richwhiteman Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I'm confused. And OUR standards are high? This list is pretty ridiculous. I DID NOT SAY THEIR STANDARDS ARE TOO HIGH, i only implied such because it seems no matter how close you are to them, they still may not want to date you. i have dated white and black women and there is a HUGE DIFFERENCE. the white women tend to be more educated, high income, sexy and attractive, and able to understand the world. The black women on the other hand deal with poverty, so many negative stereotypes and social barriers, no men interested in them, nothing to offer in the relationship, and demands which are excessive. I want to date a white women they are very sexy and of my kind. I am just saying what the use to judge rather or not they will be with a man behind the scenes is different from what they would tell you on a first date. even rich and high income white women may perhaps date a low income and poverty stricken white man before they date a black man. similary morr white women are dating black men to get his moneya nd recycle it back in the white community
richwhiteman Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 (edited) white women at this time should be 1. at least 75% married give all the resources white men offer and the fact that the church and family is very strong 2. there is no alternatives for white women other than white men and men of other races tend to have lower socio-economic status 3. they need to ensure the white race family and marriage rate remains high so they can remain the top players in the global economy 4. the white women cultural elements will be eroded by dating lower quality men and she will become more ghetto 5. the white man poses no harm to to her if she allows him to have a chance i know dating standards can be hard to define and cover, but we need a explanation FOR NEARLY HALF OF WHITE WOMEN BEING UN-MARRIED. white women dating standards I feel 1. white women are looking for mainly for white men that make a high income 2. they are moving towards dating 40 and over men. even younger white women are dating white men on average age 40 and up. 3. white women are dating white more than have shorter work hours so they can spend more time with 4. the white women are asking their men before dating can the be the head of house and manage all the money Edited March 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
TaraMaiden Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 (edited) I want ti date a high income white woman that has at least a bachelors degree, make 75,000 or more a year, can afford to pay her own rent and bills, have manageable debt, enjoy eating out and going places, have a decent body physique, hot, sexy, attractive, work out and exercise, eat healthy and take supplements, vitamins, herbs, have colored hair and well cut or kep, nice make-up, can wear eye-glasses or shades, and like strong perfume. I'm half white, half black. My left side, (Which is white) does all of the above. My right side (which is black) makes three raand a week, I live in a cardboard shack, have no debt (With no money, what do you expect??) I eat out (frequently raiding garbage cans and land-fill sites) I'm thin as a rake, always hot (the weather here is steaming!) I'm sexy in my own unique peculiar and individual way (you'd have to see me to understand!) I work out by walking 15 miles a day for water, I eat grass and soil occasionally, so plenty of fibre and minerals there, my hair is - coloured, like me - and the make-up I use is as nature intended. I have never worn shades, but occasionally put a banana leaf on my head to shield me from the sun. Cow-dung is pretty strong perfume.... is that what you mean? I think that's a fair and equitable distinction between your perception of black and white.... Edited March 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Addison312 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 white women dating standards I feel 4. the white women are asking their men before dating can the be the head of house and manage all the money Ok yes! That's exactly what we do! "I'd love to get coffee with you on our first date, Dave! Let me just run this by you real quick.... When we do eventually get married (cause we will!), YOU will be managing both of our salaries and making all the larger decisions. That's how I roll. Great! See you tomorrow."
irc333 Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Something I'm noticing that's become a bit of a platitude lately where single people have used the same "I'm not settling" line on a constant basis if they aren't willing to date someone of a certain height, hair color, or whatever nonsensical thing they come across. Some are even convinced to the point if they ever do compromise their standards on what they look for in physical appearances....they think they won't be happy. However, this cannot be the case...because very few people have attempted to date or even marry outside their standards. I knew of a woman that was mostly attracted to blondes, but she wound up marrying a brown haired man. That being said, did she "settle", or for some strange reason she was able to overlook that and see him for who was, and found him attractive as a whole...even forgot about the whole "Blonde hair" standard. I mean, how many honestly can say they would be unhappy in their marriage, if they wound up "settling" on a short guy?
Revolver Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Lol when it comes to settling that blonde hair example is the LEAST of someone's problems. Settling to me is not wanting a partner with green eyes but she has blue, settling is dating someone because you can't do any better and the girl you really want isnt interested Tons of people settle because they're scared of ending up alone
Drseussgrrl Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 Something I'm noticing that's become a bit of a platitude lately where single people have used the same "I'm not settling" line on a constant basis if they aren't willing to date someone of a certain height, hair color, or whatever nonsensical thing they come across. Some are even convinced to the point if they ever do compromise their standards on what they look for in physical appearances....they think they won't be happy. However, this cannot be the case...because very few people have attempted to date or even marry outside their standards. I knew of a woman that was mostly attracted to blondes, but she wound up marrying a brown haired man. That being said, did she "settle", or for some strange reason she was able to overlook that and see him for who was, and found him attractive as a whole...even forgot about the whole "Blonde hair" standard. I mean, how many honestly can say they would be unhappy in their marriage, if they wound up "settling" on a short guy? Another looks/height thread. This is the point I was trying to make in the other thread. When I say I don't want to settle it has nothing to do with brown hair, blond hair, short or tall. I want someone emotionally stable. Mature. On a good track in his life. Thoughtful. Funny. Doesn't smoke/use drugs. Hopefully a good relationship with his family. Likes dogs. A myriad of other things that make me happy, create a strong connection and speak to my soul. Physical attraction is of course important but what I find attractive is a myriad of things that come together for me to create that total package. I really, REALLY wish you guys could grasp this instead of continuously painting us women as shallow, vapid beings who would date someone simply because he's tall and good-looking. I can't tell you how many dudes I've passed up who were tall, or went to ivy league schools, with money because they were total douchebags I couldn't stand to be around for more than 5 minutes. 1
El Brujo Posted May 18, 2013 Posted May 18, 2013 It's one thing if it's about physical traits... but it's very much another thing when it's about the person's behavior. For example, I'd never get along with a woman who's hyper or rude, even if she was my ideal of physical beauty. And believe me, there are a lot of VGL women out there who are not R material because they're hyper or rude. 1
AD1980 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 People say if you're struggling with the opposite sex you should go for people in your physical attraction level/league as if its an easy or exact science. How are you supposed to know whos in your physical attractionl eague? People dont have signs on theirf foreheads that say im a 7.
hppr Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 People say if you're struggling with the opposite sex you should go for people in your physical attraction level/league as if its an easy or exact science. How are you supposed to know whos in your physical attractionl eague? People dont have signs on theirf foreheads that say im a 7. It's just trial and error man, you do your best, make a move and see what happens. I have gone out and been rejected by women whom I thought were completely average and then had women who were gorgeous make a move on me. Really what it is about is making a connection with that person, I wish I could explain how that works (if I could I'd write a book and make a million bucks) but I can't. It's just something that you have to do and eventually you'll get a feel for it. 4
RogerWallace111 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Well, first off let's note that other factors can render someone's "level of attractiveness" arbitrary- i.e. any non-repulsive man/woman can land a 10 of the opposite sex with the right qualities and a certain level or magnetism/charisma. Just have to throw that in. As I've said on this site, my pretty undeniably least attractive friend gets tons of girls, many of whom are "9s" and "10s". But say all other things are more or less equal, and having a somewhat objectively equal level of beauty was all two potential partners had to go on... I'd say it has to be based on prior response from the opposite sex. I suppose if the most attractive girls that tend to show you attention are in the 8-10 range, that's your league. But as non of it's quantifiable, it's kind of useless. For instance: I'm not a flawless Adonis type. But, I find myself attracted to extremely beautiful girls, and when I put myself out there, the feeling typically ends up being reciprocated. Whether it's a basic returned flirtatious smile, verbally commmunicated interest, or straight-to-it physicality. So the question is, if these girls are 8-10 range, am I by association ? BTW I'm not compensating with money, a nice car or huge dick. I don't feel there is a girl who's out of my league based on physical appearance. But I also definitely don't consider myself a "10" by what I'd anticipate society's objective standard to be. What does that mean...
Treasa Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Attraction levels and ratings scales can eat me. I've been with men who some people would consider solid 10s, and I've been with some men that have made people take me aside and ask, "Um, what do you like about him again?" Be the best you that you can be, and go for anyone who you think you'd like to be with. If you get told no, you get told no. But you could just as easily be told no by someone who isn't as attractive (subjectively speaking) as someone who is. Just know that your set will remain undamaged even if you get rejected. 7
RogerWallace111 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) I think the thing is... physical attraction is so subject to taste that it can't be very well projected who one will appear attractive to. Just for kicks, let's think of some good old celebrity faces will all know. Say, David Beckham and Adrien Brody. Both very wealthy/successful, both presumably very charming with the ladies. If an extremely beautiful woman chooses Brody over Beckham, is it some case of "well, I like his funny/artistic style so I'm willing to accept his less chiseled/well-proportioned face" ? Could she actually look at Brody's face and find it more attractive if she knew nothing about him ? Just thought points... Brainstorming:) But yeah, just go for people you find attractive. Don't think about leagues. If you actually consider yourself to be hideous, then, yes, you probably won't have luck with the prettiest girls and will have to aim for some with a more modest level of physical beauty. Edited June 19, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
SteveC80 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Youve said you arent that attractive in your 30's and never been with a women you need to settle for a plain or homely women you're not that attracted to if you dont want to be alone. If you were even halfway decent looking by your 30's you would have accidentally ran into a few flings by now at the very least.
salparadise Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 For a guy, think of the cutest girl that's ever flirted with you - that's your level. For a woman, think of the cutest guy who refused to pay you any attention whatsoever - that's your level.
ThaWholigan Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You have to get out your comfort zone to go and find out. Trial and error.
AD1980 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You have to get out your comfort zone to go and find out. Trial and error. I think im afraid to find out i cant get women im attracted to lol
ThaWholigan Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I think im afraid to find out i cant get women im attracted to lol Your fear will only cause you to realize the very fate you are afraid of. You have to go find out. You will run into girls who like you the more you put yourself out there and come out of your shell. 1
Content Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Theyre's no rhyme or reason to attraction.Im not saying an obese man can get a supermodel but im also not buying that a average guy cant get a good looking women or vice versa. If you think simply going after women you're barely attracted to but approach because you think they are mroe attainable will help your chances you will find out you're wrong and become even more jaded when tons of women you think are on your level or lower arent attracted to you. Go after women you find attractive and eventually some will say yes. 2
Imajerk17 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Why not just approach whom *you* find attractive. If they find you attractive back you will know. Problem solved. 1
Phantom888 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm all over the map on this one. I seriously don't know my level based on who I've been with. I've been with gorgeous fitness instructors, and I've been with curvy moms. I approach whomever I find attractive and has a connection with me. For men, your confidence is everything. I feel women have a confidence detector built into their system, and they can sense your confidence really quickly. This is a primal evolutionary adaptation because men who are confident tend to be more capable at hunting and protecting their mates. Women want to feel protected. There are definitely things that can contribute to men's confidence: Money, power, knowledge, strength, dick size, etc.... The higher your confidence, the higher your level.
Mr. Nibbles Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm def a 10 but I've never dated a 10. I'm not totally shallow.
USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 There are definitely things that can contribute to men's confidence: Money, power, knowledge, strength, dick size, etc.... The higher your confidence, the higher your level. And the higher your level, the higher your confidence. Both feed off of each other. The more success you have, the higher your confidence in your ability to succeed. So what you end up with is a chicken and the egg. If you have neither confidence nor success, how do you begin...? There are definitely different theories out there for this...
truth_seeker Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Really what it is about is making a connection with that person, I wish I could explain how that works (if I could I'd write a book and make a million bucks) but I can't. It's just something that you have to do and eventually you'll get a feel for it. Exactly. It comes down to that feeling you get when you see someone. You get nervous, antsy, but yet you want to be around them. You can tell when they feel the same way for you. Really a special feeling.
Million.to.1 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I've been reading articles from "The Good Man Project" for some time now. They are varied, insightful and often inspiring. I thought I'd share this one with you about "Dating out of your league". I think it raises some fantastic points about attraction and what people "bring to the table" in dating and relationships. It also made me think back through my past dating experiences/relationships and reevaluate what made me feel a person was "out of my league" or I was out of theirs. Hope you enjoy.
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