William Posted May 13, 2018 Share Posted May 13, 2018 Moderator bump due to site outage Link to post Share on other sites
Fekenaws Posted September 9, 2019 Share Posted September 9, 2019 Just curious what everyone thinks about Online Dating! In my opinion... it's not too great. I've gotten some hits, but I'm way better off flirting in person. I'm just an average looking guy though, so who knows where everyone else is at! Also, I think the stereotype that it promotes "casual sex" is pretty overblown. I think that landing a lay on the first date is still every bit as difficult as its always been, even with OLD Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted September 9, 2019 Share Posted September 9, 2019 Just curious what everyone thinks about Online Dating! In my opinion... it's not too great. I've gotten some hits, but I'm way better off flirting in person. I'm just an average looking guy though, so who knows where everyone else is at! For me it really depends on the site and your demographic (you're in and looking for). Me in my early 50s, started late 40s.; looking for same, looking for long term but realize need to just go out and see where it goes. Free sites, sucked for me. Fake women profiles, choices not so great in my age range and a lot of flakes/weird ones. E-Harmony, very few flakes, good if older, but matches (poorly) for you and seems to ignore your distance preference, like 150 miles is not Ok when I say 40 miles radius. Will say I do love Match. The matching engine is pretty decent, got a lot of interest and a high response rate. Like the last week I was on, got 33 likes and 8 messages (they send you these little encouraging e-mails with the stats); about half of which were of potential interest to me. So more opportunity than I could follow-up on. I will say my search radius likely encompasses 1 million+ people though. Also, I think the stereotype that it promotes "casual sex" is pretty overblown. I think that landing a lay on the first date is still every bit as difficult as its always been, even with OLDAgreed. Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted September 9, 2019 Share Posted September 9, 2019 Just curious what everyone thinks about Online Dating! In my opinion... it's not too great. I've gotten some hits, but I'm way better off flirting in person. I'm just an average looking guy though, so who knows where everyone else is at! Also, I think the stereotype that it promotes "casual sex" is pretty overblown. I think that landing a lay on the first date is still every bit as difficult as its always been, even with OLD Don’t know your demographics or where you live because these are variables in this. In the mid 2000s online dating sites tended to be more of peop,e seriously wanting relationships. Now with more fee sites andsmart phone apps there are far more people trying it and seeing it if it gets them someone out of their league. This make it harder for you as an average joe. Another issue...what is the profile like? What does it say about you ? Similar to a resume, it could turn you off to candidates. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted September 9, 2019 Share Posted September 9, 2019 I think it is the "easiest" way to meet people currently although as many will say not the best way, it still has to have a lot of value though based on it being the easiest way. the reality is many shyer more introverted people may never get a date only for online dating, in my neck of the woods, most of the 20 somethings have no problem really meeting partners in real life,the only thing they need is friends to socialise with and the rest follows. it however becomes much more difficult at 35 plus and people tend to lose that bit of "courage" needed to meet new partners in real life, if you want to meet someone though it will happen provided you learn from past bad dates, do not get disillusioned and keep trying, be it online or in the real world. Link to post Share on other sites
Sam2020 Posted September 10, 2019 Share Posted September 10, 2019 When you're over 50 it can be especially difficult either way. I haven't met anyone I'm remotely interested in romantically in years and I'm very active, go out about 3 times a week to various types of places. And I'm not the only who feels this way. I know single women AND men all over 50 who have been looking for years. In my 30's I had the pick of the crop, now it seems the well has dried up. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted September 11, 2019 Share Posted September 11, 2019 (edited) Ahh but as l always remind people, this is all where the allusion is it seems. And l'm damned if l know why but it seems to be single guys spreading the allusion all over the internet and making things even harder for themselves , very weird . Reality is though in my experience and l met the pick of the crop too in my age range , 40s early 50s, But even so, all still on 3 and 4 dates sites and most told me it was just the same old crap , even after a few years they'd gotten absolutely nowhere, nothing worthwhile at all. Quality women some of the few even on there actually, yet burn out and given up. Or just read around ls, most of the women here have also gotten absolutely nowhere on date sites or otherwise too. Nothing real just disheartened and more burn out. l actually know 2 here personally that are not only great women but really nice looking to boot and if they weren't on the other side of the world and l was single l'd certainly be interested in one or two,yet their reality is what it is. lt's just as hard for either, to actually meet that someone worthwhile imo well in my age range anyway it seems , no matter what guys think. My gf is an incredible little chunk of lady , the person and def; the bod and looks too, yet even she says if we ever split she couldn't face another date site. But still, things can happen, some. One of the girls l met back after my divorce on a date site met her now hubby on there later, and l know you see a few stories around ls and other places too from guys and gals. Personally think the only way to avoid all the crap is to just be very very selective and not waste your time with the rest. If it's a relationship and something long term you want anyway, hold out and look for that quality girl , try meeting her. l found being as picky as l am, there was only 3 or 4 or the whole site worthwhile even bothering with for what l wanted. But they were all genuine women . Although admittedly most guys here seem to have a different idea and just want dates dates dates , it seems anyone. l don;t really get that but l suppose if they only wanna sleep with someone then it makes sense. Edited September 11, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted September 12, 2019 Share Posted September 12, 2019 When you're over 50 it can be especially difficult either way. I haven't met anyone I'm remotely interested in romantically in years and I'm very active, go out about 3 times a week to various types of places. And I'm not the only who feels this way. I know single women AND men all over 50 who have been looking for years. In my 30's I had the pick of the crop, now it seems the well has dried up. Ahh if had only known that would have gotten divorced earlier. Not certain of your gender Sam, but have heard it said that in ones 30s men chase women, in ones 50s women chase men. I can say the later part is true for me, there is no shortage of attractive women in there 40s and 50s who reach out to me. Of those I meet the vast majority are fun even if not for me, that means they would be a good catch for another guy. I've been looking for years and thought I've found someone twice* out of 7 relationships, and can't even count the number of first meets/dates but if current odds apply to past odds at least 3 dozen. *Well still working on the second time here...maybe it will work out after all. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_ybor Posted September 17, 2019 Share Posted September 17, 2019 most of the women here have also gotten absolutely nowhere on date sites or otherwise too. Nothing real just disheartened and more burn out. l actually know 2 here personally that are not only great women but really nice looking to boot and if they weren't on the other side of the world and l was single l'd certainly be interested in one or two,yet their reality is what it is. Right swiping on decent men would be a good start for them. I know a number of us who are waiting around. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_ybor Posted September 17, 2019 Share Posted September 17, 2019 I'm laying claim to this thread. I'm sticking in my flag and setting up camp here. Are you now? You haven't posted since January, 2018. Link to post Share on other sites
TaintedLuv Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 Right swiping on decent men would be a good start for them. I know a number of us who are waiting around. You all claim to be decent...til you’re not. Lately I feel like every guy talks about how great he is and then does a 180. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_ybor Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 You all claim to be decent...til you’re not. Lately I feel like every guy talks about how great he is and then does a 180. ^ *Username checks out 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CAPITAL CROOK Posted January 23, 2020 Share Posted January 23, 2020 On 9/18/2019 at 8:39 AM, TaintedLuv said: You all claim to be decent...til you’re not. Lately I feel like every guy talks about how great he is and then does a 180. With the internet, comes information and alongside information, when verified correctly, comes truth. Truthfully, single men do not want women to be their friends; the friend zone has become a place where men feel their time and resources get taken advantage of. Men have also been exposed to the tactics women employed before the internet; monkey branching, gold digging, friend zoning... Men have been exposed to the truth and that truth is that the modern woman has a loyalty that is questionable in certain situations and certain times... The same goes for women; most of my women friends read all the pick up artist literature just so they are aware what they are up against. In the age of information, it is unsurprising to see people attempting to get into the best situation they can and that is essentially the modern dating scene. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 On 9/17/2019 at 10:48 AM, mr_ybor said: Are you now? You haven't posted since January, 2018. I’m right here bb Link to post Share on other sites
Baman Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 Here's an online dating twist: Even harder when you are in an open marriage and are honest about it. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 1 minute ago, Baman said: Here's an online dating twist: Even harder when you are in an open marriage and are honest about it. I would imagine that a regular online dating app would be the wrong place for finding someone who's interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Baman Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 1 hour ago, basil67 said: I would imagine that a regular online dating app would be the wrong place for finding someone who's interested. The mainstream ones for singles are a no go zone, you cant create an honest account. There are a few that cater to alternative lifestyles. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 13, 2020 Share Posted February 13, 2020 At least you’ve already got a loved one. Link to post Share on other sites
Baman Posted February 14, 2020 Share Posted February 14, 2020 22 hours ago, basil67 said: At least you’ve already got a loved one. And that I do not take for granted I can assure you. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted February 20, 2020 Share Posted February 20, 2020 (edited) I reactivated my profile and was messaged by a guy who describes himself as asexual in his profile. I’ll give it a shot. Not like I see anything more interesting atm Edited February 20, 2020 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
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