Author benjamn12 Posted November 22, 2014 Author Share Posted November 22, 2014 Comparing travelling and violin with sex, which is the main human joy of life is nonsense. How much sex you had shows how capable you are in life as a human, the same as if you are walking and eating. If you don't have those 2 things you are not equal to other people. Travelling and violin are extra things in life, but not nessessary and such key thing for persons development as sex and ability to meet other persons and have sex with them like you are just shacking their hand. THIS is biggest capability of a person! And even kids are capable of this at 15. All people have sex here or then all the time. Only a few loosers like me not. Therapy is for people who are not brave enough to have their own opionion. What you are talking is that he should make me believe something that i really dont believe. Who is he that he can tell me sex is not the most important thing in life for me? He has no idea how it feels to be so behind, when all beautiul girls have regular sex since youth. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 The only person who thinks that just because sex wasn't a part of your past means it can't be part of your future. Until you change that incorrect mindset you will be stuck being unhappy. Link to post Share on other sites
OwMyEyeball Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Comparing travelling and violin with sex, which is the main human joy of life is nonsense. How much sex you had shows how capable you are in life as a human, the same as if you are walking and eating. If you don't have those 2 things you are not equal to other people. Travelling and violin are extra things in life, but not nessessary and such key thing for persons development as sex and ability to meet other persons and have sex with them like you are just shacking their hand. THIS is biggest capability of a person! And even kids are capable of this at 15. All people have sex here or then all the time. Only a few loosers like me not. Therapy is for people who are not brave enough to have their own opionion. What you are talking is that he should make me believe something that i really dont believe. Who is he that he can tell me sex is not the most important thing in life for me? He has no idea how it feels to be so behind, when all beautiul girls have regular sex since youth. Could turn that around and say that therapy is for people brave enough to admit their opinion may be wrong and explore other possibilities. But hey, if you want to be miserable go right on ahead because no one is going to stop you. Craving what you can't have and don't know when you'll next have is a guarantee for suffering. I didn't first have sex until 27 or 28. Funny how I can't actually remember the year. Anyhow, I'm very happy that I had other pursuits and interests in my life, despite how much time I wasted on simple pleasures, because those are what have sustained me and allowed for moments of joy. If therapy didn't help then you'll have to look to another therapist or other possibilities for your salvation. Spirituality, possibly. Forums often allow only for someone to keep spinning their wheels in the muck of their own delusions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 22, 2014 Author Share Posted November 22, 2014 The only person who thinks that just because sex wasn't a part of your past means it can't be part of your future. Until you change that incorrect mindset you will be stuck being unhappy. Yes, its easy to talk with full mouth about food how its nothing special. I can't even look on women on facebook for which i know they have boyfriend and had probably sex yesterday, because it hurts too much. Todays young women want 2-3 men beside the boyfriend, because they get bored quick and want diversity in life. I cant deal with this advanced life Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 22, 2014 Author Share Posted November 22, 2014 Could turn that around and say that therapy is for people brave enough to admit their opinion may be wrong and explore other possibilities. But hey, if you want to be miserable go right on ahead because no one is going to stop you. Craving what you can't have and don't know when you'll next have is a guarantee for suffering. I didn't first have sex until 27 or 28. Funny how I can't actually remember the year. Anyhow, I'm very happy that I had other pursuits and interests in my life, despite how much time I wasted on simple pleasures, because those are what have sustained me and allowed for moments of joy. If therapy didn't help then you'll have to look to another therapist or other possibilities for your salvation. Spirituality, possibly. Forums often allow only for someone to keep spinning their wheels in the muck of their own delusions. And who can tell what is wrong or right? Right is what you want and what other people do, the majority. This is the new generation of beautiful women growing up who want more. And i am not on their level Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 And who can tell what is wrong or right? Right is what you want and what other people do, the majority. This is the new generation of beautiful women growing up who want more. And i am not on their level What have women done for this type of worship that you give them? If you're that desperate, why not just buy a hooker? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 I can't even look on women on facebook for which i know they have boyfriend and had probably sex yesterday, because it hurts too much. Todays young women want 2-3 men beside the boyfriend, because they get bored quick and want diversity in life. I cant deal with this advanced life Women want one loyal man who they love. They don't want a bunch of guys. That is a male thing. The fact that you can't look at women on FB is why you need therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 It's painfully obvious that we are all wasting our time trying to help you. People have given you legitimate advice and you just keep saying the same crap over and over about not being good enough. It's truly sad, but I see a lot of easily fixable misery in your future...Sad thing is, it probably won't get fixed. I hate to jump the bandwagon...But you do need therapy and I even have my doubts about that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 25, 2014 Author Share Posted November 25, 2014 What have women done for this type of worship that you give them? If you're that desperate, why not just buy a hooker? Women are the natures most beautiful creation. Nothing looks so beautiful as women. In every situation. Even doing some of the nastiest stuff in porn, women still looks beautiful. Hooker is not a real women who decides if you are worth something. Everyone can get this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 25, 2014 Author Share Posted November 25, 2014 Women want one loyal man who they love. They don't want a bunch of guys. That is a male thing. Yes, they want this after they have gone wild in youth. If no, they know they missed something. And all beautiful and social women do it. Because temptation is too big. Times have changed and todays youth wants more and more. Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Yes, they want this after they have gone wild in youth. If no, they know they missed something. And all beautiful and social women do it. Because temptation is too big. Times have changed and todays youth wants more and more. Your view is so skewed it's painful to read your posts at this point. You said you're 28 right? I'm coming up on on 27 myself, and I don't honestly know what kind of women you're hanging around with...But apparently they are all a bunch of brain dead bimbo's. There are PLENTY of women our age and even younger! That have absolutely ZERO interest in orgies and sex parties, so to say that all youthful women crave this kind of attention is just another reason everyone on here is telling you it sounds like your view on sex have been completely formed in the fantasy world that is porn. I'll be honest with you...It's highly unlikely that you will ever get to experience being in an orgy or anything like that...That kind of thing just really doesn't happen to regular people ''even though you seem to believe it does''...I'm telling you, unless you're a Rock Star or something orgy's don't usually just happen to you. As far as just having sex with someone...That's a totally attainable goal...BUT...You're going to have to change the way you handle yourself and view women if you want that to happen. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 25, 2014 Author Share Posted November 25, 2014 then you should register to page "fetlife" to see how people are advanced these days... and those are regular people. minority but many are also not online... Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) then you should register to page "fetlife" to see how people are advanced these days... and those are regular people. minority but many are also not online... Yes because everything ever posted on the internet is completely true... Personally I don't rely on silly internet web pages to determine how ''advanced'' society and/or the dating scene is...I prefer gaining experience interacting with real people, not just going by what someone else says on some blog or whatever. And for the record I did check out the ''fetlife'' page at the risk of getting a virus on my computer...It's literally just a BDSM bondage site...So I continue to stand by my accusation that your view's on Women, Sex, and Life in general are very skewed. Edited November 25, 2014 by MercuryMorrison1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 then you should register to page "fetlife" to see how people are advanced these days... and those are regular people. minority but many are also not online... Do you understand that fet life is a small percentage of people? Everybody is not doing the things you read about on there. Most folks are not. If that is where you get your information no wonder you have a warped view of what a "normal" sex life is. Link to post Share on other sites
mikethemechanic Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Well what you define as a relationship maybe not all girls want sex with a different guy every day of the week. But they may want a man to fulfill the duties that her partner should do whether that be run errands pay for things yada yada. Case in point I know girl who talks about making babies to get free weight training sessions with various trainers.and the list goes on about the different services that she gets including free meals and yes according to her she doesn't put out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 25, 2014 Author Share Posted November 25, 2014 Do you understand that fet life is a small percentage of people? Everybody is not doing the things you read about on there. Most folks are not. If that is where you get your information no wonder you have a warped view of what a "normal" sex life is. Dont know where you live, but where i work, almost all (beautiful) women have some affairs with co-workers. So its not that small percentage. I think people who are not brave enough to have wild sex life are putting numbers down, so they dont feel behind those who are so advanced to do it. And popularity of books like 50 Shades Of Grey shows what people really want. Most of them would like to have life like people on fetlife. Also me. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Dont know where you live, but where i work, almost all (beautiful) women have some affairs with co-workers. You know this for a fact, do you? or are you just making assumptions based on seeing people flirt? How do you KNOW for sure they're having affairs? So its not that small percentage. I think people who are not brave enough to have wild sex life are putting numbers down, so they dont feel behind those who are so advanced to do it. And popularity of books like 50 Shades Of Grey shows what people really want. Most of them would like to have life like people on fetlife. Also me. I can tell you categorically, without any shadow of a doubt, fantasy is mainly the event here. Just as '50 shades' has piqued women's interest in sex, it's basically soft porn made 'respectable' by being in between book covers instead of up on a magazine rack. I know for a fact that all these stories of great sex, from my friends at school, for example, were just lying fantasies. I know for a fact that 7 of them were virgins into their early 20's whereas they all claimed to have lost their virginity in 6th form (16 - 18 yrs). There's a world of difference between what people brag about, and what actually happens. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Dont know where you live, but where i work, almost all (beautiful) women have some affairs with co-workers. So its not that small percentage. I think people who are not brave enough to have wild sex life are putting numbers down, so they dont feel behind those who are so advanced to do it. And popularity of books like 50 Shades Of Grey shows what people really want. Most of them would like to have life like people on fetlife. Also me. No, books like 50 shades of grey are about fantasies. They are also about exploring inside a committed relationship. Just because you seem to think a large # of people you know are sexually adventurous, does not mean that a large percentage of the world is. FWIW, I live in the NY Metro area, not exactly a bastion of conservative Bible thumping values. Finally dating a co-worker is not the same thing as having an orgy on the conference room table. Try learning to walk before lamenting that you are not a world class sprinter. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted November 25, 2014 Share Posted November 25, 2014 Dont know where you live, but where i work, almost all (beautiful) women have some affairs with co-workers. So its not that small percentage. I think people who are not brave enough to have wild sex life are putting numbers down, so they dont feel behind those who are so advanced to do it. And popularity of books like 50 Shades Of Grey shows what people really want. Most of them would like to have life like people on fetlife. Also me. If it is so normal and prevalent, there should be no barrier to telling these highly sexed folks that you know are having orgies and nasty sex that you’d like to join in. If that teacher you spoke about is willing to have sex with anyone and everyone, wouldn't you just call her and ask her to have sex with you? I think you know very well that this stuff isn't real or normal or common. I think you're just fantasizing, the way I fantasized about Bewitched and I Dream of Jeannie being real. Falling short of our fantasies is the path to depression, all self-created. Wouldn't you tell me to stop being depressed that I can't perform magic? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 26, 2014 Author Share Posted November 26, 2014 It's not only assumptions. People tell about each other. It's happening out every week and day. Women having sex with men on club or bar toilets, in car and stuff. It's know what happens in society. You need to only read and watch. Yes, maybe in past the youth was not so wild as these days. But times have changed. Offcourse there is minority of people who are not capable of doing such advanced things in life, because of their low selfesteem. But all selfconfident women want to have wild youth and having sex with many goodlooking guys. Also, why do we see cheating in almost every movie? Because people want to have dirty wild sex and they get it elsewhere if they dont get it home. @BlueIris i dont know this teacher, one girl who was there told me this. Plus i am not on the level of this people. I just talked with one women on facebook who is going out every weekend. She told me she wants badboy men, because she is also selfconfident. I said those probably cheat more and she said this tell only people who are not so selfconfident as those guys. And she is right. People who bas those wild life people are just jealous. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 I'm not jealous & I'm not bashing. I am trying to get it through your head that your life isn't over because you haven't done those things yet. If you are so keen on fet life, go there & post something about Virgin seeks teacher. If you can't get takers off that, well . . . . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 I just talked with one women on facebook who is going out every weekend. She told me she wants badboy men, because she is also selfconfident. I said those probably cheat more and she said this tell only people who are not so selfconfident as those guys. And she is right. People who bas those wild life people are just jealous. In response to the bold... I got a laugh honestly, It's one thing if you want this kind of life style and can't get it, but don't drag the rest of us down with you lol. Even if I were interested in bedding as many women as possible, I'd still be afraid of getting a nasty STD or something. It's not a matter of jealousy, it's a matter of GROWING UP and common sense. You need more help than anyone on these forum's can even remotely offer you. It is going to take some poor therapist years to un tangle this mess. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author benjamn12 Posted November 26, 2014 Author Share Posted November 26, 2014 So this is your peoples logic. If somebody has different views and norms he needs therapy... Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 So this is your peoples logic. If somebody has different views and norms he needs therapy... I guess it depends on whether those "different views and norms" are making your life better or worse than it would be otherwise. Which is it in your case? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MercuryMorrison1 Posted November 26, 2014 Share Posted November 26, 2014 So this is your peoples logic. If somebody has different views and norms he needs therapy... Not at all...I welcome different lines of thinking! However, with that said...I say you need therapy not because of interest in participating in orgies or whatever...But simply because you allow such a minuscule thing in life to effect you to the point that you would threaten to kill yourself. Wanting to participate in random sex act's and/or orgies...While in my opinion is childish, is no reason for therapy. However, telling people you are going to kill yourself and letting your self esteem get demolished to the point of no repair simply because you have not attained a particular goal in life...That's a warrant for therapy. Link to post Share on other sites
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