What are the top ten things you look for in a partner?

[mightycpa]

I TOTALLY agree with this! I'm a super chill person. Takeout and Netflix with my SO is a good night to me. Like you said most guys in their 20s aren't into that. Booo.

 

OMG. Youth IS wasted on the young.

 

[IronZ]

TigerLilly,

 

Great list. and I'm happy you've found your prince charming seemingly.

 

I'm such a homebody as well, and I wish I could find a guy who is the same way... in your mid 20s its kind of hard to find men who want to sit around on Fri and Sat nights, which sucks! I'd rather be home with my significant other than party.

 

lol it's a shame you don't live closer to me. I'd totally take you up on that Friday/Saturday night sitting around and watching TV action

[ThaWholigan]

In random order:

 

1. Is creative or appreciates the arts

2. Mutual physical attraction and high libido

3. Is communicative and capable of tact when needed.

4. Is level-headed and considerate of people's differences

5. Emotionally intelligent.

6. Likes her own space to pursue her own accomplishments from time to time

7. Is tactile and affectionate.

8. Can cook (I cook a lot and I would still do so most of the time, but I know too many girls who can't this is def a requirement!)

9. Is open to having children

10. Will challenge me and has an edge.

[braindamage]

1. Compatibility

2. Companionship

3. Committed

4. Driven

5. Considerate

6. The ability to compromise

7. Balanced

8. Caring

9. Social

10. No penis

[Andy_K]

Okay, I'm adjusting my list to reflect why I haven't found what I'm looking for yet:

 

Group 1

1) attractive

2) high sex drive

 

Group 2

3) genuinely really into me

 

Group 3

4) into sport or exercise

5) open heart & mind

6) likes kids and animals

7) has some sort of geeky side - movies, video/board games, anything like that

8) good tempered

9) good communicator

10) easygoing

 

I can find plenty of girls who completely cover at least two of the three groups above. Never all three. And despite the third group being the longest, it is the easiest to find. Most people are pretty decent.

Edited October 17, 2014 by Andy_K

[singsparkles]

1. Compatibility

2. Companionship

3. Committed

4. Driven

5. Considerate

6. The ability to compromise

7. Balanced

8. Caring

9. Social

10. No penis

 

 

 

#10: No Penis.

[singsparkles]

lol it's a shame you don't live closer to me. I'd totally take you up on that Friday/Saturday night sitting around and watching TV action

 

 

 

I wish! It's a shame I can't find a guy who likes to sit around on Friday and Saturday nights watching tv/movies!

[singsparkles]

I TOTALLY agree with this! I'm a super chill person. Takeout and Netflix with my SO is a good night to me. Like you said most guys in their 20s aren't into that. Booo.

 

 

 

It totally sucks! My idea of a great night is takeout and Netflix! All the guys would rather hit up bars with their friends.

[Andy_K]

It totally sucks! My idea of a great night is takeout and Netflix! All the guys would rather hit up bars with their friends.

 

If the takeout happens to be pizza, that's pretty much my ideal evening

 

Although an evening in with drinks and video/board games is pretty close second. Because I'm a bit of a geek!

[singsparkles]

If the takeout happens to be pizza, that's pretty much my ideal evening

 

Although an evening in with drinks and video/board games is pretty close second. Because I'm a bit of a geek!

 

 

Video games, drinks and pizza sounds perfect! I'm a geek too.

[Andy_K]

Video games, drinks and pizza sounds perfect! I'm a geek too.

 

Now if I could only persuade you to relocate to the UK...

[singsparkles]

Now if I could only persuade you to relocate to the UK...

 

 

Gosh, I would love to live in the UK! I've actually always thought about it... Different scenery would be nice! lol

[Priv]

1. Looks

2. Looks

3. Looks

4. Playfulness, maybe this should be number 1, but I wanted to accentuate the looks . Especially roughhousing. I loooooove roughhousing.

5. Intelligence, not talking Einstein but should be able to keep an interesting discussion flowing.

6. Adventurous, likes fast things, travelling etc.

7. Physical, not talking just sex, but things like PDA, kissing, cuddling etc.

8. Artsy. I am not artsy at all, but like one of us to be where she takes me through her mindset. All my exes either painted, wrote, whatever. Something very sexy about that.

9. Sporty. So am I and love to learn new sports.

10. Did I mention looks?

[oberkeat]

1. Not racist
   
2. Attractive
   
3. high sex drive
   
4. Interesting clothing style
   
5. Creative/Artsy (clothing style could fit into this)
   
6. Likes talking about vintage and foreign films
   
7. intelligent/educated/reads books
   
8. Laid back personality
   
9. Friendly and laughs at my jokes
   
10. and most importantly, she likes me
    

[IronZ]

I wish! It's a shame I can't find a guy who likes to sit around on Friday and Saturday nights watching tv/movies!

 

Haha some people just want to go club hopping on the weekends. Which is ok I guess but I certainly appreciate the nights in much more.

 

Do let me know if you're ever in the NY/NJ area though I'd love to say hello

[leavesonautumn]

Not in order because I would over think it if I did:

 

1. Geeky/nerdy in some capacity

2. Intelligence

3. Loyalty

4. Sense of humor

5. Feels comfortable being silly and spontaneous

6. Mutual attraction/sex drive

7. Chemistry but more importantly, compatibility

8. Accepts and loves me for who I am

9. Someone who would rather stay in then party but would feel comfortable in a pub/bar on occasion

10. Someone who loves affection, cuddling, spooning, gazing into each other's eyes. All the romance please.

[Doglover0261]

No particular order:

 

1. Foodie

2. Love a lot of affections, cuddling, PDA, romantic at heart

3. Doesn't mind the toilet seat is up.... sometimes

4. comfortable in their skin

5. Mutual attraction and sex drive

6. Sense of humor i.e; sarcasm

7. Intelligence and street smarts

8. Can cook (One of my all time favorite past time)

9. Love dogs

10. oh yeah... no penis

[Underthebodhitree]

Bumping this because I think it's a really good idea.

 

Minimum requirements: must have fully functioning penis. Those with substance abuse issues, or a history of any type of abuse need not apply. Honesty, ability to communicate, and sense of humor are a must. Must be a responsible, functioning adult who has his own, full life before starting a relationship with me (are you getting a sense of what my marriage was like? Lol).

 

Other desired qualities include:

Wants me, but doesn't NEED me

Keeps promises; dependable

Kind heart

Realizes that his time is the best thing he can give me

Attractive

Sexually compatible

Respectful, and not just of me

Well mannered, polite

Fun

Sweet

"Man's man" type

Supportive of me, but also challenges me to be a better person

Confident

[Shepp]

Okay, I can't do this in order haha so...

 

1) Great sense of humour - makes me laugh, and thinks I'm funny!

2) I trust her - she's loyal and honest

3) Outdoorsy/Sporty

4) Down to earth - none of this materialistic or high maintenance lark nor takes herself too seriously

5) Feisty/Confident - a straight shooter, gives as good as she gets.

6) Brave - When/If she needs to be, not afraid to go against the grain! Can grit her teeth when the going gets tough! Cool under pressure!

7) Hard worker/Determined

8) A good heart

9) likes kids and animals

10)Attractive - that's a given but its I do believe that the other qualities can influence how attractive you perceive someone to be but looks matter and im a sucker for some killer eyes!

 

AND likes me for me - that's key!

[littleblackheart]

The only advice my mother ever gave me: look at a man's relationship with his mother - if he treats her with love, consideration and respect, this is how he'll treat you.

 

 

Looking at my previous relationships, she may have a point.

 

 

This would probably be my only requirement, if ever I was to look for a partner (that and physical attraction, of course).

[anne1707]

Hmmm.... Let's see now.....

 

1. Intelligent (which is not about how many degrees or whatever he has)

2. Quietly confident (no look at me, I'm brilliant sh*t)

3. Strong (not just physically)

4. Practical (he can fix things, help others)

5. Sense of humour (preferably sarcastic)

6. Kind (not just to me)

7. Has passions (whether that be work, hobbies,..)

8. Shares my dreams for our future (especially if it means having to learn another language to fulfil that dream)

9. Challenges me to be a better person (and has made me a better person )

10. Loves cats! (Necessary in our house )

[Snaggletooth]

Honesty

Integrity

Dignity

Heart

Guts

Fire

Will

Passion

Compassion

Wisdom

[BlueIris]

1. Zing, the pitter pat

2. Smart

3. Conversational/ Verbal

4. Intellectually curious

5. Honesty

6. Stability

7. Protectiveness

8. Loyalty

9. Libido

10. No blinding complexes or prejudices

11. Temperate

12. Fun/Laughter

[MissBee]

Honestly, I really dislike threads like this. Simply because I pretty much meet every point on that list but I can never even get a date.

 

Which means that there are a few points that are on a second hidden list that I don't meet.

 

How can you meet every point on the OP's list when she didn't even say what her favorite music was, didn't explain what her values are even, so how can you know you fit them??? In any event, are you trying to date the OP? If not then how can you generalize her list to the list of women you've tried to date? That's silly. It's not like you've tried to date the OP and she turned you down so you can't just grab her list and superimpose it on other women when their list may be completely different.

 

I'm not even sure how that is logical.

 

Anyway, what I will say is the "hidden list" is: someone you feel good with and whom you simply want more of. Also known as chemistry! A man may on paper fit your list but you simply feel nothing for him or see him as a friend. That's the one thing you can't control. If you match on paper the chances are higher that you might have chemistry but there isn't a guarantee. So even my own list, it's what I need in a partner for a committed relationship, but it doesn't guarantee that I will want to be with a man who seems to fit it, as there are just some intangible qualities essential to gelling a relationship: how that person makes you feel and how you actually interact, which the list cannot guarantee and only interacting with the person can make or break it.

[xxoo]

1. Connection

2. Compatibility on the major things (marriage, kids, general life direction)

3. Passionate

4. Active and playful

5. Strong (mentally first, physically second)

6. Protective

7. Loving, with a soft spot for kids, animals, and me

8. Responsible and somewhat driven

9. Open minded in bed

10. Dark brown bedroom eyes