. Also, consider that each womens' definition of perfection is incredibly variable. There are women out there who think a pudgy, balding, man is "perfect" if he has great credit or can fix a carburator. The bar is not particularly high. But I guarantee you, there are no women out there whose idea of a "perfect" man is a bitter one who complains and blames others and circumstances for his situation without doing anything to rectify it.

[HiCrunchy]

The point is that the overwhelming majority of women don't expect perfection. Also, consider that each womens' definition of perfection is incredibly variable. There are women out there who think a pudgy, balding, man is "perfect" if he has great credit or can fix a carburator. The bar is not particularly high. But I guarantee you, there are no women out there whose idea of a "perfect" man is a bitter one who complains and blames others and circumstances for his situation without doing anything to rectify it.

 

Yep. For example, u can be the best apple in the world, but if someone likes bananas more than apples, they will choose bananas. Doesnt matter how great of an apple u are.

 

Same works for women. I have a friend that likes "dad bods" while I like fit men. She wants a giant teddy bear to watch TV and eat junk food with. I want someone to motivate me to keep my body in shape. Dad bods are her bananas, and she wont ever settle for apples. Even if apples are all I want, I wont settle for bananas no matter how amazing that banana is.

[preraph]

^ True. There is no accounting for taste.

[bradt93]

Earlier in the thread, you lament the fact that many hot women prefer hot men over other guys. Then, you go on to say that women are just too picky. What about you? How do you feel about average to somewhat below average looking women? Would you go out with a girl that was somewhat overweight but assures you they are losing weight? Someone that is very insecure about their looks? Maybe a girl that is bitter towards men? Would you wanna date such a girl?

Yes, I would give everyone a chance.

[ThreeRainbows]

OP:

 

So you're 5'3''. What you need to do is accept this. It is not the end of the world.

 

 

Prince was 5'3''.

 

Bruno Mars is 5'5''.

 

 

There are others. Channel your inner Prince.

[alphamale]

I think I will stick with escorts.

 

there is nothing wrong with that bradt93

[basil67]

OP:

 

So you're 5'3''. What you need to do is accept this. It is not the end of the world.

 

 

Prince was 5'3''.

 

Bruno Mars is 5'5''.

 

 

There are others. Channel your inner Prince.

 

My best friend's hubby is 5'2"