whoknows11 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Read before if you can : just to catch up. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/337334-read-everyone-realize It seems like things are the same. I figured id stop thinking of her completly. Not care at all for her now afterwards. Like my feelings would just be gone. I dont get it. Im just so depressed honestly. Completly miserable with no hope. I tried talking to other girls lately, i just hate it cause it just feels like something i dont wanna do. The one i wanted to, left for someone else. Theres nothing i can do. Whether im out with friends or by myself, in my mma gym, socalizing with people. I just keep thinking of her. I feel bad and dissapointed for missing her still. It really kills that shes with someone new. That shes spending her time with him now. Making new memories, giving her feelings,heart, effort and doing everything with him. And they got together about a month and a half after we broke up. I never knew until i saw a facebook picture even though she had me blocked. I worked months for all of that with her to be together. He got her so quickly. It just reallt hurts i guess to see her happy with someone else after we broke up. But ive left her alone. She found who she wants. I just need help. Any advice or opinions would be helpful. Thank you.
k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I'm sorry but there really isn't a lot you can do other than try to keep occupied and spend time with friends and family who care. I doesn't seem like it but you will get sick of talking about her one day, you will start to feel better. I saw a facebook pic of my ex with her new man or who i think is her new name exactly 1 month after breaking up, two weeks after she was telling me she thought about me everyday. I understand what you are saying about talking to other girls, i can talk to them and i can find people attractive but my head just isn't in it at the moent, this is normal and you can't force it to happen. Sorry I wasn't more helpful but that is the only advice I can give, Try to push it out of your mind when she pops up in it, or tell yourself you can think about her for say 30 minutes per day but only at a set time, until then when she omes into your head you will try your hardest to block it out until your set time. This is something they do in psychotherapy for people who worry about things they can't change. It does help slightly.
penguin23 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 hi! Sorry you're having a tough time right now. It's ok to miss her--she was important to you. I tend to judge how I'm feeling too-I always want to be over my emotions as quickly as possible. But you're just making it more painful for yourself. Allow yourself to be where you are and to feel what you're feeling. If you feel bad or disappointed about what you're feeling all it does is make you feel worse. Just assume that if you feel a certain way that that's the way you should feel. You're not always going to feel that way. And it terms of never thinking about her again-that's just unrealistic. Of course she's going to still be on your mind. But over time it will become less and less frequent. In the meantime keep busy with other things.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 Thanks everyone. Its just been the hardest thing in the word. Especially hurts knowing theres someone else she looks happy with. It seems like yesterday she was right here with me and everything felt beyond amazing. Then it ended. In a terrible way. And there was nothing i could do. I feel beyond deeply depressed. And i havent lost any feeling at all with her. Shes gone, and i just dont know where i went wrong. All i can do is just let her go and just try to make ot through each day. I feel like the life has been ripped out of me.
AlexanderJames Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 If anything mate you are going to feel at your worst now. Because the little bit of hope you were clinging onto was keeping you going. Now you are at an ultimatum, one you werent prepared for. Everythings been turned upside down and a wound you had been nurturing and tending to has been clawed at and reopened. This is a blessing in disguise though buddy. Now you know she isnt coming back, you know you cant hang on to any hopes, you know she isnt the girl for you. It hurts trust me we know. But look at it from a glass is half full POV. You're free, you dont have to wonder about her, you dont have to wait for her. No more what if's or I wonder whens or should I do this. You have direction my friend. Be thankful because this situation is doing you wonders. The road is hard, especially at the beginning. But now you know where you have to go. Are you strong enough to make it?
barriob Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Its okay. I feel the same exact way as you do. My ex has a new gf and he seems nappy. But you know what, life goes on. You have to be strong for yourself. She chose to not be with you. Did she break up with you and why? My ex broke up with me a year ago but we recentky stopped hanging out this march. It hurts that he hasnt bothered to even tell me he has a gf but that's okay. I know i was so good to him and thats his loss.
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