Els Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 So apparently me saying I want a girl to cook better than me means I don't want to cook? Pulling straws much? I do enjoy cooking because without it you can't be healthy. It is that fact exactly why I wont bother with women who can't cook a few things at least because I will be doing it all for her. Its about sharing workloads and maximizing your skills to get everything done while enjoying your free time. Is it wrong of me to want a girl who works just as hard as me? The kind that helps shovel the snow instead of telling me to go do it while she watches the view? You're backpedaling entirely from your "If she knows you can cook, guess what? You're going to be cooking. Hope you enjoy being a workhorse" post. If you make inflammatory statements, people are going to respond to them. Changing your tone entirely in your next post isn't going to change what you said in your initial post. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 What is your age category, if you don't mind me asking? The ones who DID seem impressed with my cooking, I would gather they're in their 50s. For the record, I'm in my 20s and I distinctly said in my initial post here that I consider the ability to cook as a plus point in a man, just that you cannot expect women to fall into your lap solely for being able to cook. I'm not sure what the point of your thread is, to be honest. Can you enlighten me? What sort of responses were you hoping for? "Yes, IRC, you are an amazing catch because you can cook, and women in OLD are stupid for not picking up on it"? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allumere Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I'm in my 40s now, but I have always thought a guy that could cook was sexy...and if they can bake too and pair that with the right adult beverage we are going to break the kitchen table. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scales Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 You're backpedaling entirely from your "If she knows you can cook, guess what? You're going to be cooking. Hope you enjoy being a workhorse" post. If you make inflammatory statements, people are going to respond to them. Changing your tone entirely in your next post isn't going to change what you said in your initial post. Explaining the context of my post is backpedaling now? Inflammatory? I laughed, you must be joking. I stand by my previous post anyways. You also failed to comment on the post you quote so I don't see the the point of this. If you show a woman early on that you want to cook a bunch for her, expect to be doing that. The point is not to give more than you get. If she wants to cook for you then sure clean the dishes or cook next time. Don't go overboard showing what great cook you are so she can take a back to seat to you doing everything for her? Try to keep your posts on topic and less about me, you come off looking like a troll. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I'm in my 40s now, but I have always thought a guy that could cook was sexy...and if they can bake too and pair that with the right adult beverage we are going to break the kitchen table. I cook a pretty mean Hamburger Helper . Link to post Share on other sites
Allumere Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I cook a pretty mean Hamburger Helper . that'll get the chair warm 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I'm in my 40s now, but I have always thought a guy that could cook was sexy...and if they can bake too and pair that with the right adult beverage we are going to break the kitchen table. Couldn't have said it any better! Warm gooey chocolate cake and cocktails! (sigh) okay, it's hot in here 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 OP you missed a great opportunity when those women said what a nice guy you were. You should have said, "If you know any single women you can fix me up with, just give me a call." Plant the seed... I don't care if a man cooks because I am a good cook and enjoy cooking. I don't mind a man helping out in the kitchen, like chopping onions or stirring the polenta, two thing I hate. Better yet, he can do the washing up later. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 Couldn't have said it any better! Warm gooey chocolate cake and cocktails! (sigh) okay, it's hot in here No problem, ladies ...... I'll bring the glue. I'm pretty skilled at putting kitchen tables back together. At least that's what I've heard - LOL. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LostConfused123 Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 no problem, ladies ...... I'll bring the glue. I'm pretty skilled at putting kitchen tables back together. At least that's what i've heard - lol. lol!!!! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 My boyfriend cooks for me regularly and I find it attractive and very sweet. I appreciate the ability. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Teraskas Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 As much as I would like to display this trait to women, I'm just terrible at it. Whenever I try to cook, it looks as if a meteor crashed into the kitchen, whilst having left the rest of the house intact, lol. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Hope Shimmers Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I am an amateur (better than amateur, actually) cook. I love to cook gourmet meals and have spent a lot of time learning it. Really love fresh seafood dishes. My brother is friends with Bobby Flay and has been on his shows. To me it is nice if a man can cook but I am great with cooking for him. Just haven't yet found the right guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted March 4, 2014 Author Share Posted March 4, 2014 Explaining the context of my post is backpedaling now? Inflammatory? I laughed, you must be joking. I stand by my previous post anyways. You also failed to comment on the post you quote so I don't see the the point of this. If you show a woman early on that you want to cook a bunch for her, expect to be doing that. The point is not to give more than you get. If she wants to cook for you then sure clean the dishes or cook next time. Don't go overboard showing what great cook you are so she can take a back to seat to you doing everything for her? Try to keep your posts on topic and less about me, you come off looking like a troll. It's just a generalization to think such things. Link to post Share on other sites
peruano99 Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I try to learn how to cook. Yesterday I cooked dinner for my whole family, unfortunately my mother and sister were being such jerks saying I didn't cook well and giving me 2 hours of non stop verbal attacking for how a horrible job I did. My dad on the other hand and my cousins said they enjoyed my cooking. Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I try to learn how to cook. Yesterday I cooked dinner for my whole family, unfortunately my mother and sister were being such jerks saying I didn't cook well and giving me 2 hours of non stop verbal attacking for how a horrible job I did. My dad on the other hand and my cousins said they enjoyed my cooking. Did you, by any chance, cook meat with meat sauce, served with chopped meat, meat pie and a meat vinegraitte salad? And meat for dessert? j/k. Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 What is your age category, if you don't mind me asking? The ones who DID seem impressed with my cooking, I would gather they're in their 50s. I'm 32 this year. Most women who comment positively on it are old enough to be my mum. There are even fewer who recognise what I cook and knowledgeable enough to know what it is. I'm originally from Genova (Genoa in english) and specialise in the cuisine from there taught to me from my grandmother and mother. Any younger women I know, only recognise Italian food they've seen on the latest TV cooking show or eaten in a crappy but overpriced and trendy inner city restaurant. Link to post Share on other sites
Allumere Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 I'm 32 this year. Most women who comment positively on it are old enough to be my mum. There are even fewer who recognise what I cook and knowledgeable enough to know what it is. I'm originally from Genova (Genoa in english) and specialise in the cuisine from there taught to me from my grandmother and mother. Any younger women I know, only recognise Italian food they've seen on the latest TV cooking show or eaten in a crappy but overpriced and trendy inner city restaurant. Expand your repertoire. Definitely don't stop making those wonderful family meals but maybe learn a few other things. You will always have your specialties, but if you enjoy cooking you may dig taking on some new dishes. I'm a decent cook and baker. My coconut cake I get calls for....but if my date isn't into coconut or has no desire to have a steady diet of it I'd find out what things he does like and see what I could whip up....actually that's how I learned how to make macarons (evil bastard of a lil cookie). Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 I do cook other things as well. Learning to cook new food is a hobby of mine. But yeah, it's just the oldies who are interested in any of that. Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 Cooking should be a basic life skill that adults know how to do at a competent level by their late teens or early 20s. It's a little sad that many adults don't. Now whether he or she is actually good at it is another story - and that usually boils down to talent. Some folks just have that magic touch when it comes to making even simple dishes taste delicious, and that cannot be taught. Link to post Share on other sites
zebracolors Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 Another woman here who certainly loves when a man offers to cook for me. I've often found this to be a progression from going out to get dinner at a restaurant for dates. While it doesn't have to mean exclusivity, cooking for the other usually means the interaction has gotten more intimate and personal and that the trust is building more. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 Funny recently a female friend of mine and organizer of a recent Meetup is talking me up on the comments section to the prospective single women in the Meetup... there's this one woman in the group that's kind of new... ...so hopefully my female "wingman" will be able to give her a little nudge in my direction. ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Tayken Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 OP....I can attest to this. As corny as it might sound, every date in the last 2 months that has made the mistake of coming to my place and having me cook for them, has been left with more than just my cooking Link to post Share on other sites
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