Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 I've been reading elsewhere about people who's pregnant girlfriends would suddenly break it off with them. These range from people in solid relationships for 4 years to people who had only been together for a couple of months. The phenomena seems to be real, common, and it would tie together everything that has happened between M and myself. From her not wanting contact one month to calling me like a maniac another month. To her trying to reach out to me but then not simply replying when I reply. To her appearance changes. I am not 100% sure she is pregnant, but to be honest I had suspected something was up for a while. I don't think it means getting back together romantically. From what I have read that is not the usual outcome. I guess what I want to know is there anyone reading this board which has had a similar situation? For some background on my specific situation see these threads. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/448292-strange-contact-ex-lover http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/447323-rumor-has-she-s-pregnant-god-d-hell http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/424583-hangup-calls-probably-ex-lover-why ....and numerous others.
CarrieT Posted December 12, 2013 Posted December 12, 2013 Toxic, toxic, toxic person. If you think the baby is yours, demand a paternity test. If not, walk away and stop even contemplating communcation with this person. You don't need FOUR separate threads telling you this. 4
Author Mrlonelyone Posted December 12, 2013 Author Posted December 12, 2013 Toxic, toxic, toxic person. If you think the baby is yours, demand a paternity test. If not, walk away and stop even contemplating communcation with this person. You don't need FOUR separate threads telling you this. I would agree 100% but for the fact that, one only ever makes threads about bad things. From reading this board one would get the idea that all relationships suck 90-95% of the time. While she has acted bizzare, and really immature, she has also shown a side that is good, kind, and tender beyond description. In other ways from her interest, to her background she was 90% of what I could ask for in a mate. Clearly I don't idealize someone I have described here so negatively...just dont' think that all those complaints are all there is. When times were good we had a love story worthy of the first half of a Shakespearean romance. Plus if what I suspect may be true, and she is pregnant, simply moving on, NC, etc aren't an option.
CarrieT Posted December 13, 2013 Posted December 13, 2013 From reading this board one would get the idea that all relationships suck 90-95% of the time. That is because you are reading a website that is about problematic relationships. Spend time on websites involving healthy relationships and you will learn that relationships do NOT suck 90 to 95% of the time. DYSFUNCTIONAL relationships suck, yes. And those of us in healthy relationships are here to try and help those people out of those situations. While she has acted bizzare, and really immature, she has also shown a side that is good, kind, and tender beyond description. What you are describing is somebody who very well could be bi-polar or - just as you say - IMMATURE, and not ready for an adult, healthy relationship. In other ways from her interest, to her background she was 90% of what I could ask for in a mate. Why are you talking yourself into settling for 90% when 100% is possible? When times were good we had a love story worthy of the first half of a Shakespearean romance. Well, most of Shakespeare's romances were tragedies so I'm not sure that is something you want to aspire to… Plus if what I suspect may be true, and she is pregnant, simply moving on, NC, etc aren't an option. Again - do you think the child is yours? Than you should DEMAND a paternity test before even considering further emotional action on your part.
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