BenBeach Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 One month ago I separated from the woman with whom I thought I would spend the rest of my life. I've been trying to practice NC but I CANNOT get her out of my head. I miss her so freakin bad. Just putting this out there for any advice y'all might have. I don't want to contact her, but I do. What strategies have you used to get over her? Could really use the help. Thanks everyone.
LostOne1 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 One month ago I separated from the woman with whom I thought I would spend the rest of my life. I've been trying to practice NC but I CANNOT get her out of my head. I miss her so freakin bad. Just putting this out there for any advice y'all might have. I don't want to contact her, but I do. What strategies have you used to get over her? Could really use the help. Thanks everyone. I basically read the no contact post here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/281193-all-new-no-contact-thread What got me to stop myself is the fact that NC needs to be implemnted to work. Think about it.. if you keep trying to contact her she will push u away. Then ull lose her, but if u dunt contact here then she will wonder why u didnt and what is going on and it will drive her crazy not to know. Im in the same boat as you.. I kept beggin my gf to take me back that I was sorry almost every day begging like a animal. And then she got so bad yesterday that she made it clear she needs space till she gets back home in 2 weeks and she doesn't want to hear from me. And if she feels like it she will text or contact me when shes back in town. Well within half a day of her saying that she already started to call me dozens of times and text me many times. Heck shes texting me at times of her work when she wouldn't normally. So I think its getting to her slowly that she cant hear about what im doing or how im still crying for her or suffering. In fact I think at the moment from her text she thinks I might have moved on now. I havent decided if I will text her to call me today or not.. might way and see how it plays out and if she texts me some more today or not. but NC is hard and as the guide says its more about U healing and not so much getting the other person back. If u get the person back then its a bonus but the whole point is to heal and become stronger if per chance u never get that person back
WinnerInChrist Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 @ BenBeach, Hmmm... were you the dumper or dumpee?
Drseussgrrl Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/337989-no-contact-nc-guide-long-walk-consolidated-discussion I think it's time to break out this classic again.
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