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Candy_Pants Established Member

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I'm shorter than you OP and when I was single I was attracted to much taller men.

 

Nothing wrong with average or shorter guys but they seem to have aca complex about it!!!

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pickflicker Established Member

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The problem with that......is that MANY women give a tall guy bonus points just for being tall without even realizing it. Its a subconscious thing. Some guy that is only 2 inches taller than Tracy may be a better fit and have more in common with her.....but Tracy doesnt even give the guy a chance, because shes transfixed on Jim that is a foot taller than her.

 

Having a "physical type" that you are attracted to shouldnt be the key to it all.

 

In my experiance with men I know or have known......I have never heard any of them mention that they "only" like this or that type of woman.

 

MOST men have a wide variety of tastes....and usually are attracted to many different women as paths are crossed.

 

But when I look back at my experiences hearing other women talk, or post on here.....I find that there seems to be an overwhelming amount of women that have a very very narrowed down preference as to the "type" of guys they will consider dating, or talking to with a chance at dating for that matter.

 

I truly believe many women are their own worst enemy when it comes to dating. Because they dismiss huge chunks of the male population without giving them a chance, and usually without any solid reasons, other than "thinking" only that type of guy will make them happy.

 

Again, so long as the OP considers the possibility of dating a shorter man, and gives him a chance if he turns up in her life, then that's all she needs to do. She absolutely does not need to apologise for what she is attracted to.

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LuckyLady13 Established Member

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OP - Why get over your type?

 

I'm 5'. So real short. My first long relationship was with a guy I was so into at the time and he was over 6'. We looked like an odd couple and a half and people really stared when we were together but neither of us cared. I was happy because at the time, that was my type. There were no two ways about it. I wanted to be with a tall guy.

 

And for shorter women, this makes perfect sense. Instinctively, you know you're short and want to even out the genes in your makeup when you have kids so you eye up tall guys so your kids aren't shrimps.

 

I ended up dating another guy a few years later nearly identical to the first and again, I was really happy because that was my type. I just dug tall guys with tattoos and dated two of them. Had fun, they were sweethearts but we broke up because I got kinda bored with them. I was attracted to them but on a mental level we just weren't making a great connection. They both happened to be a little bit simple minded.

 

Years later I started to gravitate more toward guys with dark hair and broad shoulders and my type changed (but it took a long time) and I'm with exactly my type right now and happy.

 

There's nothing wrong with having a type!

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pickflicker Established Member

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I'm shorter than you OP and when I was single I was attracted to much taller men.

 

Nothing wrong with average or shorter guys but they seem to have aca complex about it!!!

 

Particularly when the girl is taller. Some men take it way too personally.

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ThatGirl213 Established Member

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I'll expect you to say that, to better make your case. If you need a tall guy "to make you feel safe", then there are other issues there, yet to be disclosed on here

 

You are entitled to what you want...so why bother posting the question here?

 

No...no other issues...I just get that kinda vybe from them...That's it...Not saying short guys won't be able to protect me.

pickflicker Established Member

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Age is a completely different issue.

 

Though I would probably be fine dating a woman up to 35. But she can't have any kids. That's not up for negotiation.

 

Her body is fine if she isn't perfect, but she can't be too overweight and must have a level of fitness that is similar to my own. Basically, she can't be heavier than I am.

 

I can't say any more about this because it's starting to go off-topic.

 

The kids thing is something you're eventually going to have to be flexible on. When I was 25, there's no way I would have dated a single dad. Now I'm in my 30s, and I have dated a few single dads. It's just the age thing. There will be more and more single dating parents the older you get. You just end narrowing your playing field if you don't consider them.

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The arrogance and egotistical mindset of that thought process is just beyond my comprehension.

 

 

And I'm sure the short girls that love tall guys agree with you 100%. She wants/needs a guy to be in charge of her and keep her under his thumb.....and guys like you need to feel dominant over a woman to feed your ego and insecurities.

 

I find your generalization hilarious!

 

It's because it's sexy to be able to pick up a women like nothing, you know feel like her protector? It's purely a physical thing, and not exactly "odd" for a guy to want to protect his girl. The irony is i'm far from controlling, strong women who like to take charge sometimes are great.

 

Maybe women like tall guys because they aren't insecure about their height like many short guys are and constantly obsessing about it?

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somedude81 Established Member

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Maybe women like tall guys because they aren't insecure about their height like many short guys are and constantly obsessing about it?

Short men only obsess about their height when women keep saying how they are so attracted to tall guys.

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suladas Established Member

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Short men only obsess about their height when women keep saying how they are so attracted to tall guys.

 

Because they speak for all women and all women are attracted to the same thing right?

 

Just like all guys want 20 years olds with DD's right?

 

How do you think that makes women who don't measure up to that feel?

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MrTurk Established Member

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Because they speak for all women and all women are attracted to the same thing right?

 

Just like all guys want 20 years olds with DD's right?

 

How do you think that makes women who don't measure up to that feel?

 

The amount of women that prefer dating tall guys totally drowns out any realistic number of the amount of men that want 20 yr olds with DD's.

 

Anyone that doesnt agree with that is either totally naive, or disagreeing on purpose just to make an argument out of it.

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Els Established Member

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So, OP - did you actually get anything useful from this thread? :laugh:

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MrTurk Established Member

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I find your generalization hilarious!

 

It's because it's sexy to be able to pick up a women like nothing, you know feel like her protector? It's purely a physical thing, and not exactly "odd" for a guy to want to protect his girl. The irony is i'm far from controlling, strong women who like to take charge sometimes are great.

 

Maybe women like tall guys because they aren't insecure about their height like many short guys are and constantly obsessing about it?

 

 

You are calling the kettle black by preferring women short enough to tower over.....and by liking women near your height less.

MrTurk Established Member

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So, OP - did you actually get anything useful from this thread? :laugh:

 

Theres almost nothing useful ever posted on any of these threads

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ThaWholigan Established Member

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Before I even clicked this thread, I knew exactly what I was going to see :laugh:

 

OP, as others have said, consideration must go beyond the height of your dates - however, if you find attraction difficult to build then don't force it unless it's something you can forgo.

 

I am tall myself and of the small handful of women I have dated, they have ranged from 5 foot 10 to 5 foot 3. Their height didn't immediately factor in, but the ones I slept with happened to be on the shorter side. Make of that what you will.....

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ThatGirl213 Established Member

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So, OP - did you actually get anything useful from this thread? :laugh:

 

Well yes...That it's ok to have a preference and I should just date whoever I find attractive but at the same time keep my mind open in case I find someone who can give me everything I want even though he may not fit into my preference.

 

And the comments are interesting.

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suladas Established Member

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You are calling the kettle black by preferring women short enough to tower over.....and by liking women near your height less.

 

I said it ironically because i'm tall enough to tower over ANY women, meaning I like them of any height...... Nowhere did I say it was a sliding scale in relation to how much taller I was then them.

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Els Established Member

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Well yes...That it's ok to have a preference and I should just date whoever I find attractive but at the same time keep my mind open in case I find someone who can give me everything I want even though he may not fit into my preference.

 

And the comments are interesting.

 

Sounds good to me. ;)

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SJC2008 Established Member

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It seems like there's an inverse relation with height when it comes to women and tall men. It seems like the shorter the woman the taller a man she wants. I can understand a woman wanting a man of the same height or talle but if she HAS to have a man that's more than six inches taller (a foot in OP's case) that's just plain picky. I'm 5'10" and beleive it or not OP you're flirting with being too short for me. I like women 5'4" to about 5'8".

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ThatGirl213 Established Member

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It seems like there's an inverse relation with height when it comes to women and tall men. It seems like the shorter the woman the taller a man she wants. I can understand a woman wanting a man of the same height or talle but if she HAS to have a man that's more than six inches taller (a foot in OP's case) that's just plain picky. I'm 5'10" and beleive it or not OP you're flirting with being too short for me. I like women 5'4" to about 5'8".

 

Well makes sense....preferences.

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How about just dating someone that brings more than just the height......or is that just crazy talk because height is the glue that holds a relationship together?

 

What is the definition of a "short guy"?

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MrCastle Established Member

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As some have mentioned, we all have types and rarely do we break them. And also as some have mentioned, the female "type" seems very formulaic and predictable -- not that there is anything wrong with that, so long as you are also open to dating people that have more important qualities, even if they may lack one or two physical traits found in your type. As long as you're an equal opportunity dater, not a problem. If you're cutting your pool out to men of X height or X whatever, well, good luck.

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Anela Established Member

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The amount of women that prefer dating tall guys totally drowns out any realistic number of the amount of men that want 20 yr olds with DD's.

 

Anyone that doesnt agree with that is either totally naive, or disagreeing on purpose just to make an argument out of it.

 

Since when? The one thing I've seen the most of, on this board, has been that women under thirty - maybe even twenty-five - are what are wanted, and that women over those ages shouldn't be so silly as to not understand why men would want those younger women. :rolleyes: The women have to adhere to the shallow criteria that these men hold dear, but the men can be out of shape, miserable, hardly make any money, short, bald, etc, etc, and if a woman doesn't accept that, then she's a shallow gold-digger who doesn't really like men, only what they can give her - OR those women are accused of only going after the top 20%, whoever they are.

 

I didn't come here for a fight - too much of that at home, thanks.

 

It seems like there's an inverse relation with height when it comes to women and tall men. It seems like the shorter the woman the taller a man she wants. I can understand a woman wanting a man of the same height or talle but if she HAS to have a man that's more than six inches taller (a foot in OP's case) that's just plain picky. I'm 5'10" and beleive it or not OP you're flirting with being too short for me. I like women 5'4" to about 5'8".

 

I've made the first move on men who were around 5'7"/5'8", and been rebuffed or ignored. I'm 5'2".

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somedude81 Established Member

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Since when? The one thing I've seen the most of, on this board, has been that women under thirty - maybe even twenty-five - are what are wanted, and that women over those ages shouldn't be so silly as to not understand why men would want those younger women. :rolleyes:

One thing you should absolutely be doing is taking into the consideration the ages of the men making those statements.

 

A man who is 25 who says he only wants to date 20 year olds is very different from a 40 year old guy who says he only wants 20 year olds.

 

BTW, I'm going to address Pickflickers post about kids in my Chasing girls thread.

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One thing you should absolutely be doing is taking into the consideration the ages of the men making those statements.

 

A man who is 25 who says he only wants to date 20 year olds is very different from a 40 year old guy who says he only wants 20 year olds.

 

BTW, I'm going to address Pickflickers post about kids in my Chasing girls thread.

 

Or like a 33 year old wanting a 20 year old?

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somedude81 Established Member

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Or like a 33 year old wanting a 20 year old?

Not wanting do, did ;)

 

(And I was 31, when she was 20)

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