Author Mugen Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 Ah thanks for clearing that up and good point... and you're probably hinting at something good. But as I already mentioned, she was hesitant to say mysogonistic.. kinda started stopped them finished. Maybe she means traditional role requests
DoesntGetIt Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 The more you're talking about it, the more it sounds like she digs you, but feels you're TOO nice. She wants a bit of the masculinity to be there so wants you taking charge on some things, and asking her to do more traditional female roles as that is the relationship she is clearly interested in. If you're cool with it, then do it and don't think about it. She'll be happy, and you'll be happy and apparently getting food whenever you want. I didn't read all the posts, but if she is asking for this in regular stuff. She more than likely wants you to be a bit more aggressive in the bedroom too, but to maintain your sweetness the rest of the time.
fitnessfan365 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 A submissive woman gets pleasure in taking care of her man and making him feel appreciated. So when you ask her to make you a sandwich, fix you a drink, etc it lets her feel needed. My GF takes really good care of me. She'll cook for me, refresh my drink during dinner, etc.. She does it of her own accord because she knows how much I appreciate it and that makes her feel good. But to show my appreciation, I'll always take our dishes to the kitchen, rinse, and dishwasher load. It takes all of ten seconds to do, but she appreciates it.
jen1447 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 But to show my appreciation, I'll always take our dishes to the kitchen, rinse, and dishwasher load. It takes all of ten seconds to do, but she appreciates it. Next thing you know you'll be washing the dishes and laundering her underwear.
TaraMaiden2 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 She is merely telling you what most women want these days. Men have let themselves become so passive, weak and most are doormats. She wants you to own yourself and be more dominant. She wants you to state your wishes and exactly what you want. If you want something, you tell her. The trick is that a woman will only submit to a man who she feels deserves it or who she feels has a higher value than her and takes care of her to some degree. Who told you that, Hugh Hefner....? The final trick is to be dominant to her but also sweet to her. You switch it up so much that she never really knows what to expect out of you. It's that kind of unexpectedness and surprise that keeps most women hooked. Most? Not 'all'...? You surprise me...... 1
RedRobin Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 She is merely telling you what most women want these days. Men have let themselves become so passive, weak and most are doormats. She wants you to own yourself and be more dominant. She wants you to state your wishes and exactly what you want. If you want something, you tell her. The trick is that a woman will only submit to a man who she feels deserves it or who she feels has a higher value than her and takes care of her to some degree. The final trick is to be dominant to her but also sweet to her. You switch it up so much that she never really knows what to expect out of you. It's that kind of unexpectedness and surprise that keeps most women hooked. Um, yea, not really. OP, you will probably get more traction on this if you post in the sex folder or lifestyles folder. This isn't a man/woman thing. It's a Dom/sub thing. Don't get them confused. 2
smackie9 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 People play these dominant/submissive roles because they enjoy the experience. It falls along the lines of fetish/role playing. It isn't harmful if it is consensual. Some people like to feel something different from normal everyday life. Naughty can be very stimulating.
Buddhist Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Now, wtf kind of woman wants this? And now I've got to try and ignore the years of advice given to me by all other women in the world to be a respectful gentleman. I am used to being more of a real man who works a job with goals, dreams, and charisma. Now she wants me to be a dick, but like only part dick. I mean, I have ******* in me, and she has seen it twice and respect it. The kind that wants a bit of fun play with gender nonsense, that's what kind. It's banter, it's flirting, she's asking you to spice up the relationship by playing a role for her. She isn't asking you to be a dick, she is asking you to be her fantasy every now and again. Thank your lucky stars she just wants you to channel 1960's Bond. It could be worse, she could be asking you to put on a lacey thong.
Haydn Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Usually stay off these threads.... But the point `could be` She is communicating..... (Surely that is good) Or not?
Author Mugen Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 Update.. today, she has been seeking out affection from me. Starting last night and today, I've just been a little less sweet and a bit more cold. At one point, she said something a little cocky to me and I snapped back on her with a witty, don't you get sassy with me woman comeback and she giggled and told me that was exactly it... I asked the night before a quick clarifying Q about it.. like a suzie home maker thing and she said that's some but I forget what she said exactly but also to the effect I could be cocky. So I am going to play around with this. I'm not sure if it's dom/sub play or not but I'm going to basically pull a few more Dom traits and see if it gets her going. Basically she told me once that she likes to be rewarded for being good. So this is starting to sound more appropriate.
katiegrl Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Update.. today, she has been seeking out affection from me. Starting last night and today, I've just been a little less sweet and a bit more cold. At one point, she said something a little cocky to me and I snapped back on her with a witty, don't you get sassy with me woman comeback and she giggled and told me that was exactly it... I asked the night before a quick clarifying Q about it.. like a suzie home maker thing and she said that's some but I forget what she said exactly but also to the effect I could be cocky. So I am going to play around with this. I'm not sure if it's dom/sub play or not but I'm going to basically pull a few more Dom traits and see if it gets her going. ---- **Basically she told me once that she likes to be rewarded for being good.*** . ^^Does that mean she also wants to be punished for being bad?? My guess is yes. Both scenarios are definitely dom/sub....have fun with it!
Els Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Okay let me get this straight. Less than 3 weeks ago, you say you just left a 6-year R. A week after that, you say you were in a R for 4 months. And now this? What's up with that?
bathtub-row Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Being a woman myself, I have to say I have no clue as to what your gf is talking about. This is completely weird to me.
bathtub-row Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 She probably loved the the movie "Fifty Shades of Gray" too. That's next. I was thinking the same thing. When I watched part of that movie recently out of curiosity, I got thru about an hour of it before turning it off because it actually made me angry.
bathtub-row Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) So I am going to play around with this. I'm not sure if it's dom/sub play or not but I'm going to basically pull a few more Dom traits and see if it gets her going. Basically she told me once that she likes to be rewarded for being good. So this is starting to sound more appropriate. If it entertains both of you and you're both happy with it, then there's no problem. In your initial post, it sounded like this really went against your grain. It sounds to me as if this has the potential to turn into a disrespectful situation but I guess you'll both figure things out over time. To me, it still sounds pretty bizarre. Edited December 20, 2015 by bathtub-row
Author Mugen Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 Well, to each our own and let's just say that neither of us has seen fifty shades. Though I've seen the secretary, which is an awesome original movie. Anyway, I think I was more annoyed or felt that my sweetness wasn't appreciated but now I see it is but she just wants a little more cockiness in her man. Plus I also misunderstood, it's more that she likes some sass and not expecting me to change into a dick or something. I think I've figured it out. I think she wants to seek out affection from me and feel rewarded to get it as opposed to me giving her a hug when I first see her. I'll just make her earn the sweet stuff. Either way, elysworth is right. I met my gf now before I ended it with my last gf. Though the events were mutually exclusive and I was already ending it with gf. We hadn't even made love in 2 months. And that is for another thread.
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