badkarma2013 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 this line of thinking is pretty easy to validate! during the R, did your sex life SKYROCKET with all sorts of kinky sex all the time, lasting from DDay to now? Or was there a brief attempt then fizzle to nothing. If the former, it WAS all about sex. If the latter, she was either lying to you or deluding herself. Didnt give a Sh*t about touching her ever again...THAT was destroyed when I saw the Pics.... I SAW what she let the OM do to her....she was DEAD to me shortly after some facts came out... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Didnt give a Sh*t about touching her ever again...THAT was destroyed when I saw the Pics.... I SAW what she let the OM do to her....she was DEAD to me shortly after some facts came out... I literally recoil in empathetic pain when I read what you had to endure. You know you did the right thing by not wasting time trying to reconcile but I have to tell you that those images would have prevented you from ever seeing her as your wife again. But I am envious of you because the extreme horror of the pictures pretty much guaranteed you were done with her. I'm sure my wife did many of the things your wife did but I have no evidence and she certainly isn't going to volunteer that kind of information. I wish the OM would have taken a bunch of Polaroid's and gave them to me - it would have made my decision so damn easy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 I literally recoil in empathetic pain when I read what you had to endure. You know you did the right thing by not wasting time trying to reconcile but I have to tell you that those images would have prevented you from ever seeing her as your wife again. But I am envious of you because the extreme horror of the pictures pretty much guaranteed you were done with her. I'm sure my wife did many of the things your wife did but I have no evidence and she certainly isn't going to volunteer that kind of information. I wish the OM would have taken a bunch of Polaroid's and gave them to me - it would have made my decision so damn easy. Well, one must be careful what one ask for...However i am glad i found out shortly after D-DAY ...I will never forget what the OM said when he pitched the flashdrive with the pics on it...he said" Bet you didnt know your prude wife was such a fuc&ing [email protected] NOT with you" Makes me wonder sometimes late at night,after 22 years, how could I have Missed seeing what she really was capable of..... I guess like the saying goes..."its easy to plant a Bomb in a peaceful trusting place." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Well, one must be careful what one ask for...However i am glad i found out shortly after D-DAY ...I will never forget what the OM said when he pitched the flashdrive with the pics on it...he said" Bet you didnt know your prude wife was such a fuc&ing [email protected] NOT with you" Makes me wonder sometimes late at night,after 22 years, how could I have Missed seeing what she really was capable of..... I guess like the saying goes..."its easy to plant a Bomb in a peaceful trusting place." So did he hate you that much? Or your wife? Why did he do this? Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 So did he hate you that much? Or your wife? Why did he do this? from a previous post...................... I outed him to his BW and she destroyed him in their divorce and I sued their company and they both lost their jobs... As I have stated I Napalmed his life and his revenge was showing me pics of my EXW doing every (according to her for 22 years) vile sex act you could think of...In turn he Napalmed mine... QUID PRO FUC*ING QUO...dont you think... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 from a previous post...................... I outed him to his BW and she destroyed him in their divorce and I sued their company and they both lost their jobs... As I have stated I Napalmed his life and his revenge was showing me pics of my EXW doing every (according to her for 22 years) vile sex act you could think of...In turn he Napalmed mine... QUID PRO FUC*ING QUO...dont you think... Now that I read it I do remember this horrible story. From the cheating to the porno pictures, I think you got the fuzzy end of the lollypop. You were innocent until you were destroyed on d-day. But you certainly nailed the SOB good. I love what you did to him (and your WW) but I'm sure it still wasn't enough for you to feel "even". But I hope it was close 2 Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Now that I read it I do remember this horrible story. From the cheating to the porno pictures, I think you got the fuzzy end of the lollypop. You were innocent until you were destroyed on d-day. But you certainly nailed the SOB good. I love what you did to him (and your WW) but I'm sure it still wasn't enough for you to feel "even". But I hope it was close There were 2 things that helped me over this quickly (besides my Anger).. 1. I showed the pics to some of her family members..that destroyed her.. 2. The Om/Boss told her after his divorce she was a SLUT and never wanted to see or hear from her again....he had lost everything..Divorce and Job... That was Priceless....Badkama indeed! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
jbrent890 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 There were 2 things that helped me over this quickly (besides my Anger).. 1. I showed the pics to some of her family members..that destroyed her.. 2. The Om/Boss told her after his divorce she was a SLUT and never wanted to see or hear from her again....he had lost everything..Divorce and Job... That was Priceless....Badkama indeed! Do you know what your ex is up to now. Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Do you know what your ex is up to now. Her/Our son will not speak to her ...The fallout from the lawsuit and the subsuquent loss of their jobs...she left town and moves approx 85 miles away.. Oms wife stayed ..no one would hire him or my EXW so he left as well...have no idea where he went... But we must remember...this Affair devastated 2 families and left nothing but scorched earth in its wake.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 (edited) 1. I showed the pics to some of her family members..that destroyed her.. I still am hoping these people wanted to see the pics if not this was one of the most selfish, cruel, hateful and disgusting things I have read on here done by a WS or BS. *I don't mean towards his wife. but her family. Even if they supported her he was divorcing and didn't need to burn those images into their minds as well. that is why I hope they asked to see them. As far as her. She did it, she let it be recorded. Unfortunatly, revenge has a way of hurting the innocents too.* Edited December 19, 2014 by Selfish Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 I still am hoping these people wanted to see the pics if not this was one of the most selfish, cruel, hateful and disgusting things I have read on here done by a WS or BS. *I don't mean towards his wife. but her family. Even if they supported her he was divorcing and didn't need to burn those images into their minds as well. that is why I hope they asked to see them. As far as her. She did it, she let it be recorded. Unfortunatly, revenge has a way of hurting the innocents too.* So only the BH is to have these images burned into his brain. I don't think so. When the in-laws become out-laws and support a WW over the marriage and it's children they need to be able to never deny what their daughter/WW did. Or blame shift the $h!t onto the son in-law/BH 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 So only the BH is to have these images burned into his brain. I don't think so. When the in-laws become out-laws and support a WW over the marriage and it's children they need to be able to never deny what their daughter/WW did. Or blame shift the $h!t onto the son in-law/BH The OM was cruel to show him the photos. It was an act of pure revenge. If they never asked He was cruel and selfish to show them to what ever family he did. It was disgusting acts breeding more disgusting acts. Just because one person commits a vile act doesn't mean another person can do so and be praised for it. Even if they did blame shift those would just be words. He wasn't staying married. They were out of his life. They didn't have sex with the OM and they didn't need to see images of their family member doing the same. Gender has nothing to do with this or right and wrong. Don't make it about gender when it isn't. If someone came along and showed me pictures of my brothers in sexual acts just to get back at my brothers I would wonder how they could be so wantonly cruel. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 The OM was cruel to show him the photos. It was an act of pure revenge. If they never asked He was cruel and selfish to show them to what ever family he did. It was disgusting acts breeding more disgusting acts. Just because one person commits a vile act doesn't mean another person can do so and be praised for it. Even if they did blame shift those would just be words. He wasn't staying married. They were out of his life. They didn't have sex with the OM and they didn't need to see images of their family member doing the same. Gender has nothing to do with this or right and wrong. Don't make it about gender when it isn't. If someone came along and showed me pictures of my brothers in sexual acts just to get back at my brothers I would wonder how they could be so wantonly cruel. All true - hurtful to her and her family and not necessary. I see it as an overreaction by him but I understand how he could be so angry & hurt & humiliated that he chose to share all of that with her family to punish WW. I doubt he took the time to consider it would be an act of cruelty to the family. Yeah, it was wrong but I understand. I can't imagine what I would have done with pictures like that... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TrustedthenBusted Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Fight Fire with Nuclear Megatron Bombs! WOOT WOOT! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Fight Fire with Nuclear Megatron Bombs! WOOT WOOT! Which is fine as long as no innocents are being hurt. The OM getting fired from his job was a natural consequence of not behaving professionally. ramming photos in people who didn't cheat on you's faces is just being cruel. It should never be encouraged or applauded. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Fight Fire with Nuclear Megatron Bombs! WOOT WOOT! Right on. There never will be compliance, security, safety, without suitable deterrent. Besides why would the WW be upset about those photo's being seen? After all she willingly "posed" with the OM. To do so meant she was proud of what she was doing/OM doing her, take your choice. By the way that BH was not believed by his out-laws. The out-laws supported the WW, choose to believe the WW's lies. The BH told the out-laws he had proof. The out-laws said show it. That's just what the BH did for his out-laws. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Selfish Posted December 19, 2014 Share Posted December 19, 2014 Right on. There never will be compliance, security, safety, without suitable deterrent. Besides why would the WW be upset about those photo's being seen? After all she willingly "posed" with the OM. To do so meant she was proud of what she was doing/OM doing her, take your choice. By the way that BH was not believed by his out-laws. The out-laws supported the WW, choose to believe the WW's lies. The BH told the out-laws he had proof. The out-laws said show it. That's just what the BH did for his out-laws. a few things. Sometimes my husband and I do pictures and poise. we do so for our private enjoyment not because we want to share them with other people. we aren't voyerists. IN fact we have sex with each other for ourselves... not for our parents. So don't be so rediculous in the defense. second of all, that was my disclaimer to being shocked he was so glib about showing the pictures. If the people asked for proof/the photos then I could understand. BUt that wasn't said. Nor could I find where he ever said that. If they never asked to see proof it is totally different. and totally disgusting. are you badkarma? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 a few things. Sometimes my husband and I do pictures and poise. we do so for our private enjoyment not because we want to share them with other people. we aren't voyerists. IN fact we have sex with each other for ourselves... not for our parents. So don't be so rediculous in the defense. second of all, that was my disclaimer to being shocked he was so glib about showing the pictures. If the people asked for proof/the photos then I could understand. BUt that wasn't said. Nor could I find where he ever said that. If they never asked to see proof it is totally different. and totally disgusting. are you badkarma? ***************************************************************** I would have NEVER done so without her family asking...they could not believe..she could have possiably done ANYTHING much less what she did... She had led them to believe I was making things up so I could file for D...at the time she did not know i had the flash drive in hand... She had (inferred ) I maybe was having an A.... When confronted I told them I had proof ...BUT YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE IT... I remember telling them if you see this it may be your UNDOING...and i wasnt kidding.. They called me a GODDA#N LIAR...until they didnt....and yes it was as HORRIBLE as you can imagine...we all cried and i to this day ...find no joy in those actions...only sadness...as you said so many others were crushed... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Jkidding Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 For me I only care when it started, for how long it went, did they have sex (obviously they did). But I dont care and do not want to know did they orgasm, did they enjoyed sex, what positions they tried. But I would take every answer with grain of salt - because cheating IS lying. Therefore cheater is usually a liar. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 For me I only care when it started, for how long it went, did they have sex (obviously they did). But I dont care and do not want to know did they orgasm, did they enjoyed sex, what positions they tried. But I would take every answer with grain of salt - because cheating IS lying. Therefore cheater is usually a liar. This is why the BS controls the amount revealed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 I expect to hear the full truth of course. If I ask a question, I want the truth. If I ask for the gory details, I expect them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Because most WS are only after some side action. They had no intention of leaving their BS, family, marriage. These are actual quotes from WWs to leading infidelity expert Katie Lersch.. Notice the SAME THEME ...It validates your point Road... "I had an affair with a man who takes yoga at the same time that I do. I never had any intention of leaving my husband and my family. I made the huge mistake of cheating on my spouse last year. My husband found out about it from the other man. My husband immediately confronted me and I admitted to everything. I don't want to jeopardize my family I regret cheating on my husband more than any mistake that I have ever made in my entire life. I love my husband. I don't want for him to leave me. I want him in my life. I was an idiot to jeopardize my marriage with this man. I had an affair that started at my job. And I know that the other man isn't a high quality person. He's not an upstanding guy the way that my husband is. The only thing that I had with the other man was great sex. I heard from a wife who said: "I feel like such a cheap, low life for cheating on my husband. I am so embarrassed by this. My husband lost his job last year and I had to go back to work. I decided to work at a restaurant so that I could have very flexible hours. I ended up having an affair with my boss, who manages the restaurant. Honestly, the other man isn't anyone that I would have associated with before, much less have been attracted to. This is so out of character for me My God...still amazes me how WSs act until Caught or confesses... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 These are actual quotes from WWs to leading infidelity expert Katie Lersch.. Notice the SAME THEME ...It validates your point Road... "I had an affair with a man who takes yoga at the same time that I do. I never had any intention of leaving my husband and my family. I made the huge mistake of cheating on my spouse last year. My husband found out about it from the other man. My husband immediately confronted me and I admitted to everything. I don't want to jeopardize my family I regret cheating on my husband more than any mistake that I have ever made in my entire life. I love my husband. I don't want for him to leave me. I want him in my life. I was an idiot to jeopardize my marriage with this man. I had an affair that started at my job. And I know that the other man isn't a high quality person. He's not an upstanding guy the way that my husband is. The only thing that I had with the other man was great sex. I heard from a wife who said: "I feel like such a cheap, low life for cheating on my husband. I am so embarrassed by this. My husband lost his job last year and I had to go back to work. I decided to work at a restaurant so that I could have very flexible hours. I ended up having an affair with my boss, who manages the restaurant. Honestly, the other man isn't anyone that I would have associated with before, much less have been attracted to. This is so out of character for me My God...still amazes me how WSs act until Caught or confesses... Who do you think taught Katie and made her so smart? Link to post Share on other sites
badkarma2013 Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Who do you think taught Katie and made her so smart? She caught her BH in his A....Broke her and then it appears that adversity does what it does to most of us...YOU CHANGE...But as my grandfather once told me...( and i have found it to be true)...Change Is Not Always for The Better... Link to post Share on other sites
Clay Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 The only think you should hear from the Cheating spouse is Good Bye as you kick them out of your life. It did not matter if my xW kissed the guy or not. All I cared about is that she was stepping out from our marriage. I never cared about the details. I am so thankful everyday she is gone Life is so much better when you move on. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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