Ethan78 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I think this boring meme that is here and there all over this forum about "any guy a girl is not attracted to" is really because he is probably behaving in a socially awkward way that is … maybe creepy. Close talkers and mouth breathers can be pretty creepy whatever the gender don't you think?? Since when was social awkwardness or shyness creepy? I have had women come and talk to me and felt that they were unable to make conversation very well. However, I simply made an effort to engage because it is a two way thing. If I chose to go quiet and let her do all the work when she is already uncomfortable would I really be accurate to call her "creepy" or am I simply not making an effort socially and then being offended because she finds it difficult. Welcome to the world of socialising with women. I often breathe through my mouth because I have problems with my nose. Are women with nasal problems creepy too? Are you creepy when you get a blocked nose and breathe through your mouth? Men insult women, and vice versa. The idea that women only name call if there is some criteria that is assessed is nonsense. Women gossip, call other women names, and call men names. It is nothing to do with high school. Plenty of adults behave in a nasty way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Since when was social awkwardness or shyness creepy? I have had women come and talk to me and felt that they were unable to make conversation very well. However, I simply made an effort to engage because it is a two way thing. If I chose to go quiet and let her do all the work when she is already uncomfortable would I really be accurate to call her "creepy" or am I simply not making an effort socially and then being offended because she finds it difficult. Welcome to the world of socialising with women. I often breathe through my mouth because I have problems with my nose. Are women with nasal problems creepy too? Are you creepy when you get a blocked nose and breathe through your mouth? Men insult women, and vice versa. The idea that women only name call if there is some criteria that is assessed is nonsense. Women gossip, call other women names, and call men names. It is nothing to do with high school. Plenty of adults behave in a nasty way. I have had my moments of being nervous when talking to a woman but I tried my hardest to be calm about it. I was then perceived as creepy mostly because of my approach. I remember asking a friend of hers about this and told me that she thought that my approach was a little creepy, and then I told him that I kind of knew how she perceived me at first. I told him that I sometimes get awkward if I like a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Since when was social awkwardness or shyness creepy? Simmer down Ethan I didn't say that social awkwardness or shyness is creepy I don't think that!!! I said he may be behaving in a socially awkward way that is PERCEIVED as creepy, like an Aspie guy I know from school. He is NOT a creep but if you don't know him you really might be put off by his way of interacting socially and other guys feel the same way about him, once you get to know him you "get" him and you don't think he is creepy. I often breathe through my mouth because I have problems with my nose. Are women with nasal problems creepy too? Are you creepy when you get a blocked nose and breathe through your mouth? Maybe I am!! I was pretty clear in my post that it applies to either gender though. Miss Bee is right, there are all kinds of unlikeable guys who are NOT creepy and then there are the creepy ones and I also think some girls can be big creeps as well! Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 There is no consensus on the definition of creepy. It's based on the individuals in question. It's highly situational as well. An action can be perceived as creepy one day, but then seem perfectly normal another. Emotional state is a factor. Trying to get an objective definition of creepy is an exercise in futility. This is coming from a guy who was called creepy for sharing my umbrella with a woman as we were leaving the office on a rainy night. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 When I mentioned mouth-breathing, I was thinking of that character on Hey Arnold! who would get right up next to someone. All the sudden he would be there right in their space and the only way they knew he was there was that they heard him breathing right behind them. So maybe I should have said sudden sneaky lurking can be creepy. A man who has had a bad experience with a handful of women and then generalizes that all women are awful isn't creepy....he's just sad. But I still wouldn't date him. Why would I date someone who hates my gender? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 guys I'm just friends with. Nothing creepy there. I don't want to bang them or date them uhhhh, but, they want to bang you (and at such time as when they reveal{aka spell out} as much, they are automatically "creepy") Therein lies the absurdity in the whole picture. As the people not getting the clues in these cases are women. Creepy is a word misused and misapplied by women usually at such a time when they won't stand-up for themselves during social interactions which should either end with acceptance or rejection. These guys want to bang you... that's the oooooooooonly reason they're around. Were it any other case, they would be trading pins with you on Pinterest, for heaven's sake. Keeping some dude as your 24th-best (or 240th-best) option and having him pace back and forth outside your residence at 1:00am on alternate nights just because you won't cut the cord is just something you do for your own ego. Now what say you cut it out, and take a stand? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I really call guys or girls creepy on an equal basis, something creepy: a person with a really clammy limp hand shake Lol... I do a "firm" handshake on purpose cuz I wanna display confidence - but I guess I'm trying to "hide" my creepiness? Yeah, I find limp handshakes more annoying and fake/flakey. Usually it's some flakey women that have done that to me. They don't stick out their hand like pointing at you, they literally "hang" their hand into yours and give a limp touch instead of a shake Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 Creepy would be like my stalker #2. I would sit down and not acknowledge him. He would talk for 20 or 30 min while I said maybe 5 words the entire time while not looking at him, earphones in, and playing on my phone. I guess creepy is ignoring obvious social cues and having no boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
Easyguy14 Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I think it's someone with weird or inappropriate body language. For example, someone who stares in your eyes for 5 minutes with blank expression and without blinking. Or someone who touches you intimately out of nowhere. Or someone who smiles with their mouth but not with their eyes and keeps that smile for a long time until they suddenly change their expression to a serious one. That kind of thing. I see this kind of behavior every day so does that make half the population creepy? I think not. But I do agree with the above behavior listed. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted March 4, 2015 Share Posted March 4, 2015 I am clearly not the norm after reading this. There is one man at work who is creepy. He is creepy to me and all the women at work - plus the guys think it too. Outside of work I know one creepy man - and again he is creepy to all (men included), not just me. Link to post Share on other sites
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