Author kaisergal Posted December 29, 2015 Author Share Posted December 29, 2015 Now come on, we've covered this. Cut the guy out of your life and take up a hobby for yourself. I recommend an art class, as you'd expect. Date new people (I recommend an artist) and you'll realise you don't need him anymore, but if you keep obsessing then you'll never get past it. Try putting a rubber band around your wrist and every time he comes to mind you snap it against your skin then immediately think of something else. It's a recognised distraction technique, but I am starting to think you might like to look into therapy. Guess it's been a case of thinking why didn't he want me jealous of him being back with this girl who in herself is a nasty piece of work... I don't know what he said to cover his ass with me but it must've been a good lie! I have been to a councillor once or twice but think is my head too messed up Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaisergal Posted December 29, 2015 Author Share Posted December 29, 2015 Because you are obsessed with him. You should be working through moving on and forgetting him, not making it your business to find out every detail of his new relationships, because it isn't your business. You tried and you failed to break them up by disclosing information about his infidelities, that should have been where you left it. He cheats whenever he gets chance this woman he's with is married with a kid who literally had dumped them for him Link to post Share on other sites
Samhain Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 Then you should be glad he is her problem and not yours. It truly baffles me why anybody would want such a person back into their life when they have the perfect opportunity to move on and leave such a toxic personality in their past. But if he is the kind of person that you think you deserve, then that type of person will be the only type you will attract. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaisergal Posted December 29, 2015 Author Share Posted December 29, 2015 Then you should be glad he is her problem and not yours. It truly baffles me why anybody would want such a person back into their life when they have the perfect opportunity to move on and leave such a toxic personality in their past. But if he is the kind of person that you think you deserve, then that type of person will be the only type you will attract. The girl he's with now they dated years ago she was married to same bloke then too! I met her because I contacted her to tell her he was cheating with me and another woman she said she wanted to be friends. Bumped into him one night with her he tried it on with me whilst she was in other room she didn't like the attention he payed me then ended up having sex with him whilst I was in other room to make a point that's why I hate her so. she only ended up with him this time as she heard he'd been kicked out and so turned up been on scene ever since Someone even sent her a pic of him kissing another girl even then didn't belisve they'd slept together Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 The girl he's with now Look, you're missing the point here, yet again. WHO CARES who he's with now? It is NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Just stop stalking him. Ignore him and everyone who knows him. You need to MOVE ON. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaisergal Posted December 30, 2015 Author Share Posted December 30, 2015 Look, you're missing the point here, yet again. WHO CARES who he's with now? It is NOT YOUR BUSINESS. Just stop stalking him. Ignore him and everyone who knows him. You need to MOVE ON. It is when he tries it on yet no one believes me Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 30, 2015 Share Posted December 30, 2015 (edited) It is when he tries it on yet no one believes me Yet again, you're missing the point. It's not your problem that no-one believes you. It's their problem. Cut. Him. Off. You've been getting the same advice over and over and over since November 4th. Why aren't you following it? Edited December 30, 2015 by PegNosePete 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 It is when he tries it on yet no one believes me It's not on you if they don't believe you. Block. Them. ALL. Accept better for yourself and walk away from all this mess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaisergal Posted January 28, 2016 Author Share Posted January 28, 2016 Stresshead! Im feeling crap ive pretty much kept head down not gone to the same pub as the guy who has caused me so much upset! I shouldn't and know I should back away but I still listen to the husband my friend who is being cheated on by his wife. He told me today he got on her phone and found nude pics of him on her phone what grossed me out more than anything was he said there were messages saying how she takes porn over to watch which grosses me out. My froend even thou his wife being a complete cow to him and only spends two days a week with her daughter drops her off to her bit on the side. I shouldn't get involved but hate someone else being ****ted on by that pair She ****ed me over 3 years ago when she made out she wanted to be mates but just using me to get one on me. Just hate fact nothing gets done bout bad pwople Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 I'd stay clear of the drama if I were you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kaisergal Posted May 3, 2016 Author Share Posted May 3, 2016 How do I rid of feeling like this I'm finding it hard letting go of a bloke who literally treated me like **** and uses me for sex on off for 4 years - not been with him since October. Made out he was single when trying it on with me which I fell for a few times now he's back with the married woman he was with four years ago who throws money at him as he has no job and is an alcoholic. She is also a nasty piece of work. How can I get him out of my skin and know I'm well rid. He tries to cheat now but doesn't so much as he cant get away with it so. I know he's scum but he's like a drug ( Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 3, 2016 Share Posted May 3, 2016 First up, congrats on realizing that he's bad for you - it's the first step to getting over him. What you need to do now is initiate No Contact. Block his number on your phone. Mark his email address as spam so that his mails will disappear and delete bimonthly all social media. If he circumvents any of this be seeing you in person, use your strength to tell him that you have no interest and do not want to speak with him. If he tries to talk with you anyway, close the door/walk away/hang up Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted May 7, 2016 Share Posted May 7, 2016 How do I rid of feeling like this( + Join a gym and start taking out all your built up frustration on a punching bag. + Start going on dates. Find a new guy (an upgrade), and get laid. + Find a new hobby that distracts you from obsessive thoughts. + If you can't make it stop, move to a new town or city and start over. Most importantly, stop wasting your life! Link to post Share on other sites
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