Boyfriend emabrrassed by nothing, gross behavior.

[Grisho]

Yeah I expected a response like this.

You honestly can't see how one sided you are in all of this.

If a guy isn't performing cartwheels for you and only interested in pleasing his partner above all else, then he is a selfish pig. Shame me shame me.

 

Sure, natural lube is important. I wouldn't want to just rush into sex without it, but 45 minutes of one sided foreplay? 5 orgasms? Common, seriously?

 

Sure, a long session like this bringing a partner to climax multiple times is fun now and again, but I would feel like it's a full time job and a chore if that was expected every time we made love.

 

If you are struggling that much to get lubricated, I suggest you are likely dehydrated or maybe not uber turned on by your partner.

 

All hyperbole on your part. You reek of unhappiness and desperation to be adored simply because you exist, rather than because you deserve it. Good look festering in your situation. You have no clue about the physiology of women, and no clue about how to be a decent partner to a woman. This is 1 area you could improve that might make you more desierable to the opposite sex, although I think your personality alone will be a red flag.

 

How utterly hateful of you to apply aged stereotypes about women struggling to be lubricated enough and so on and so on. In this modern age, you should be ashamed of resorting to such a petty insult. Luckily, I don't need to indulge you. The science shows your ignorance, and I'll just carry on choosing to ignore men like you, and have sex with partners who know how to be decent lovers.

 

Since your stamina is low, I recommend you improve your diet and do some exercise every day. I do about 2 hours of exercise a day, but then I'm a lot younger than you and not consumed with your butterness towards life.

[mbee]

OP, I agree with the others. Move on. It may be hard to see at your age, but 19 is very young. This guy sounds super immature and has gross behaviors. You are also not compatible sexually.

 

I felt the SAME way with you sexually when I was with my ex. I was 22 at the time. It was uncomfortable and I'd take the role as the "giver" often pleasing him and getting barely anything in return. I didn't enjoy sex and I thought that was normal. I thought my sex drive was below average and that I was BAD at sex. I found a guy afterwards who treated me much better than my ex and the sex was amazing! I used to hate morning sex with my ex, LOVED it with the new guy. I went from sex once a week to sex twice a day with the new guy. The new guy loved having sex with me and my confidence boosted.

 

Trust me, you and your current guy are not sexually compatible. You may not see it but when you two break up and you meet another guy, you'll realize that you may enjoy and appreciate sex a whole lot more than you think. Your current guy sounds really selfish. Try to not make excuses for his poor behavior and focus on what YOU need.

[joseb]

All hyperbole on your part. You reek of unhappiness and desperation to be adored simply because you exist, rather than because you deserve it. Good look festering in your situation. You have no clue about the physiology of women, and no clue about how to be a decent partner to a woman. This is 1 area you could improve that might make you more desierable to the opposite sex, although I think your personality alone will be a red flag.

 

How utterly hateful of you to apply aged stereotypes about women struggling to be lubricated enough and so on and so on. In this modern age, you should be ashamed of resorting to such a petty insult. Luckily, I don't need to indulge you. The science shows your ignorance, and I'll just carry on choosing to ignore men like you, and have sex with partners who know how to be decent lovers.

 

Since your stamina is low, I recommend you improve your diet and do some exercise every day. I do about 2 hours of exercise a day, but then I'm a lot younger than you and not consumed with your butterness towards life.

 

LOL!

 

OK, I'll bite, a little. Just because I feel like it.

 

I don't have any issue with stamina, attracting women, pleasing them, diet exercise or any of that.

 

I could go and brag and give example of this but I don't think it's very becoming.

 

I neither have butterness nor bitterness towards life, I'm very happy thank you.

 

Let's just agree to disagree on what constitutes good enjoyable foreplay that doesn't feel like a chore, shall we?

 

And sorry OP for going off topic.

[McConaughey]

I mentioned above a few times that natural lubrication through orgasm is very important for women to feel comfortable during sex. I mentioned that I orgasm, at least 5 times, before we have sex, and only then do I feel lubricated enough for it to feel ok. How many times do you orgasm prior to him entering you? Sex should not hurt. If you are hurting, you are not getting enough foreplay (make sure he's focused on giving you plenty of orgasms before he enters you), and you may need to find positions that are more comfortable.

 

With how easy I am I usually orgasm three times before sex but within maybe a ten-fifteen minute time span. Being naturally lubricated isn't a problem for me, and on top of that my bf uses lube as well. But it does take a lot for me to relax and I almost never enjoy an orgasm. I'm too busy thinking about how ridiculous I'm being and my bf is always worried about hurting me so sex is definitely not a relaxed passionate time but more of walking on egg shells and him waiting for me. Even with breaks and pauses and foreplay I still can't seem to relax, I've always been a very uptight person and have an awful habit of yelling at him or getting frustrated in moments

[William]

Folks, I got a report on off-topic content and also due to the starter sometimes having a delay in postings being published, I'll ask members to both return to the topic and be sure to read back a bit to catch responses from the starter which may have appeared in the interim. Thank you and please continue!

[Grisho]

With how easy I am I usually orgasm three times before sex but within maybe a ten-fifteen minute time span. Being naturally lubricated isn't a problem for me, and on top of that my bf uses lube as well. But it does take a lot for me to relax and I almost never enjoy an orgasm. I'm too busy thinking about how ridiculous I'm being and my bf is always worried about hurting me so sex is definitely not a relaxed passionate time but more of walking on egg shells and him waiting for me. Even with breaks and pauses and foreplay I still can't seem to relax, I've always been a very uptight person and have an awful habit of yelling at him or getting frustrated in moments

 

It's not unusual for it to take a while to relax. Men are often raised with ideas they learnt from porn, that aren't based in reality. I don't know 1 woman who hasn't heard the immortal line "are you nearly there yet?" from a man, or it's second cousin "come for me baby now!". Lots of men are impatient. I found that starting the intimacy with the expectation that foreplay would last, at least, 3/4 of an hour really helped me and my boyfriend to relax into the intimacy.

[preraph]

Please God tell me you're on birth control. The last thing you need is this guy for a baby daddy.

[JDPT]

Well let me tell you that and this is coming from a guy's perspective, that he has reached a comfort level with you that there is no going back. I know this because I was along the lines of him when I was his age, selfish and immature. I'm confident that you have addressed this several times with no change. Keep in mind that the likelihood of him changing is slim to none. He'll only come to terms with this in time and maturing in life.

[preraph]

I had one thought about the comments about the sexual incompatibility. Maybe he's one of those double-standard guys who thinks women who really enjoy sex a lot are dirty and unworthy. Anyway, he sounds truly obnoxious.

[McConaughey]

I had one thought about the comments about the sexual incompatibility. Maybe he's one of those double-standard guys who thinks women who really enjoy sex a lot are dirty and unworthy. Anyway, he sounds truly obnoxious.

 

Oh wow I didn't think of that, he is awful accepting of me not wanting sex all the time and there's no way he can really prefer his hands that much.

And with the "Perv" he is, (Don't feel real comfortable calling him a pervert considering that's usually an insult?) He watches a lot of porn, says dirty things all the time, is really big on being touchy in public and PDA (I chew his ear off about that, Boyfriend Behavior Project #657) But as soon as I say something dirty he becomes massively turned off by it unless it's during intimacy.

I'll definitely bring this up with him.

[smackie9]

You don't date someone to "Fix" or "change" their behavior....or make them a "Improvement project", you date someone who is compatible and meets your expectations. Like I said, he isn't going to change no matter how much effort you put into it.

[McConaughey]

Update I guess.

I didn't mean as that we only dated and I saw him as a project, but more of I am dating a man who didn't have the proper upbringing to set a good foundation for maturity now, and that he comes with some "Unfinished" life lessons.

Beside the point now, for those who saw my second topic on his mental health and compulsive habits, things did get a bit rough and he is now in the hospital undergoing a psych evaluation. An older friend of his who functions as his boss/father figure is helping us pay for the bill and is giving him some paid time off to really settle with his mind.

He's been through a lot, and at this point I am absolutely exhausted and drained of everything in me, but I will be there for him. Thank you all. I still welcome relationship tips, but there is a much bigger fish to fry at the moment.

[preraph]

Oh wow I didn't think of that, he is awful accepting of me not wanting sex all the time and there's no way he can really prefer his hands that much.

And with the "Perv" he is, (Don't feel real comfortable calling him a pervert considering that's usually an insult?) He watches a lot of porn, says dirty things all the time, is really big on being touchy in public and PDA (I chew his ear off about that, Boyfriend Behavior Project #657) But as soon as I say something dirty he becomes massively turned off by it unless it's during intimacy.

I'll definitely bring this up with him.

 

You don't need a double-standard guy because once you "let them down," they can never recover and you're a dirty you know what. And that would likely be due to his upbringing, so not likely to change much.