Space Ritual Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 If this guy has all these problems and you met him online, I am wondering what he put in his profile Middle age Ex Con with an advanced degree in Methamphetamine Manufacture and a history of extreme violence seeks like minded female for walks on the beach, discussions of current events, and occasional trips to The Hamptons for one of those "Glorious Hampton Weekends" of Seinfeld fame. Please include a photo of a Shovel, 30 feet of rope and a 50 pound bag of Lime, in case things go south on the first date.... Oh wait that's MY dating profile...LOL
Timshel Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 I completely agree with this. I couldn't imagine dating somebody that was homeless. I mean, one of the first questions people ask you about your bf is what he does for a living and where he lives. Sorry, but imho if you date a loser, that makes you a loser. Like my mom always said, 'birds of a feather, flock together', and while this might not be absolutely true, I do think it is basically true. Ditch this loser and tell him to get his act together. Your rejection of him might even be the motivating force that will finally help him get out of his rut. I don't think about human beings in terms of 'loser' or 'winners.' Not on the same page, incompatible, not my cup of tea...is what fleets across my mind. That 'loser' may save your behind someday in someway but you don't have to date or marry him. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 No money, not compatible. I have busted my butt to get where I am. Making good money, in about two years having successfully saved enough money for my kids to go to the state college for four years, saving for retirement, no debt, and a little money to set aside to fun stuff...if, at my age, late-40s, you are not able to live below or within your means and pay your bills, we are not compatible. I get that people have hardships, but the way in which you got there and the way you are getting yourself out of it is important. I will not immediately exclude people who are not in the best financial situation, but it doesn't take long before you discover how they are handling it. Frankly, finances should always play an important part of dating, relationships, compatibility. 1
Purepony Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 Why the hell cant I find women like this !!! Down here if you don’t drive a 50k plus car go home Gotta love Los Angeles !!!
GunslingerRoland Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 I love that this forum is full of people who live off of the energy of the universe, but back here in reality, 30 is getting fairly high in age to be someone to have no real schooling, no real job experience, no actual job, no money, and nothing to show for it. This is showing he's taken the last 12 years of his life post high school and done nothing with it. Expecting him to suddenly get it together at this point isn't likely. 2
normal person Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) So you are telling me you never had hard times in life. Whether I have or haven't, I prepared and will continue to prepare for them like a responsible adult. I could easily spend my money on frivolous luxuries or other unnecessary things but I don't precisely so I don't end up like the guy in this scenario. The degree to which you can dissociate someone's financial sense and life choices from their personhood is absolutely baffling to me. You discredit conscientiousness and overlook carelessness. So what if he did sleep on the couch or sofa at his brother house. He's on his brother's couch most likely as a result of choices he's made and a lack of preparedness. What happen if he played lottery won over 200 million sure his life would change around. He wouldn't have to drive a car for a living to pick-up people. How is any of this relevant? I love that this forum is full of people who live off of the energy of the universe, but back here in reality, 30 is getting fairly high in age to be someone to have no real schooling, no real job experience, no actual job, no money, and nothing to show for it. This is showing he's taken the last 12 years of his life post high school and done nothing with it. Expecting him to suddenly get it together at this point isn't likely. This guy gets it. Can't like this post enough. Edited October 30, 2017 by normal person
Hopeful30 Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 I've read several of the posts and I agree with most of them. On the one hand you have higher expectations because that's where you're at, and being the traditional type, your man should fill that role as you will fill yours. On the other hand, most successful men I know worked very hard to get where they are at, and it took years. Im not sure what to tell you because the possibilities are endless, but if there is anything that has helped me with decisions like This, it was my gut. What does your gut tell you? Follow that. Your gut is never wrong. Trust me.
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