Girlboots Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 (edited) okay...so august 19th, I started dating this guy I basically met off of fb. I wasn't very attracted to him. He was short, I wasn't attracted to his face, I basically didn't think he was cute. But I thought he was really nice. He would always ask if I thought he was too skinny or small, and I would say no, he's perfect the way he is. I would always respond this way if he ever showed any insecurities in the way he looked. He would always ask for a picture, and I'd send him one and he'd tell me how gorgeous he thinks I am. I live in a city further away from him for school, so we don't really see each other. We would talk on the phone a lot. One night he mentions my weight. Now, I have some meat on me, but I certainly don't think I'm fat to the point where my health is in danger and I can't fit in rides at amusement parks. I'm a size 9 and pretty content with my weight. Anyway, he says something about him and his friend talking about me. My friend has NEVER seen me before, but my ex is like "He kept making jokes about how I always date fat women" and I'm like "Do you have a problem with my body?" And he says not really. Then I ask if he thinks my body is beautiful, and he goes "Sorta" and I asked what he meant by that, and goes in to explain how he's scared his friends are going to make fun of me for being so huge. I was shocked he would say that, so I became a little defensive. We ended the conversation and I didn't speak to him. He then texts me saying he's sorry and he became a little too concerned with what his friends think and that he wants to be with me. I said ok. BIG MISTAKE. 2 months later, he isn't nice anymore. He's very rude and always ready for a fight. I came down to see him one time and I asked what he wanted to do, and he couldn't give me a suggestion, so I asked if he wanted to just see me, and he's like "No, I don't" we talked about it later and he says I had an attitude and he didn't want to deal with it. I wasn't having one, but fine. I ignored it and we hung out the next day. 2 weeks after I get back, we have another discussion about my weight. He says I should work out and that it's not what he likes in a woman and blahblah. I finally pointed out that he isn't perfect either, and he's like "I know, I'm going to the gym to bulk up" so I said "No, you can work out all you want, you're still short." and he gets defensive and I just hang up and send him a picture of me eating a cookie with a caption that says "you have to be a lot cuter for me to give up cookies for you" I'm like so SHOCKED a guy could say this!!! Worst part is that I left my shirt at his place and I REALLY want it back. It's a shirt made by my classmates for our program and we usually wear it on fridays. I'm not even upset about what he said, I'm just kind of disgusted I was with someone so superficial and he has one of my most favorite shirts. I REALLY love that shirt! Edited October 6, 2013 by Girlboots
Sneaky Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 Yeah he sounds like a jerk. Maybe have a mutual friend get the shirt for you?
rossi128 Posted October 6, 2013 Posted October 6, 2013 As long as your happy with yourself and like you said not a health issue just shows how shallow and superficial he was. 1
Author Girlboots Posted October 7, 2013 Author Posted October 7, 2013 Yeah he sounds like a jerk. Maybe have a mutual friend get the shirt for you? I don't think he'll even give it back. I feel like he won't respond to my text or something if I ask him.
todreaminblue Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 forget the shirt ...its just material...chalk it up to a loss and wear that loss with style..deb
Vogeltron Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 (edited) No matter your weight. Tell him give you back your shirt or you will spread a rumor about how small his penis is. If he thinks you are "fat" then spread a rumor about how is such a loser he can on be with "fat" chicks. Just be happy with yourself. Give him the middle finger. Anything he says to you give him the middle finger. If he says he is sorry give him the middle finger. If he tell you that you suck give him the middle finger. This guy no longer has an relevance in you life other than the fact he is a complete loser. Treat him as such and if he confronts you tell him as much and remind him to give you back your shirt that you are missing. Tease him that he is holding onto it because you are to good from him and he will never get you back. As a Male that would be my advice. Edited October 7, 2013 by Vogeltron 1
Leigh 87 Posted October 7, 2013 Posted October 7, 2013 Forget the shirt. I had a lovely hand mirror which I got in MOSCOW, and that I used daily to apply my lip balm.. A guy did the disappearing act on me and I didn't bother following it up; once they disappear they don't care about our feelings. They really don't care about us. Move on to a guy who has a higher degree of empathy and caring towards others.
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