Chris715 Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 That's what she said to me over text a couple days ago and it hurts like hell. For anyone who doesn't know what is now a really long and for me painful story of things with my ex most of it can be found here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/398620-she-just-used-me-hurts and here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/408348-well-now-s-pretty-much-done and the ironic thing is I've said things are done in the past, so many times, but now I feel they really are. After admittedly texting her, talking to her, trying to be her friend again etc. way too much over the last few weeks, she told me "I care about you, but I don't want to be close anymore" when we were texting a few nights ago. Feels like it gave the whole thing a definitive ending. Sure we talked to each other and were perfectly civil and even friendly at work the next day but knowing she doesn't want me in her life anymore than what's necessary is incredibly painful for me. I'm posting all of this just to vent I guess, not really looking for advice or anything even though I'm incredibly lost at the moment. Thoughts of a lonely, pointless future are dominating me right now and I'm supposed to start my last year of college in a few weeks but I'm so depressed right now I can't even begin to focus on that. Life's a bitch.
Sleepwalk Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 I'm somehow glad you stored this thing here,it can be a great thing to look back on once you improved. Why can't relationships be half as easy as friendships between two males,I wonder sometimes. Did she leave some of her things over at you? I don't know,but setting some things on fire sounds relieving right now.
Author Chris715 Posted July 31, 2013 Author Posted July 31, 2013 Nope, she has all of her stuff back. And burning it would be pointless and kind of immature in my opinion.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 You're a young dude. Senior year of college is a great time. Just get back on campus -- you'll have your choice of women soon enough. Sucks it didn't work out, but you'll look back on this as a learning experience.
flitzanu Posted July 31, 2013 Posted July 31, 2013 it certainly sucks when you have that epiphany that the breakup really is a breakup. all i can suggest is to no longer question it or question her words, because she's telling you that it isn't going to happen.
sjm Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Just going through all of your posts and thought I would comment on this one. I got a similar thing: "I love you and I care about you but I can't be with you anymore" 1
Author Chris715 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Just going through all of your posts and thought I would comment on this one. I got a similar thing: "I love you and I care about you but I can't be with you anymore" Why do they say stuff like that, you know? If they really cared about us they'd want to maintain contact and try to work things out. Honestly they just say it because adding that to the front softens the whole "I don't want to be with you anymore" part.... It's like gee, thanks a lot. And if you're all caught up on my entire 10 month tirade you can probably see I've been an idiot the entire time and should've gone NC back in November 2
Author Chris715 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 Still been struggling with my anger towards her and I know I need to let it go. If you've really let go of your anger towards your ex like you mentioned a couple nights ago then more power to you sjm Again, I know how hard it can be. 1
skydiveaddict Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 "I care about you, but I don't want to be close anymore" when we were texting a few nights ago. You have been cast down into the friend zone. Quit talking to her. 1
hurts2death Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 true... but don the dumpers loose the point? they fall in love and then out of love(all of us) the target is to become partners best friends....walk life together and hold on to that fall in love back then or respark it... so when they become friends they let go? lol .... its like climbing everest and last 5 meters to top go back to start climbing an other exciting mountain.... i have all the bad things for dumpers the more i think about it..... You have been cast down into the friend zone. Quit talking to her.
sjm Posted September 20, 2013 Posted September 20, 2013 Still been struggling with my anger towards her and I know I need to let it go. If you've really let go of your anger towards your ex like you mentioned a couple nights ago then more power to you sjm Again, I know how hard it can be. I have let go of my anger, it's weird cause there was a point where I felt like punching him haha. No anger, but occasionally I do get those weak moments where I miss him.
Author Chris715 Posted September 20, 2013 Author Posted September 20, 2013 I have let go of my anger, it's weird cause there was a point where I felt like punching him haha. No anger, but occasionally I do get those weak moments where I miss him. Glad to hear it. The anger for me is fewer and far between then it used to be, so that's something I guess. And yeah the weak moments are becoming all too common for me. Gotta keep pushing.
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