Question to girls, Height vs being good looking

February 1, 2015

He must be good looking (to me). I want to be attracted to him and I want to find him physically appealing. I really don't care about height whatsoever. I'm 5'11 and my boyfriend is 5'5. Doesn't bother me at all, I don't even think about it.

February 1, 2015

ok maybe you are right, I don't know for sure. Just seems a little bizarre that a girl would impose something like this on herself, its just making things harder for herself.

Yes you are making complete sense, but this logic doesn't always apply. Girls want what they want.

February 1, 2015

You're assuming this is something that women think logically about.

Exactly what I was getting at. Girls not all but the majority are more emotionally driven. You can sit there explain and it doesn't get through.

February 1, 2015

Yes you are making complete sense, but this logic doesn't always apply. Girls want what they want.

I think its unfair to say all tall girls are like this. Maybe most are, who knows. I ve had two 5'10 girls hit on me at different points and I m only 5'9. Sure most 5'10 girls would probably prefer a taller guy, but I don't think its an absolute deal breaker for all tall women, especially cause they probably know its just shooting themselves in their foot to disqualify the vast majority of men.

February 1, 2015

I think its unfair to say all tall girls are like this. Maybe most are, who knows. I ve had two 5'10 girls hit on me at different points and I m only 5'9. Sure most 5'10 girls would probably prefer a taller guy, but I don't think its an absolute deal breaker for all tall women, especially cause they probably know its just shooting themselves in their foot to disqualify the vast majority of men.

I think you have it correct most but not all. Like 9 out 10 I don't know how accurate that number is its just a guess.

February 1, 2015

I think its unfair to say all tall girls are like this. Maybe most are, who knows. I ve had two 5'10 girls hit on me at different points and I m only 5'9. Sure most 5'10 girls would probably prefer a taller guy, but I don't think its an absolute deal breaker for all tall women, especially cause they probably know its just shooting themselves in their foot to disqualify the vast majority of men.

there is no noticeable height difference between 5'10 and 5'9, so it's not that amazing they would approach you. it only looks like an unusual pairing - and starts to feel bizarre to a taller woman - when you start to get a difference of 3" and more in height.

February 1, 2015

there is no noticeable height difference between 5'10 and 5'9, so it's not that amazing they would approach you. it only looks like an unusual pairing - and starts to feel bizarre to a taller woman - when you start to get a difference of 3" and more in height.

I believe you are being truthful. It's very good you are realistic and will work to your benefit.

February 1, 2015

I like height. I don't think I could be physically attracted to someone my height or shorter. If they were my height they would have to be significantly beefier. I hate the feeling when I'm being intimate with a man that I could hurt him. I'm 5'7" and 150 lbs, so a guy would really need to be at least 180 or more for me to feel sexy with him.

My current lover is 6'0" and 230 pounds. He is very strong and muscular, cute face. I could imagine being attracted to a similarly built man down to about 5'9".

My boyfriend (who knows about the lover and vice versa) is 6'3", 180 lbs, not so cute face. He's so tall that he's also on the skinnier side. He's about as thin as I would want to go in a lover.

It's all so individual though. I am submissive in the bedroom and the physical presence of my lovers really plays into that. I have a girlfriend with my same physical build that loves short, skinny, Asian dudes.

February 1, 2015

I like height. I don't think I could be physically attracted to someone my height or shorter. If they were my height they would have to be significantly beefier. I hate the feeling when I'm being intimate with a man that I could hurt him. I'm 5'7" and 150 lbs, so a guy would really need to be at least 180 or more for me to feel sexy with him.

My current lover is 6'0" and 230 pounds. He is very strong and muscular, cute face. I could imagine being attracted to a similarly built man down to about 5'9".

My boyfriend (who knows about the lover and vice versa) is 6'3", 180 lbs, not so cute face. He's so tall that he's also on the skinnier side. He's about as thin as I would want to go in a lover.

It's all so individual though. I am submissive in the bedroom and the physical presence of my lovers really plays into that. I have a girlfriend with my same physical build that loves short, skinny, Asian dudes.

A 5'9 guy at 180lbs is overweight (though not greatly so).

150 lbs for a girl who is 5'7, is also edging towards being overweight unless you have a large frame. So you prefer you and your partner to be on the heavier side?

The part about having a known lover beside your BF is just wow to me, though I am no one to judge.

Edited February 1, 2015 by you_can_not_see_me

February 1, 2015

That is my opinion, I was just throwing in a variable that could distort the answers to the question.

How did I get this? while using dating sites, every tall girl says she wants a guy taller than her.

Not every but a lot of women wrote, if youre under 180cm (yea google that) dont contact me. and they were quite a few. a lot write "TALL!!!!!!!" in what their looking for.

I'll go ahead and tell you that the answers will not align will reality. On here a lot will tell you they do not care if the guy is shorter and reality were 9 out of 10 couples the guy is taller.

women will say all sorts of things. many dont want to hurt short guys feelings so they say things in a delicate manner. or the woman isnt that good looking/overweight so she knows she has to settle.

Ive seen shrimpy girls (155-160cm) write specifically that they are short but want a tall guy. and others who were tall and never mentioned a guys height. tall women have it much harder than the shorter ones. and many tall guys dont want to give up that height difference so easily. just like women want a tall guy to hold them and feel secure, many men dont want to give up that par in height.

If he's short he has to be good looking.

But tall and good looking is best.

Tall and ugly isn't a good option.

short and ugly isnt good either. and lets not get into the fat or bald options either.

there is no noticeable height difference between 5'10 and 5'9, so it's not that amazing they would approach you. it only looks like an unusual pairing - and starts to feel bizarre to a taller woman - when you start to get a difference of 3" and more in height.

no youre right and there no noticeable difference between 5'9''-5'8 or from 5'8'-5'7" yea lets add remove another inch over and over. usually its the short guys who try to downplay their dwarfism. " its not bad, no big deal".whatever. short is short. and 1 inch makes a difference. look at all those shrimp guys who wear those high heeled shoes.

A 5'9 guy at 180lbs is overweight (though not greatly so).

for a bodybuilder it isnt. for an athlete it isnt. im overweight by the bmi chart. but im a bodybuilder so im not in the statistic.

February 1, 2015

Are you serious!

Of course the good looking guy!

February 1, 2015

short and ugly isnt good either. and lets not get into the fat or bald options either.

no youre right and there no noticeable difference between 5'9''-5'8 or from 5'8'-5'7" yea lets add remove another inch over and over. usually its the short guys who try to downplay their dwarfism. " its not bad, no big deal".whatever. short is short. and 1 inch makes a difference. look at all those shrimp guys who wear those high heeled shoes.

Yes I have seen it on match. Almost all the pretty girls no matter how short they are" lis no shorter than 5'10" as a requirement

February 1, 2015

A 5'9 guy at 180lbs is overweight (though not greatly so).

150 lbs for a girl who is 5'7, is also edging towards being overweight unless you have a large frame. So you prefer you and your partner to be on the heavier side?
The part about having a known lover beside your BF is just wow to me, though I am no one to judge.

I'm actually quite muscular, so I'd say my frame is average. I think for me it's about proportion and fitness. If I were to find someone 5'9" attractive he'd need to be pretty built. That said, I did date a 5'7" guy for a bit, and while he wasn't my physical ideal, we did have fun! And if we'd fallen in love I wouldn't have let his height prevent me from pursuing things further.

I don't find overweight men attractive. I like muscular, fit, large men. I am also muscular and fit so I feel I offer the same. But, the heart can be strange and I have found fleeting attractions to men outside my parameters.

February 1, 2015

I do tinder. I don't know how tall the men are (or care) unless he writes it on his profile. I swiped right on a jockey bloke. He must be 4-5ft. He is hot and likes running.

February 1, 2015

At 6'1 myself...and being from one of the largest cities in the US, I think it's safe to say that height is going to play much less of a factor in the dating game as men would anticipate.

Although "tall and good looking is best"...so is Victoria Secret model in the face and body for women...but what are your realistic chances at that? there's just not enough tall and good looking men to go around, nor is there Victoria Secret models...but there's plenty of shorter men around who might be good looking.

I don't sniff the back of people's heads like most people, I get my air own space the majority of the time...it's easy to scan the area and tell who's taller because their great big head is like a sunflower popping out of a garden of dandelions. And trust me, there isn't many.

And btw this is even more apparent when traveling, guys abroad appear even shorter to me as an average.

If I do see taller guys, you get the tall and lanky, or large and kind of orgerrish, or just not good looking or someone the average woman would necessarily pick out of a line-up as the "perfect man". When women are thinking of tall, they're thinking of someone who is also good-looking enough, and appealing sexually and physically...which not all guys are who are over the 6 ft mark.

So more women in the end are going to date shorter guys who are "good looking" or even not-so-good-looking than they are taller guys, chances are anyway.

Women may go after the tallest men on OLD sites and what not...but the chances are she's not going to end up with that guy, just like you're not going to end up with the prettiest girl in OLD either, who's got a inbox full of messages from a rainbow of different men...most of whom would likely never approach her in real life.

If you are tall and good-looking you've been dealt a rare card in life as a man, but this is not something these men are even aware of...they actually think women are interested in them for who they are. And others...well others just exploit their attractiveness for their own benefit...much like a shorter good-looking guy with "style" would. Tall guys can't wear those cute little Ken barbie doll clothes that look good on smaller built guys or teddy bears, it clashes with our size because of that "tailored fit"...taller guys tend to have more trouble finding well fitted clothes to their body types.

February 1, 2015

Medium height and good looking for me definitely.

I'm only 5ft tall myself though.

I've dated guys from 5ft 6in to 6ft 5in but I prefer the 5ft 6in to 5ft 10 range as to me that is tall.

February 1, 2015

Hi all,

Not exactly new, have been reading fairly regularly for at least 6+ years, had an account in the past & posted quite a few replies....but forgotten my log in details now...

For me, it's all about the face & eyes... if the personality & other connections & 'in-commons' are also there. Basically, it isn't usually a 'traditionally' good looking guy, just someone *I* am attracted to. I've always been the bigger girl with such a pretty face....

I'm 5'6" & could only be with someone taller than me, even by just a little. I'm a curvy woman (not obese, but not slim or skinny) I would feel very self-conscious being taller + wider than the guy I'm with ...& yes I realise that's my own issue...

February 1, 2015

I like height. I don't think I could be physically attracted to someone my height or shorter. If they were my height they would have to be significantly beefier. I hate the feeling when I'm being intimate with a man that I could hurt him. I'm 5'7" and 150 lbs, so a guy would really need to be at least 180 or more for me to feel sexy with him.

lol. Hurt him, how by breaking his pelvis doing cowgirl at high intensity. Ive surprised a few gfs with my strength and wasn't worried over a 150lb gf hurting me. Isn't there now the risk that a 230+ lb guy can hurt you. Does that mean most of the guys here need to avoid all the women over say 160 lbs for fear of getting hurt. I think its best for guys to be safe and just date slender build women. I'm just being a bit of a smartarse, but I find the 'I don't wont a bf who I can kick his arse being directed at short or skinny guys to be laugh, but I do get the evolutionary desire aspect of women wanting a big guy.

February 1, 2015

So yeah this question is primarily aimed at women. I m hoping for honest opinions, no judgement!

So girls would you say a tall guy with average looking face is more attractive to you, or a guy of medium height but good looking face?

I know Ideal would be good looking face and tall, but that's not the question;)

I am a face person and have dated a few guys not very tall who had wonderful faces. I do not think a guy is attractive just because he's tall. For example, actress Kristin Bell's husband, Dax Shepard, is very tall, nice body. I don't like his face and find him totally repugnant. There are lots and lots of tall guys I do not have any attraction for, but I always love a nice face if it's attached to an interesting persona.

February 1, 2015

I'm a girl and I'm sure my answer isn't within your parameters but here it is - I might like a tall guy with a not handsome face and I might like a shorter guy with a handsome face or I might like a tall guy with a handsome face OR a short guy with a not handsome face. I guess it's down' to CHEMISTRY!! Haha I know some of you guys hate that but it's the way it is for me, sometimes it's unexplainable what makes a person say YEAH!!! :bunny:

February 1, 2015

So yeah this question is primarily aimed at women. I m hoping for honest opinions, no judgement!

So girls would you say a tall guy with average looking face is more attractive to you, or a guy of medium height but good looking face?

I know Ideal would be good looking face and tall, but that's not the question;)

While I like tall men/men taller than me, I genuinely don't choose men simply on height or looks. It's an entire package deal which makes me attracted to someone so sometimes it is pretty difficult or artificial to answer these kinds of questions, as I can only answer them for the sake of discussion but in real life and how it actually works is not that simple.

I like who I like and I've liked short guys before, guys with big noses, crooked smiles, all kinds of looks that would not be considered "the ideal". The reason I liked them were for the same reason I liked tall guys or more conventionally good looking guys. I was attracted to them as a total package and it wasn't me isolating their height or face and deciding on either of those things only. Attraction doesn't work like that fortunately.

Attraction is a funny thing. You meet someone and you just like them or want them many times even if you yourself would say they aren't the tallest or most handsome, but for whatever reason you just fancy the hell out of that person. That's the great thing! You can then spend less time worrying about some magic height and face combo and realize that attraction is more than that so you'll still have folks who like you regardless of if you fit some perfect mold.

Edited to add: 5'11" is tall enough in my book. I'm 5'4". The tallest guy I dated was 6'7" and the shortest probably 5'7" most were probably between 5'10"-6'1".

Edited February 1, 2015 by MissBee

February 1, 2015

It depends....

I've been with guys who were shorter than me, but OMG, handsome as heck:love:. I've also been with tall guys who were average, hot, etc.

It's not that simple. It's the whole package...his looks, personality, etc. So height isn't the only factor.

I just hope that "he" is confident with himself. Sometimes I worry that a shorter guy and/or an average looking guy might have insecurities and I have ran into some guys like that.

Look guys, if I'm talking to you, making contact with you, etc. - that means I'm interested. Stop questioning it and just roll with it already!!!

While I have my insecurities and get intimidated, I try to push past it if I'm into the guy. I try to give him a chance and see. I don't get how I can intimidate certain guys and wish the wouldn't feel that way and take a step back and realize that I may be more scared of them than they are than me (even though I won't show how intimidated I am).

February 1, 2015

Medium in my book is 5'7 to 5'11, tall is 6' and above.

I would definitely choose tall but average looking face over "medium" but good looking. The "good looking" faced guy is probably much more likely to cheat, too, in my opinion. Sad but true.

I'm tall though, so that might skew my perspective on tall men.

February 1, 2015

It depends....

I've been with guys who were shorter than me, but OMG, handsome as heck:love:. I've also been with tall guys who were average, hot, etc.

It's not that simple. It's the whole package...his looks, personality, etc. So height isn't the only factor.

I just hope that "he" is confident with himself. Sometimes I worry that a shorter guy and/or an average looking guy might have insecurities and I have ran into some guys like that.

Look guys, if I'm talking to you, making contact with you, etc. - that means I'm interested. Stop questioning it and just roll with it already!!!

While I have my insecurities and get intimidated, I try to push past it if I'm into the guy. I try to give him a chance and see. I don't get how I can intimidate certain guys and wish the wouldn't feel that way and take a step back and realize that I may be more scared of them than they are than me (even though I won't show how intimidated I am).

If they'd give me a chance instead of sitting around rolling "why is she attracted to/interested in me?"...maybe he can actually get to know me and see if I'm for real already!!!

February 1, 2015

I never used to think this was much of an issue until I heard it myself. On two accounts. A woman said: He is the perfect guy for me but he's just too short. I felt sorry for the guy. I remember the girl was tall for a woman around 5'7" or 5'8". Obviously he's not the perfect guy then. Its not easy being short. What cracks me up is when women where heels. But when its time to take a picture they squat down. Lmao

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