HumanMachine Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 This is the correct way. My sister said I was being a complete jerk to her and was being a trrrible person. I on the other hand didn’t see it that way so I flipped the story to prove to her that even others saw that I wasn’t this horrible person she made me out to be. Erm.. wow..
zawadi16 Posted November 9, 2017 Posted November 9, 2017 Erm.. wow.. Haha right I'm not going to judge for that other post, it's pointless. Focusing on your behavior with this thread I'm advising you to be honest with yourself. Until then you're just going to be stuck.
Author Leojax Posted November 10, 2017 Author Posted November 10, 2017 Haha right I'm not going to judge for that other post, it's pointless. Focusing on your behavior with this thread I'm advising you to be honest with yourself. Until then you're just going to be stuck. How am I not being honest with myself?
1fish2fish Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 Leojax - Do you know zawadi or something?
HumanMachine Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 Leojax - Do you know zawadi or something? I think Zawadi is the ex
Highndry Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 I hope this thread is moved to his other ones. These are pointless and immature.
Author Leojax Posted November 11, 2017 Author Posted November 11, 2017 I've been having a debate with my best friend over rebounds. I was really in love with my ex. She's the first person I've ever thought about marriage with. Even imagined what our kids would look like. Never loved anyone as much as I've loved her. She broke up with me. she wanted to reconcile a few weeks later but I was just so pissed with her. I told her I was happy and moved on. I ended up messaging her 20 mins later after she left. Then another message 40 min. later. Then another one 1.5 hrs. later. Messaged her the next day too and she finally responded. I responded to her. She didn't respond. I sent her another message 12 hrs. later. Again, she didn't respond.I was just venting about the breakup in my messages. Then a few weeks ago I sent her a message saying this is hard for me. I still have her on social media and will and still will look at it, even did so last night. I know we're advised to remove them, but I've kept all my exes on social media so why would this one be any different? To get back on topic, I recently have had had a few dates with this really hot chick. She's nice and we vibe. I snapped/took a video of my food and got the date in the snap/video. My best friend is convinced that I did that on purpose to hurt my ex's feelings/make her jealous (whatever). He said that I'm clearly not interested in her for me to have done that. Explaining that if I'm using her to make the ex jealous and fill a void I'll just never be interested in her like that because it would've happened from the beginning. I don't agree. I believe void fillers/distractions can grow on you. What are your thoughts? Is he right?
loveletter56 Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Yes and no basically. There is only one person who can answer this question and that is you. Do you still dream of your kids with ex or are you thinking about your next date with the new lady? Who do you think of first in the day? Who do you want to speak to last before you go to sleep? Who would you rather be spending your time with? There is probably alot of conflicting thoughts in your head and may take time to settle. Pay attention to your thoughts and see where they lead.
HumanMachine Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 How many more times are you going to mention this snap with your food and date? I’m sure I’ve read about it at least 3 times.
Emmafive Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 How many more times are you going to mention this snap with your food and date? I’m sure I’ve read about it at least 3 times. Geesh let the man live. You know you can just keep scrolling past his post right? If you don’t have advice to give then don’t comment.
Highndry Posted November 11, 2017 Posted November 11, 2017 Geesh let the man live. You know you can just keep scrolling past his post right? If you don’t have advice to give then don’t comment. To be fair, if you read the OP's other posts it appears he's spinning yarns around here. That said, you do have a point.
Author Leojax Posted November 12, 2017 Author Posted November 12, 2017 Sounds like you're back in playschool. Why does it sound like I’m in playschool?
Author Leojax Posted November 26, 2017 Author Posted November 26, 2017 Have any of you been petty with an ex just because? You don’t want her back or care about her, but you still want to stick it to her? My ex broke up with me and then tried to get back with me. Told her no. I’ll admit I tried to make her jealous on purpose. She called me out and said that she was happy for me. Told Her pretty much to mind her business. Then I started to like her pictures a few days later. I just want to stick it to her even though I don’t care about her or want her back. It’s weird, I can’t explain it. Anyone else ever felt this way?
Frostedflake Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Don't care? Seems like you care a lot, man. You're plotting revenge instead of moving on.. who wins? 1
kailah Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 If you really didn't care, then you wouldn't have posted this because it wouldn't have happened. You wouldn't be trying to hurt someone "just because" or make someone jealous "just because". There is a reason for that, whether you will admit it or not. You need to go completely no contact with her. Stop talking to each other, remove her from your social media. There is no reason to sit around playing with an ex.
Highndry Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 How old are you, Leo? A lot of your posts seem to indicate you're playing games. 1
springy Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Seems like a waste of time and emotional energy that you could be putting into a new lady.
guest569 Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Why are you wanting to “stick it to her”? Is this the anger phase? If so, that’s good, but keep it to yourself (or the forums) rather than involve her. You’ll feel better for it in the long run! And look less foolish.
Emmafive Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Bad karma is going to come your way. When this high wears off you’re going to be kicking yourself. You only do all this stupid petty stuff when you still want the person. Almost 100% of the time it ends up backfiring. When it does, you’re going to wish you hadn’t because you’re going to push her away and I suspect that’s not ultimately what you want.
Author Leojax Posted November 26, 2017 Author Posted November 26, 2017 Why are you wanting to “stick it to her”? Is this the anger phase? If so, that’s good, but keep it to yourself (or the forums) rather than involve her. You’ll feel better for it in the long run! And look less foolish. Thanks for the reply. How will I look foolish? I highly doubt she thinks I’m liking her pictures/looking at her social media because I still want her. If anything she probably thinks I’m on it just because, like other social media users.
lolablue17 Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Don't feel bad about it. It's purely an ego issue. She hurt your ego, and by getting the upper hand you rebuild you ego again. It's better to move on and be a great person, but hey... We're only humans.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 Thanks for the reply. How will I look foolish? I highly doubt she thinks I’m liking her pictures/looking at her social media because I still want her. If anything she probably thinks I’m on it just because, like other social media users. That is probably exactly what she is thinking, OP. She isn't clueless. She knows you still care, and you know you still care too. People who don't care don't waste time and energy trying to make someone jealous. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2017 Posted November 26, 2017 I highly doubt she thinks I’m liking her pictures/looking at her social media because I still want her. Wrong! On any given day there are at least 5 posts on here from rejected EXs who desperately hope that the fact that an EX "liked" something of theirs on social media means imminent reconciliation. After a break up both parties need to unfriend / unfollow each other. That window into the other person's life needs to be permanently closed. Lots of people do petty things when they are hurt. I have trashed more then 1 article of clothing left in my possession by an EX. I spend at least a little time after the break up wishing annoying things upon them -- nothing too terrible just that the phone rings when they get in the shower; that they run for & miss elevators; etc. 6
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