livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 From contacting my ex. Found out he went home with someone last night at a club, well I don't know for sure but i'm almost 100% positive I have had two instances so far where I have typed up a message to him and quit it beause i know I shouldn't contact him.
YorickBrown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 From contacting my ex. Found out he went home with someone last night at a club, well I don't know for sure but i'm almost 100% positive I have had two instances so far where I have typed up a message to him and quit it beause i know I shouldn't contact him. Today is your lucky day! This post <---might help Seriously....I got nothing
SeventhFloor Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 What's it going to do? He's just going to resent you. Throw away your phone...don't log into facebook or email, just don't, have the willpower. Right now, go be with a friend or your family. Leave your phone at home! 1
Author livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 delete his number from your phone. now. It's gone but I have it memorized...
blue_jay_bird Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 It's gone but I have it memorized... The lock up your cell, leave your cell somewhere you can't get it. And go out. To a book store, to the mall, anywhere.
blue_jay_bird Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 (edited) Things to remember: 1. If he/she wants to be with you he knows how to reach you. 2. Remember you are awesome, you can get through this. Edited August 3, 2012 by blue_jay_bird 2
YorickBrown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Things to remember: 1. If he/she wants to be with you he knows how to reach you. 2. Remember you are awesome, you can get through this. 3. If the above and all else fails, call/text/email...er, summon a SpellCaster
blue_jay_bird Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 oh Yorick Brown, i hope your the last man on earth. 3
Author livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 Things to remember: 1. If he/she wants to be with you he knows how to reach you. 2. Remember you are awesome, you can get through this. I go to work in 3 hours, i'll leave my phone at home then. And It just hurts because me and him were giving it one last shot to work things out. I told him I needed him to talk to me more often in order for me not to bitch at him as much, and that If I asked him to hang out then I didn't want him blowing it off every time and making up an excuse, and if he actually wanted to see me to make time another day, and he said he could do that. So he started talking to me more and then I got online, saw he was going out for a night with people and then texted him and said we need space until you're ready to start seeing me in person. And he said "well considering i told you last night I would let you know when I was free...but okay." and I said you know you seem like you have a lot of free time. We cant work on us until you can see me. And then I said, have fun tonight. He said "okay __. And its for my friends birthday, so I will have a good time. Then i didn't respond. And this morning I see the girl posted that she was stranded somewhere because her ride went home with someone. (highly assuming its my ex.)
YorickBrown Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 oh Yorick Brown, i hope your the last man on earth. Aha!!!! someone Googled it up...or, reads comicbooks...either way...you do know Yorick Brown comes with a monkey right??? & so what if I were the Last Man?
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 i too have one of those moments, but the last thing you want to be is a laughing stock among him and his friends. trust me i'm going through the same thing. But i refuse to let him know that i exist. i deleted his number even though i know it by heart...but when i get the urge its not like im going to type his number into my phone just so i can text him...that's pathetic even to me. honestly the way i see it, if he wanted me he would would have called or texted so why bother chase when i've already done that? SO DON'T DO IT. I'm right here with you trust me. Nothing he says is going to make you feel better....what if you text him about this new chick and he tells you that was his "cousin" or it was a lie you're hearing, or it was just a friend? would that satisfy you even when you know its all a lie? Ignorance is a bliss my friend. i may only be 19 and young at heart, but somethings i rather NOT know and deal with my own pain in a classy manner if i must say. 1
Author livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 SoConfusedAndInShock, how long have you been broken up with your ex for? Who did the dumping? I want to see your story and compare it to where I am. But it's good to know that i'm not the only one going through this! I know there are lots of people, but you know.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 He broke up with me about 5 and a half weeks ago. and i cried tears of blood in front of him and begged him. he was so confused and even at times seemed like he didn't want to do it. we were the role model couple among our group of friends and family. every one wanted to have what we had. to bad he ended up being so cruel to me. background: met at camp over the summer at the end of our junior yr in HS. we went to different schools so senior yr was so much fun cuz the romance was off the chart. then we went to different colleges and still nothing changed. we visited each other almost every 2 weeks and at times took days off to be together. we had total of 3 huge blown out fights in the 2 yrs we were together (guess third time is the charm cuz that did it) but we always seemed to bounce back as it was all a lesson for us. but idk he changed a lot this yr. dropped out of school, started hanging out with the wrong ppl, started smoking, just the typical good guy gone bad i guess. trust me when i got mad at him he used to cry and get on his knees and beg me not to end things. 2 weeks b4 our BU he did the whole crying and begging things and promising me the world....AND BAM one stupid miscommunication and hes gone like it was history. read my story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/334714-nc-4-days-now-im-going-crazy http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/336197-3-weeks-since-bu-2-weeks-nc-im-stuck-moment-lost-pain there's a lot more threads by me but those explain it a bit in depth. LS has helped me a lot and im def here for you as we all go through this difficult time. no joke this is like having death in the family. our BU effected my friends and family as well.
Author livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 He broke up with me about 5 and a half weeks ago. and i cried tears of blood in front of him and begged him. he was so confused and even at times seemed like he didn't want to do it. we were the role model couple among our group of friends and family. every one wanted to have what we had. to bad he ended up being so cruel to me. background: met at camp over the summer at the end of our junior yr in HS. we went to different schools so senior yr was so much fun cuz the romance was off the chart. then we went to different colleges and still nothing changed. we visited each other almost every 2 weeks and at times took days off to be together. we had total of 3 huge blown out fights in the 2 yrs we were together (guess third time is the charm cuz that did it) but we always seemed to bounce back as it was all a lesson for us. but idk he changed a lot this yr. dropped out of school, started hanging out with the wrong ppl, started smoking, just the typical good guy gone bad i guess. trust me when i got mad at him he used to cry and get on his knees and beg me not to end things. 2 weeks b4 our BU he did the whole crying and begging things and promising me the world....AND BAM one stupid miscommunication and hes gone like it was history. read my story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/334714-nc-4-days-now-im-going-crazy http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/336197-3-weeks-since-bu-2-weeks-nc-im-stuck-moment-lost-pain there's a lot more threads by me but those explain it a bit in depth. LS has helped me a lot and im def here for you as we all go through this difficult time. no joke this is like having death in the family. our BU effected my friends and family as well. At this point, like even if I were to text him, which im not, I'm speechless so I have nothing to say to him. I can't even come up with words to say to this thread. I'm just speechless.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 (edited) plus i've done the whole "talk to me more/spend more time with me" thing....it only lasted until the the next time i mentioned it again and again and again...AND AGAIN. it was a cycle for the 6 months before the BU. and yes you're right the first 2 weeks i got the urge to say what i wanted to say...even wrote a letter which i never sent. BUT hey now i dont even know what to say to him. its a dead thing in the past UNTIL he initiates contacts if EVER that it. Edited August 3, 2012 by SoConfusedAndInShock
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 since July 5th. BU is going to be 6 weeks soon and NC about 5 and half weeks. his last text was on what would have been our 23rd month...one text wishing me "happy 4th of july" WTF i was so pissed off. and we had so many things planned for tomorrow as it would have been 2 yrs. smh
Author livelife Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 since July 5th. BU is going to be 6 weeks soon and NC about 5 and half weeks. his last text was on what would have been our 23rd month...one text wishing me "happy 4th of july" WTF i was so pissed off. and we had so many things planned for tomorrow as it would have been 2 yrs. smh I guess it's good that I have nothing to say to him, as that stops me from texting him. I have no urge to because I don't even know what I would say!
blue_jay_bird Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Aha!!!! someone Googled it up...or, reads comicbooks...either way...you do know Yorick Brown comes with a monkey right??? & so what if I were the Last Man? Well, the Last Man gets all the women, so don't worry your get your agent 335 soon.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 its so not easy when that person has been your everything on daily basis. he was all i knew in my life. didn't make time for family of friends so now im paying for that. but im grateful that i have a good support system as my friends and fam are here now to guide me through all of this. When i need to cry, i cry, when i need to write, i do so and when its time to vent i come here because i learn from others. we all maybe going through different BUs but we're all hurt on the same level some what. so my point is just reach out instead of chasing him to the hole.
Author livelife Posted August 4, 2012 Author Posted August 4, 2012 its so not easy when that person has been your everything on daily basis. he was all i knew in my life. didn't make time for family of friends so now im paying for that. but im grateful that i have a good support system as my friends and fam are here now to guide me through all of this. When i need to cry, i cry, when i need to write, i do so and when its time to vent i come here because i learn from others. we all maybe going through different BUs but we're all hurt on the same level some what. so my point is just reach out instead of chasing him to the hole. Just got off of work and I'm feeling okay... it usually hits me at night but I'm going to try to not let it. Now I know he is in the wrong and now I know I have to move on since he is getting with other people.
Samilia Posted August 4, 2012 Posted August 4, 2012 Chocolate and true blood are your friends. Not your phone!
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