empresario Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Being unattractive is the creepiest thing a man can do to a woman. I don't agree with you but I did laugh nonetheless. So you get my like anyways.
ASG Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 For women, creepy = ugly. No. Plenty of guys I'm not attracted to I don't consider creepy. They're just guys. A creep is someone who is overtly sexual when you have no interest. An almost complete stranger touching my hair and saying how soft it is IS creepy. 1
preraph Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Creepy is when a man is being sneaky trying to get next to you. It sets off all kinds of legitimate red flags. And plenty of sneaky men are NOT harmless. In fact, it is from this pool of men that most of the dangerous stalker creeps emerge. They can't deal with women straight on because of some character flaw, so they try to sneak their way in. As I said in another thread, predators circle their prey and look to separate them from the herd or look for one who is weak in some way. So it's a good instinct to not like sneaky men who can't deal with women directly.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Here we go again, the evil attractive man. Trust me, there are plenty of creepy attractive men. Right? Let's not forget about Ted Bundy. 1
fred123 Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 A lot of women here are yet again saying what they want and think but guarantee on a night out the hot guy who is overtly sexual and bordeline arrogance will get away with it whereas if an ugly guy did the same thing its creepy. This is a fact. If u dont believe me go and do the social experiments/research and i would happily say 90 percent of the data would prove my hypothesis 2
ASG Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 A lot of women here are yet again saying what they want and think but guarantee on a night out the hot guy who is overtly sexual and bordeline arrogance will get away with it whereas if an ugly guy did the same thing its creepy. This is a fact. If u dont believe me go and do the social experiments/research and i would happily say 90 percent of the data would prove my hypothesis You have it wrong. It's not the being overtly sexual that's the problem. Is doing so when you have NO go signs from the other person. If someone comes up to me and offers to buy me a drinks or flirts and I say no, it is CREEPY if they carry on with their behaviour. Regardless of what they look like. Like with my example. If he had stood next to me (way too close) and I had stayed and leaned into him, him then touching my hair would not have been creepy. The fact that i moved away repeatedly and he STILL went in for the physical contact that was, CLEARLY unwelcome, is what made it creepy. 3
Jex Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 Exactly. Rule #1: Be handsome. Rule #2: Be attractive Rue #3: Don't be unattractive. Who says we can't learn something from SNL: https://screen.yahoo.com/sexual-harassment-000000677.html Joke all what you want but this is quite accurate. Being nervous or inexperienced creeps them out too.
preraph Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 You guys saying it's only guys who are unattractive must never watch the news. Creeps come in every shape and size and attractiveness level and cross every socioeconomic boundary. 2
preraph Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 (edited) But you don't find him attractive. Creepy is in the eye of the beholder. That's so insulting! As if there are women who like to be surveilled and like having some guy, any guy, showing up in their peripheral vision scaring them! Maybe better looking ones get a step further before they're found out, maybe. I can only tell you I had a very good looking kid who used to be waiting outside my apartment because he thought he and I were both from Mars. Good looking? Yes. Creepy? VERY I don't like the implication that women should assume that just because a guy isn't good looking, he's harmless. That's dangerous advice. Any women knows when a guy is watching and waiting, and that's cowardly, inadequate behavior that makes us uncomfortable and can escalate to something more sinister. Edited May 18, 2015 by preraph 1
carhill Posted May 18, 2015 Posted May 18, 2015 I lulz because in my 56 I've never heard a woman called creepy. Yeah, heard them called a lot of things but not creepy. Heh, I thought the word was male-only. Creepy is the guy who's unwanted and doesn't absorb the message to go away. That can pertain to an individual or a group or a man or a woman wanting him to go away. I first learned about it as a kid when kids started forming cliques and those who were 'out' didn't get it. Creepy. 4
loveweary11 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 That's so insulting! As if there are women who like to be surveilled and like having some guy, any guy, showing up in their peripheral vision scaring them! Maybe better looking ones get a step further before they're found out, maybe. I can only tell you I had a very good looking kid who used to be waiting outside my apartment because he thought he and I were both from Mars. Good looking? Yes. Creepy? VERY I don't like the implication that women should assume that just because a guy isn't good looking, he's harmless. That's dangerous advice. Any women knows when a guy is watching and waiting, and that's cowardly, inadequate behavior that makes us uncomfortable and can escalate to something more sinister. Um... sorry? What I meant was that creepy will mean different things to different wonen. Creepy is in the eye of the beholder.... as in a different woman may or may not find the same guy to be creepy.
Shining One Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I lulz because in my 56 I've never heard a woman called creepy. Yeah, heard them called a lot of things but not creepy. Heh, I thought the word was male-only.I've never heard it applied to a woman either. This goes back to "creepy" being entirely subjective. Several women at work have stood right behind me at my desk and leaned over/on me when I'm showing them something on the computer screen. I'm sure many of the ladies in this thread would consider this "creepy" behavior if the positions were reversed.
RedRobin Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 1. If you are old enough to be their dad 2. If you don't know how to establish trust
xxoo Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 It's basically when a man makes a woman uncomfortable, and she can't tell if it is intentional or unintentional. In other words, there is a chance (and sometimes a certainty) that he's intentionally making her uncomfortable. This weekend, I was walking in the park with my dog. I was stopped by a man also walking a dog. It was prom night for a lot of local high schools, and many families were in the park taking photos of the kids in their formal wear. The man--a complete stranger about 50 years old--told me that on his prom night, he stayed home and field stripped an AK47 because no one would go to prom with him. Creepy. And probably intentionally so. My gut told me to smile mildly and get the heck away from him, which I did.
Tayla Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 1: prolonged staring in a way that creates unease 2: comments that cross social decorum. 3: I don't care what the messenger looks like, the content can be unacceptable therefore the person has crossed a line. 4: the guy who uses " come here little girl" phrase is just.... creepy! 5: the guy wearing a trench coat and nothing else.... yeah had that happen when walking out of a fast food place.... 6: The guy who objectifies females... 7: The person who blatantly asks questions that are extremely personal. 1
preraph Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 Um... sorry? What I meant was that creepy will mean different things to different wonen. Creepy is in the eye of the beholder.... as in a different woman may or may not find the same guy to be creepy. Some women don't have very good instincts, though, and may believe in "lovesickness," and there's no such thing and that's a dangerous myth that needs to be dispelled. It is the tolerant women who end up with the most problematic men who won't leave.
preraph Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 There ARE creepy women too, plenty of them. But men are not in nearly as much danger of them getting physically violent because nearly all violent offenders are men to begin with and they're usually stronger, but it certainly can happen. There's weapons.
johndoe2 Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I refuse to believe it's purely the 'creep's' fault for being creepy. I'm pretty sure my personality is just innately 'creepy' to women. Doesn't matter how innocuous what I say is or whatever. But generally speaking, for whatever reason, women seem to assume that socially awkward men are most dangerous and threatening ones. Also, my guess is being alone is a big factor; it's hard (I think at least) to not appear creepy when at a bar and alone, as opposed to if you have friends. Again, also not necessarily a rational objection: plenty of sociopaths have lots of friends, and are in fact quite charming, Ted Bundy being the most famous example of the 'likable lunatic.' But over all I do think it is a fair point that the things that 'creep women out' are not necessarily correlated with actual danger, but as often as not it's simply stigmas associated with what are in fact purely innocuous characteristics (like being shy or socially awkward or what have you).
preraph Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 ^ Well, that's right. If you're not social and don't have friends, why wouldn't that tell a woman something about you. It tells her for some reason no one is being friends with you and it's either you or them -- and either way, that's creepy
phineas Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 When I was fat I had women I knew call me "creepy" just for asking them out. two yrs later when I was no longer fat, telling the exact same women to take off their pants after I pulled their boobs out while in my car at the bar parking lot? not creepy. And after I never called them then ran into them and took them out to my car again? Still not creepy. ROTFLMAO! on a side note, I do know women who do get hit on a lot & they've hardly ever called a guy a creep for hitting on them. so not all women label men creeps for no reason. 5
ASG Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 When I was fat I had women I knew call me "creepy" just for asking them out. two yrs later when I was no longer fat, telling the exact same women to take off their pants after I pulled their boobs out while in my car at the bar parking lot? not creepy. And after I never called them then ran into them and took them out to my car again? Still not creepy. ROTFLMAO! on a side note, I do know women who do get hit on a lot & they've hardly ever called a guy a creep for hitting on them. so not all women label men creeps for no reason. I've had plenty of guys hit on me. Most were not creepy. They were just guys trying their luck. After I made my decision known, they would either pursue (if positive) or go away (if negative). The only creeps I've had to deal with were the ones where, after I demonstrated I was NOT interested, they still tried to pursue me. No means No and those guys seemed to not really get it. And were trying to escalate things when there was no place to do so... 2
phineas Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 (edited) IfI've had plenty of guys hit on me. Most were not creepy. They were just guys trying their luck. After I made my decision known, they would either pursue (if positive) or go away (if negative). The only creeps I've had to deal with were the ones where, after I demonstrated I was NOT interested, they still tried to pursue me. No means No and those guys seemed to not really get it. And were trying to escalate things when there was no place to do so... Your use of the phrase"no means no" and the word escalation don't belong in a thread about men being labeled creepy. They belong in a sexual assault thread. You've taken this way too far and i find you kinda creepy for it. Edited May 19, 2015 by phineas
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted May 19, 2015 Posted May 19, 2015 I once had a very attractive "creep" follow me around at the bar. He had bought me a drink then went on to tell me he was only 19. I told him "NOPE!" and he proceeded to follow me around the entire night, shouting at me and saying I used him for drinks. He was an entertaining creep for sure.
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