Author Jclements00 Posted May 30, 2015 Author Posted May 30, 2015 Well today I'm moving I moved my big stuff. I looked around real good the guy before me left like five full bottles of expensive rum awesome. 3
Author Jclements00 Posted June 3, 2015 Author Posted June 3, 2015 So I moved all my stuff this past weekend. Haven't been depressed or anything just busy and tired from unpacking and trying to figure out how to set the place up. A friend gave me a free queen mattress and box spring which I was concerned when I'd be able to afford a bed. Stupid me bought a sofa from a nice couple on Craigslist but it was in a storage unit and has mold all over it. The picture showed none and I scrubbed it hard with Lysol and stain remover which didn't work then rain hit it hard. It's dry now but moldy and I'm putting it in the shed and buying a futon instead. Landlord even brought over some food my first night there. All in all I'll be happy when I'm done unpacking and arranging my stuff. It's nice to have my own place now. I had apartments before by myself but never a place with a yard with two bedrooms I can make my own. I'm gonna make one room a computer room as my bedroom is small enough only for the bed pretty much. And my living room is small it's more suited for a futon or loveseat and recliner. In time I plan on buying a nice loveseat and recliner maybe. 4
Author Jclements00 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 So I been on my own a week and a half now and it's pretty much business as usual. I feel nothing in regards to being depressed or any of that. Still text the ex some about taxes and even how we're fixing up our places now. All civil. I'm even talking to two women from the pof site I have both their numbers but I'm in no hurry to jump into anything. Just seeing what's out there and playing the field. Im enjoying setting up my place how I want just me and my dog. 1
Morbius Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 So I been on my own a week and a half now and it's pretty much business as usual. I feel nothing in regards to being depressed or any of that. Still text the ex some about taxes and even how we're fixing up our places now. All civil. I'm even talking to two women from the pof site I have both their numbers but I'm in no hurry to jump into anything. Just seeing what's out there and playing the field. Im enjoying setting up my place how I want just me and my dog. Good to see you are moving on. Appreciate the update. It is difficult, but I am sure you are glad to be out of there. Of course, no hurry, but I'm sure it feels good to be talking with women. Enjoy your faithful companion!
Cephalopod Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Sounds like you are on your way to a better life, but if I were you, I would stop talking to and texting the ex. Any texting you should be doing from now on should only concern the divorce. Cut the cord and extricate her and her rotten friends from your life.
LoveMachine67 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 So I been on my own a week and a half now and it's pretty much business as usual. I feel nothing in regards to being depressed or any of that. Still text the ex some about taxes and even how we're fixing up our places now. All civil. I'm even talking to two women from the pof site I have both their numbers but I'm in no hurry to jump into anything. Just seeing what's out there and playing the field. Im enjoying setting up my place how I want just me and my dog. Good for you JC! Glad to hear you are hitting the ground running...
Author Jclements00 Posted June 12, 2015 Author Posted June 12, 2015 Thanks ya'll. Yeah things are going smooth so far and the trailer I moved into turned out to be pretty nice inside once I set it up how I wanted. I still have a few things to do like hang a few more curtains and buy a loveseat or recliner to replace the futon I just bought for temporary use. And they still need to paint the outside so it'll look good there too not just inside. 2
Author Jclements00 Posted July 2, 2015 Author Posted July 2, 2015 So I met a woman on a dating website about a month ago. We talked for three weeks before we met last weekend. Went out Saturday and Sunday. The first date we just ate and talked. The second date we we went to the bowling alley and ended up playing games in the game room. That's the night we kissed and more like made out pretty intense. She's like me coming off a separation and doesn't want to rush anything. We talked about a third date actually going bowling since we didn't get to. She has an awesome personality and great attitude towards life and is just a beautiful woman. Seems like someone I'd like to really get to know and see how far it can go. The only thing is she usually takes a while to text back like a few hours sometimes. Now she has kids and a life besides me which may be why. I'm not sure but the past few days it just seems like she hasn't been texting much and I joked about blowing me off which she said she isn't. I really like her so far and want to see her again. I think I'm gonna stop texting her anything and see if she starts texting me. I don't text her much when she isn't texting back so I don't seem pushy. Any advice on how to go about this?
autumnnight Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 So I met a woman on a dating website about a month ago. We talked for three weeks before we met last weekend. Went out Saturday and Sunday. The first date we just ate and talked. The second date we we went to the bowling alley and ended up playing games in the game room. That's the night we kissed and more like made out pretty intense. She's like me coming off a separation and doesn't want to rush anything. We talked about a third date actually going bowling since we didn't get to. She has an awesome personality and great attitude towards life and is just a beautiful woman. Seems like someone I'd like to really get to know and see how far it can go. The only thing is she usually takes a while to text back like a few hours sometimes. Now she has kids and a life besides me which may be why. I'm not sure but the past few days it just seems like she hasn't been texting much and I joked about blowing me off which she said she isn't. I really like her so far and want to see her again. I think I'm gonna stop texting her anything and see if she starts texting me. I don't text her much when she isn't texting back so I don't seem pushy. Any advice on how to go about this? So you met her before you moved out, is that correct?
66Charger Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 She has an awesome personality and great attitude towards life and is just a beautiful woman. Seems like someone I'd like to really get to know and see how far it can go. Are you like this also? If not, you need to become that way. Drop the expectations, look your best and just go with the flow. Since you met on a dating site, do not think you are the only one she is talking to. You need to become the best one she is talking to. Dont put a lot into this right now, she has children, just "have a awesome personality, a great attitude towards life and be someone she would like to get to know" Ps. Dont ever talk about your ex to her again.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 2, 2015 Author Posted July 2, 2015 No I met her after I moved out. The only reason I had talked about my ex is cause she talked about her ex since we are both in the same boat right now. I can see she hasn't been on the site in a week or so but doesn't mean she isn't texting anyone. She has a good catholic upbringing and says she doesn't give it up quickly nor bring any guys around her kids right away. She also told me she's been on three dates since she separated and why they didn't work out. I want to be fun and show her my best side and be the guy that so says wins her but how can I if she won't text me much or at all. That's why I'm thinking I need to not text her at all and see if she starts to wonder and texts me. I could also be overthinking this and she just isn't the type to text back right away or is busy with kids or life or some other guy or guys. She seems like the type to not be dating more than one guy at a time but we aren't dating I just took her out two nights in a row.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 2, 2015 Author Posted July 2, 2015 Well she just texted me a nice text seeming like things are fine so we shall see what happens. 2
Author Jclements00 Posted July 3, 2015 Author Posted July 3, 2015 Thank you. We've texted a bit tonight. She has her kids this weekend so we can't get together and she said she doesn't bring the kids in until she gets to know someone and she hasn't gotten far enough with a guy yet to bring them in. I can only pray I'm the first cause the way she is, I don't see anything yet telling me something I don't like and that she's not a good girl. Yet I'm not allowing myself to get any hopes up.
eric1 Posted July 3, 2015 Posted July 3, 2015 Yeah it's not worth getting hopes up. You both sound like good people but also people fragile from the impact of not-good people.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 3, 2015 Author Posted July 3, 2015 I'm not sure about the fragile part from either of us. She seems to be like me, happier away from the ex and focused on herself. I know not to believe anything she says until it's proven with time so as of now she says he cheated on her a few times and she just had enough and separated in January but who really knows what happened. She says she had a good Catholic upbringing which I'm Catholic so that's a major plus and I do see it as she isn't throwing herself at me and we didn't kiss until the second date and she won't bring a man around her kids until she gets to know him. She said she hasn't gotten far enough with another man yet to even bring the kids in. It's good to have met someone who seems to have values and morals. And she isn't rushing anything which I'm in no hurry I'm still taking my time in getting what I want for my place and just enjoying the peace and quiet of being single. So the fragile part doesn't seem to be a problem at all. I know I'm business as usual with the ex gone and I'll even say we're better friends now than ever even though it may be against the rule book no need for being mean or anything we keep it copacetic. But yeah I'm definitely not getting my hopes up even if I would like something great to come out of this and it seems so far like she's got every bit of what could make me happier than anyone else has.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 We texted some Thursday and she didn't respond to my text at around 8 that night so Friday I didn't text at all neither did she. Wanted to she if she would end up texting me and she did today and we been texting off and on since. But now I'm not responding right away I wait a bit since she usually takes a lil while between texts I don't need her thinking I'm always waiting by my phone for her text.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 Easy for you to say. The small area I live in their aren't a ton of decent looking single middle aged women without the bs drama around here. The woman I'm talking to lives 45 minutes away. I have talked to quite a few women also and none of them came off nearly as good as the one I'm talking to now. It's not like I moved out from my ex and talked to just one and decided to stick to her. I talked to several and weighed my options and chose to take her out and see what happens and it just seems we hit it off pretty good so ok.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 Well the woman and I seem to be talking pretty good yesterday and today. I'm praying I can take her on a date this weekend. The first date was ihop yes ihop cause it was late as she was in a softball tournament all day and chose the place so we could meet and talk. The second date wasn't really a date, we went to go bowling but the alley was closing soon so we played some games in the game room which she won most of. And we talked a lot and that's when I went in for the kiss which turned into making out and got pretty heated. Hopefully next weekend I can take her out to eat and bowling earlier at a decent time.
66Charger Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Ihop and a bowling alley? Its time for a proper date. Look sharp, bring a flower, open the door and spend a little money.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 7, 2015 Author Posted July 7, 2015 (edited) Well we planned a proper date but she was out of town for a softball tournament all day but still wanted to meet so we said screw it ihop is open lets just go talk. My plan is to give her a single rose next time and I did dress decent to meet her and opened doors was a gentleman. We had planned to eat at a nice Indian restaurant then go bowling do something fun which bowling I think is still the plan for the next date. We wanna have fun not sit in a movie theater or somewhere too quiet and do nothing. Then if I get a future date I may bring her to a local garden place where we can walk through this huge botanical garden and bird sanctuary and it'd be more intimate. The old dinner and a movie is fine but we both like having fun and even going out to Bourbon Street we talked about since it's only an hour and half from where she lives and she likes to dance and cut up and neither of us are big drinkers so we wouldn't get dog faced drunk. Edited July 7, 2015 by Jclements00
Author Jclements00 Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 I asked this girl last week if she wanted to do something last weekend but she couldn't cause she had her kids. No problem so I said maybe this weekend coming up. I ask her today if she wants to go out Saturday and she says she's gonna have to see cause her mom asked her last weekend about doing something and she's gonna see if she still wants to. I wasn't born yesterday. Im not stupid. If you wanna go out with a guy you're not gonna go out with your mom instead or say that's what you're doing. I asked before last weekend before her mom supposedly asked her. So I replied with ok maybe another time. That's it I'm not texting this girl back unless she texts me wanting to go out. And none of this late night junk we did the two nights we went out. Either she's a good girl who actually wants a good guy or she's like most other girls and wishy washy. And I can't stand a wishy washy son of a you know what.
Author Jclements00 Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 So she started texting me and we been texting a good bit today and tonight. Seems like she wouldn't text much if she wasn't interested so we'll see what happens. She even said she could drive to my place one night to go out.
beach Posted July 10, 2015 Posted July 10, 2015 So she started texting me and we been texting a good bit today and tonight. Seems like she wouldn't text much if she wasn't interested so we'll see what happens. She even said she could drive to my place one night to go out. Is she now planning to go on a date with you this weekend? Surely - what she must have planned with her Mom couldn't be taking up her whole weekend. Ask her to breakfast... That way it keeps things simple and doesn't cost you a fortune and a whole evening.
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