Girlboots Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 (edited) Well, you can read my old posts about this guy, but it hasn't been updated. So I have a friend, and we kind of fool around sometimes, and things started to get really bad between us. I told him lets talk after our huge fight on a certain day, and he messages me 2 days later and says ok, which irked me, so I kind of had an attitude and he ignored me. Then I msg him weeks later and he was still mad at me and gave e an attitude, and finally I asked if we can talk before I left the state for good and he gave me a really catty response, which made me furious. I sent him a really nasty msg and I told him not to respond cause he's dead to me. He didn't respond. We were at a bad place and we BOTH acted like children. It's been almost a year since that happened, and I wanted to apologize for what I said. I made LOTS of low blows. I don't want him back, I just don't want him thinking that's really how I felt about him. I've been debating it because it's been so long and I don't want him thinking I'm trying to get him back in my life when that's not the case. Should I apologize after so long, or should I just let it go and have him feel like what I said was how I felt all along? Edited April 1, 2014 by Girlboots
Zahara Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/430195-ex-total-jerk Is this the guy?
Author Girlboots Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 oh, NO. Definitely not that one! But that guy contacted me and said he missed me and I told him to go screw himself! This guy was a long time friend. 1
Strength in Healing Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 Eh if it's been a year, not like you are still caught up in the moment. I would apologize, as long as you're prepared for him to either not respond, say something about a new girl, etc. 1
Author Girlboots Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Thank you! Here's what I plan on saying: Hey. I just wanted to apologize for that msg I sent a while back. It wasn't cool at all. I was really upset and angry when I wrote that, and maybe I should've just not said anything and move on, but I didn't and I'm sorry. Hopefully you laughed at how psychotic I sounded and thought nothing of it, but if not, please accept my apology and understand that 70% of it was bs. I don't mean to start any drama or anything, I just want to apologize, so a response isn't needed.
Zahara Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 oh, NO. Definitely not that one! But that guy contacted me and said he missed me and I told him to go screw himself! This guy was a long time friend. Thank god!
Author Girlboots Posted April 1, 2014 Author Posted April 1, 2014 Thank god! Yeah, I don't know what he was thinking by saying that. He did apologize though, but I still told him he can go screw himself.
Zahara Posted April 1, 2014 Posted April 1, 2014 As for this other guy, if you want to send that note but have full confidence that you want or expect nothing else, then I see no harm in you sending it. 1
bluegreen Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Either you are bored or hm wonder are we allowed to say that here. Why would you care to do this if you guys did not even had relationship. Fooling around is what it is rather then this go out and find someone ...
Author Girlboots Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Either you are bored or hm wonder are we allowed to say that here. Why would you care to do this if you guys did not even had relationship. Fooling around is what it is rather then this go out and find someone ... We had a really close relationship, it wasn't romantic, but we were friends for a very long time and have known each other since childhood. I want to do it because I feel as though I said some really hurtful things. He probably has moved on and doesn't care, so I guess maybe I shouldn't apologize. It was almost a year ago.
bluegreen Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 We had a really close relationship, it wasn't romantic, but we were friends for a very long time and have known each other since childhood. I want to do it because I feel as though I said some really hurtful things. He probably has moved on and doesn't care, so I guess maybe I shouldn't apologize. It was almost a year ago. Well in that case do something but expect nothing G LUCK
guest572 Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Also be prepared in case you get another nasty response or none at all.
bluegreen Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 Yap and sometimes no response is as it appears response
Author Girlboots Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Well do you guys think I should do it or just move on? I'd be upset if he gave me a nasty response, but I wouldn't mind if he ignored it or anything.
Strength in Healing Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 I would do it. I say go for it, in your situation. 1
Author Girlboots Posted April 2, 2014 Author Posted April 2, 2014 Thank you. If you don't mind, what would you say? You spoke while you were angry and made a lot of low blows, how do you give a sincere apology without making it seem like you're trying to reconnect with that person?
Strength in Healing Posted April 2, 2014 Posted April 2, 2014 All you can do is make your apology. Who knows how it will really come off to him, but you can politely say there is no need to respond to the letter. That's kind of you to want to simply just apologize, and not reconnect or gain anything in return. That's why your case is special.
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