pitying the dumper

[buxboy]

So I went through a crappy breakup here https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/462140-my-story any how its a couple of months on and I have tried no contact but its hard with all the breadcrumbs

I see my ex wife every now and again and I just pity her as she looks like **** she is still on her mums sofa and to cut a long story short it was our daughters 16th birthday party last week it was a suprise that was allready arranged any how we turned up walked in nice suprise 35 people on a table .there was a few places left in middle of table so I put my coat down and went to the toilet and came back and her and her mum had moved my jacket right to the very end of the table like a leper I didnt say anything but the next day I let rip .she said they moved it as they thought I might feel awkward? Wtf? During the meal I just looked at her and her mum and thought you know what im better off without you.

And for the first time in 17 years I had some wages left the day before payday and thats with paying everything and no money off her for supporting the kids..while she is scrimping and saving for a deposit so she says but in reality she is buying new clothes and paying petrol to go see her new squeeze I dont want her back after that night I just pity her really for what shes thrown away as its happy days for me for the most part is this normal?

Edited April 6, 2014 by buxboy

[elseaacych]

Yup. My ex has a mental illness coupled with some other physical ailments that leave him hurting nearly all the time, suffering a pretty poor quality of life. As a result, he has formed a rather disorganized approach to life. I supported him through all of it, accepted it, rolled with it, and loved him unconditionally. I was the best thing gong for him in his life, had we stayed together, I probably would have ended up being the breadwinner to support his needs. Would have done it too, happily. Because I loved him.

 

And then he dumped me.

 

Lord help him, and the poor girl that he picked up to handle his mess.

[Trovador]

You are doing fine, but you will be better when you get rid of the anger, hatred and pity... don't let those emotions betray you in front of your kids... not preaching really, but all you need to do is live well, in peace and ease of mind... day by day...