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Deal breakers? What is yours?

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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Cheater/liar

Lack of empathy

Lack of employment

Lot of debt

Mental illness (I have to be tough on this one. I can't tolerate anything beyond very mild anxiety and depression. Been there and don't want to again)

Someone that has a lot of flirty "female friends"

Heavy drinking/smoking/partying lifestyle

Spineless

Rigid and set in his ways

Conspiracy theorists (zero tolerance there)

Children (this is negotiable but less is better)

Severe ED

Dislikes international travel

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2much4 Established Member

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I guess my more "unusual" deal breakers are:

 

- I won't date anyone pursuing a military career

- animal costumes in bed (especially horse costumes)

- naked pictures on facebook

- wants to french kiss me in front of my parents

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viatori patuit Established Member

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I guess my more "unusual" deal breakers are:

 

- I won't date anyone pursuing a military career

- animal costumes in bed (especially horse costumes)

- naked pictures on facebook

- wants to french kiss me in front of my parents

 

 

 

has to be a story behind that...... :eek:

caveman621 Established Member

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HA! Good ones!

 

I'm in a very good relationship now, but when I was looking at online profiles on OLD sites there were some things, specifically pics, that were an immediate NO!!!! I know this site isn't a political site and there are other things that would be offputting just to me, but, if she had pics with a confederate battle flag in it. NOPE!!!!

FilterCoffee Established Member

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Dislikes international travel

 

You’ve met guys who ddidn’t like to travel abroad?? What were their reasons?

Lorenza Established Member

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I won't date:

 

A photographer;

 

Someone who hunts for a hobby;

 

A gym rat who posts shirtless selfies;

 

Someone's who's very active on Instagram/Snapchat;

 

Someone who names "food and wine" as a hobby;

 

A musician (it's enough I've been one);

 

A "been everywhere, done everything, dated everyone" type of guy;

 

A guy with kids/contact with their ex;

 

A guy with very close female friends;

 

A "I don't read books, lol" type of guy;

 

Life as an old maid with 10+ cats - here I come. :D

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FilterCoffee Established Member

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I'm transitioning careers and going back to graduate school in the fall. I live very comfortably on investment income. I look forward to beginning my new career. Would those of you who mentioned jobs find my situation a deal breaker? I have a plan and am independently wealthy.

 

Not at all. In fact, it shows that you’re ambitious and eager to learn which are good qualities. I guess it would only be a problem for me if we were at the beginning stages of a relationship and you were moving really far off. Then I wouldn’t see the point in continuing because the distance would make it harder for me to gauge you as a potential long term partner.

FilterCoffee Established Member

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I won't date:

A photographer

 

That’s specific! I’m curious to know why. They take too many unflattering photos of you? :laugh:

Lorenza Established Member

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That’s specific! I’m curious to know why. They take too many unflattering photos of you? :laugh:

 

I just don't feel like dating someone who's around hot women too much :D too many temptations might ruin even the most loyal men :laugh:

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FilterCoffee Established Member

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I just don't feel like dating someone who's around hot women too much :D too many temptations might ruin even the most loyal men :laugh:

 

Hahahaha. You know there are other kinds of photographers right? But I get what you’re saying.

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Gaeta Established Member

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My deal-breakers are all the typical ones, who wants to date a drug addict or alcoholic, abuser, lazy, cheater...anyway.

 

My very personal deal breakers are not understanding my close relationship with my daughter and not understanding the importance I give to my dog. If he wants to interfere in anyway he's out.

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smackie9 Established Member

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Top of my list is mental illness, smoker, does drugs, alcoholic.

CautiouslyOptimistic Established Member

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I guess my more "unusual" deal breakers are:

 

- I won't date anyone pursuing a military career

- animal costumes in bed (especially horse costumes)

- naked pictures on facebook

- wants to french kiss me in front of my parents

 

LOL! Omg, I need to hear these stories.

 

My list:

 

Smoking

"Rough around the edges"

Atheist

If a parent, not involved in kids' lives

Doesn't brush teeth

Doesn't have a car (I live in the 'burbs)

Doesn't have a job

Allergic to dogs

Too critical/judgmental of other people

Loves Hillary

Doesn't eat vegetables

I'd like to say doesn't know the difference between their/they're/there and your/you're, but this hasn't always been a deal-breaker even though it's very, very high on the wish list!

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carhill Established Member

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I'm pretty flexible but mental illness is out. Too much water under that bridge.

Buriall Established Member

Buriall

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Nose rings.

 

Why is that?

hellohydra New Member

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I don't really think that much, so I may not be as specific as others have mentioned. I do, however have a few things that I keep in mind.

 

  • Laziness
  • Dislikes animals... I don't have any pets, but I love animals in general
  • Too political
  • Judgmental
  • Gossips a lot
  • Is unreasonable
  • Not a team player - I believe that we both may have to compromise sometimes..we're different people after all.
  • Doesn't take the time to calm down and communicate when upset about something
  • Suffocates you. ( I like live and let live - we're together because we both choose that, and that shouldn't ever change, regardless of the length of our relationship)

nothingsintheflowerz Established Member

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I'm pretty flexible but mental illness is out. Too much water under that bridge.

 

Why is that a problem?

CptInsano Established Member

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I will not date somebody who is really into horses or horseback riding. I have nothing against horses, but that hobby seems like a black hole to me that consumes anything and everything.

CautiouslyOptimistic Established Member

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I will not date somebody who is really into horses or horseback riding. I have nothing against horses, but that hobby seems like a black hole to me that consumes anything and everything.

 

You are correct. I'm already praying for my daughter's future husband :eek:. She needs to find someone who is a horse lover too or is rich!

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alphamale Established Member

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I will not date somebody who is really into horses or horseback riding. I have nothing against horses, but that hobby seems like a black hole to me that consumes anything and everything.

did you have a bad experience with a horse when you were a kid?

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CautiouslyOptimistic Established Member

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did you have a bad experience with a horse when you were a kid?

 

I think he just meant horses are a huge time and finances suck!

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KBarletta Established Member

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1. If we're hanging out one-on-one and you're on your phone as much as you're interacting with me, I assume you're not interested

 

2. If you don't reply to specific messages/invitations in a timely fashion (or -worse- at all), I assume you're not interested

 

3. If you display a pattern of saying one thing and doing something else (like saying you'll show up and don't, or saying you believe in XYZ and behave the opposite way), I consider you untrustworthy

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carhill Established Member

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Why is that a problem?

Took care of a psychotic for eight years until she died. I'm done with the mental illness thing.

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CautiouslyOptimistic Established Member

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1. If we're hanging out one-on-one and you're on your phone as much as you're interacting with me, I assume you're not interested

 

2. If you don't reply to specific messages/invitations in a timely fashion (or -worse- at all), I assume you're not interested

 

3. If you display a pattern of saying one thing and doing something else (like saying you'll show up and don't, or saying you believe in XYZ and behave the opposite way), I consider you untrustworthy

 

So rude. I can't believe someone would do that on a date.

GemmaUK Established Member

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Lack of responsibility - it shows it so very many ways and tells so much.

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