robaday Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 Think half of it is actually giving it a go. I asked a girl out recently, who to be honest I would have always thought was way outta my league - she accepted quite happily So many years I spent not having enough guts to ask for someones number, or to go on a date, its just pushing through that, and realising that there is no pressure - some will work some wont, some will reject you, some wont For me just giving it a go is working. Id be the guy sitting down in a club while all his mates danced and hit on women, staring into his pint, wondering why less attractive guys were picking up and I wasnt. Truth is, I wasnt doing anything about it. Just strike up conversations, not to get numbers, just talk and talk and talk to as many women as possible....dont go in trying to get laid straight away, just enjoy their company and have no expectations.... Link to post Share on other sites
charlietheginger Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 lots of dicks and jerks fail with women.... Most are ugly... Good looking jerks get the poosie Good looking shy guys get the poosie.. Imo comes down to looks.... Personality comes second... Looks get you in the door.... Link to post Share on other sites
charlietheginger Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 I beg to diff about muscle... To much muscle is a turn off.. Most women want a lean defined body Thin midsection.... Most women like lower bodyfat Lower bodyfat makes a mans cheek bones And jaw line pronounced.. Adding depth to the face What ever size you are strive for bodyfat in the %10 range Or lower.... Ive been bulky build and now im athletic %9 bf and doing much better in the lady department So dont worry about adding a ton of muscle keep that midsection small with fitted clothes you Will look better then someone all bloated up looking Link to post Share on other sites
bobsmith76 Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 For the past month, I have been looking at how to improve myself to become more attractive to women. Since I am a short guy, I know that I have to make it up in other areas. I have been building up muscle and I am taking martial arts and. I plan on becoming more athletic and muscular. I also have been expanding my hobbies and will continue to try out new things. I know that expanding my social circle could help me, but so far, all I get is more guys. Next semester, I plan on devoting more time to meeting girls and making new friends. I also am reading pua material and other books on social interaction. Hopefully, I will be able to get a girl before I finish college. Does anyone have any other suggestions on how I can make myself more attractive? Volunteer, devote yourself to morality and acquire a genuine love for humanity. People who are devoted to the good for its own sake are much more attractive than soundrels. Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted November 21, 2012 Share Posted November 21, 2012 Write up a plan for the process of "continued self improvement". Crappy car? ... What are you doing about it? Messy apartment with lousy furniture? Straighten it out. Overweight? Quit the carbs. No social circle? Build one. Crappy job? What's the plan to better that? In debt? How are you digging out of it? Etc. Etc... You don't need to achieve it all in one day but SHE will expect you to atleast be headed in the right direction. The better you are doing the above, the more confident you will be, the higher the quality of a partner you will attract. Simple stuff. Now go do it. Link to post Share on other sites
GetHerBack Posted November 22, 2012 Share Posted November 22, 2012 I'm glad you're trying to improve your personal appearance, but make sure that doesn't harm who you really are...I've seen far too many guys get ripped and end up turning into complete jerks (and having the jerky girlfriend to match). Remain true to yourself, even after you do all these things (and you will, you seem like you're doing an awesome job) . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 25, 2012 Author Share Posted November 25, 2012 How specifically can I improve my personality? Would gaining experience with an escort be a good idea? Link to post Share on other sites
Tommasi Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 How specifically can I improve my personality? Would gaining experience with an escort be a good idea? Best ways to improve your personality:Read books, watch movies, pick up a hobby you are passionate about and the best of all go travelling by yourself, it will open your mind like you have no idea Escort girl sounds like a crappy idea Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 I am looking at buing a workout system. I might as well remove some body fat and build muscle to become more physically attractive. I also am nearly done reading the book "how to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Hopefully, this will expand my social circle to include more women. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) For the past month, I have been looking at how to improve myself to become more attractive to women. Since I am a short guy, I know that I have to make it up in other areas. I have been building up muscle and I am taking martial arts and. I plan on becoming more athletic and muscular. I also have been expanding my hobbies and will continue to try out new things. I know that expanding my social circle could help me, but so far, all I get is more guys. Next semester, I plan on devoting more time to meeting girls and making new friends. I also am reading pua material and other books on social interaction. Hopefully, I will be able to get a girl before I finish college. Does anyone have any other suggestions on how I can make myself more attractive? hi Sun Devil. You can do whatever you want to your outside. make yourself ripped, have arms like treetrunks, have the best tan in town, glowing white teeth, the most expensive clothes, the most expensive aftershave... whatever. Wont change a thing , not a single g*d damn thing.. if your inside is corrupted. i agree with most of what has been said to you. Confidence is the main thing. Without that, you will get no where. I`ll give you an example. A very good friend of mine has one ear bigger than the other. Really REALLY noticeable.( at least half if not more again), He`s balding, when i see him he looks like he hasn`t shaved in a week!! He is married. She is a stunner!! He is the life and sole of the party. He is BURSTING with confidence. He is the nicest guy i know. will do anything for anyone. Put it this way , I`D marry him ( and i`m not gay). Confidence comes from within. But you are going the right way about it, exercising, martial arts, expanding hobbies will ALL help. So what if you are just meeting guys? Have fun, relax and good luck aM Edited November 29, 2012 by aMguilts Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 How specifically can I improve my personality? Would gaining experience with an escort be a good idea? NO NO NO NO NO in bold. Relax . Stop stressing about being someone you aren`t. Be the man you are. Be yourself! Also stop reading pua material!! It never works, women can see through that s**t clear as day.(the ones that have had an education at least can) aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 I am improving both the outside and inside. I do not see how pua is bad, no one has proven that it is bad. I looked at reviews and chose good materials. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 lots of dicks and jerks fail with women.... Most are ugly... Good looking jerks get the poosie Good looking shy guys get the poosie.. Imo comes down to looks.... Personality comes second... Looks get you in the door.... LOL Biggest pile of cr*p i`ve read all day!! You have NO idea have you!!! bless you aM Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 I am improving both the outside and inside. I do not see how pua is bad, no one has proven that it is bad. I looked at reviews and chose good materials. Sun Devil to what end? aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 As much as I can without interfering with schoolwork. I am going to buy the p90x workout video, I will read more books about socializing. with women, and become more social. This week, I met 2 girls in my classes. I will try to set up a date. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 As much as I can without interfering with schoolwork. I am going to buy the p90x workout video, I will read more books about socializing. with women, and become more social. This week, I met 2 girls in my classes. I will try to set up a date. you misunderstood What is your end goal? What do you feel you need in your life to make it better? aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 My main goal is to be able to attract girls. Improving my social is a close second Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 then you will fail. swap it around and you won`t aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 Why would I fail? Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 Why would I fail? Have you listened to any advice given to you on here? No. That`s why you will fail. 1st girl you meet, you will lay down your heart for her and she WILL rip it to shreds i guarantee it Proove me wrong AM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 It already happened over a year ago. Next thing I know, she is with guys who do not treat her well. Being myself got me nowhere in the past so it would be insane to think that it would work in the future. My confidence is not the issue since I can approach girls who I do not know. Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) It already happened over a year ago. Next thing I know, she is with guys who do not treat her well. Being myself got me nowhere in the past so it would be insane to think that it would work in the future. My confidence is not the issue since I can approach girls who I do not know. so what is then? you just want the easiest way to get a shag? or a long time relationship? aM Edited November 29, 2012 by aMguilts Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 or both???? i can give you the answer to both or either aM Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun Devil Posted November 29, 2012 Author Share Posted November 29, 2012 I would like to have the answer to both Link to post Share on other sites
aMguilts Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) I would like to have the answer to both there`e in the replies from everyone that posted easy way? pay for it. hardest way? earn it quick and easy or long and long term? depends what you want aM Edited November 29, 2012 by aMguilts Link to post Share on other sites
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