whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 People, listen to everyone on here when they say what i need space, and other lies an ex feeds you when they leave. Breadcrumbs too. Theyre right. I learned it. You read my stories, You know what i went through. Yet i just couldnt give up. I had hope, trust and waited for her. I learned my lesson tonight. My brother and his wife said they saw my ex downtown at a fireworks festival thing. She was sitting on a guys lap. Kissing him and pretty much making out. I guess he had gauges too. She saw them two i guess and looked scared/nervous and got away from them. Cause she didnt know they were standing near her until she saw them after. She got over me within a month and a half. After messing with my head. Manipulating me after the breakup. Making false promises. Giving false hope and lying about loving me still and what not. I wish i didnt learn this way. I shouldve left. People, stick to no contact. Itll save you.
barriob Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I agree with you. I found out a month ago that my ex has a new gf. My ex had me on lumbo for like months after the break up. I
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 I agree with you. I found out a month ago that my ex has a new gf. My ex had me on lumbo for like months after the break up. I Ive never felt this betrayed before. She completly lied to me from the start. I made a promise to her that i wont do anything with another girl. She promised the same. Cause i believed her and we were going to be back together in the end. But it turns out, i was just completly blinded. And a fool to believe her.
barriob Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Same exact thinv happened to me. You have to stop being miserable. She is happy so you should too! Forget her and start focusing on yoursekf.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Same exact thinv happened to me. You have to stop being miserable. She is happy so you should too! Forget her and start focusing on yoursekf. Cause i have every ounce of feeling for her still. She just never had the heart to tell me the truth. Just lied and manipulated me the whole time. Made excuses. All i did was try and do the right thing like i thought i was doing and just care. I believed everything she said and just blinded myself by it. It hurts so much, i never thought itd happen. Its even worse my own brother had to tell me.
barriob Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I know. I still love my ex so much but i know that he doesnt care. You have to wake up and realize that she is over you. My ex said so many nice things but in the end it meant nothing. I had to find out through instagram. It sucks that he didn't even have the decency to tell me himself. But oh well, i have to be strong for miyself.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 I know. I still love my ex so much but i know that he doesnt care. You have to wake up and realize that she is over you. My ex said so many nice things but in the end it meant nothing. I had to find out through instagram. It sucks that he didn't even have the decency to tell me himself. But oh well, i have to be strong for miyself. She just moved on so quickly. Only took about a month and a half. She didnt have the heart to tell me the truth. Instead of hiding it and just making excuses and lies to keep me around after the breakup and push me away. I really did believe she needed a break from relationships. She got me good. I just cant sleep now. The thought just plays in my head of her with another guy there. And just the lies she told me.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 She just moved on so quickly. Only took about a month and a half. She didnt have the heart to tell me the truth. Instead of hiding it and just making excuses and lies to keep me around after the breakup and push me away. I really did believe she needed a break from relationships. She got me good. I just cant sleep now. The thought just plays in my head of her with another guy there. And just the lies she told me. She didnt move on quickly, she moved on months before she broke it off with you. Thats why she was with someone so fast after you, she didnt have to get over you. She was probably with that guy right after she broke it off, but you didnt find out about it until much later. You NEVER believe what they say when they start acting distant towards you. if their actions dont match their words, you dont believe them. You will remember this in your next relationship. People lie to keep you in the dark depending on their agenda, and you found this out the hard way, like pretty much everyone does that has ever been dumped more than once. 1
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 She didnt move on quickly, she moved on months before she broke it off with you. Thats why she was with someone so fast after you, she didnt have to get over you. She was probably with that guy right after she broke it off, but you didnt find out about it until much later. You NEVER believe what they say when they start acting distant towards you. if their actions dont match their words, you dont believe them. You will remember this in your next relationship. People lie to keep you in the dark depending on their agenda, and you found this out the hard way, like pretty much everyone does that has ever been dumped more than once. Youre right. Youre completly right. Its a shame i had to find out so late and the way i did. She became distant each day after we broke up. But confused me at the same time by messing with my head completly the whole time. I wish i couldve moved on that quick. But i havent at all. Its a nightmare. Just to hear your ex is doing something with someone and its playing in your head without you trying just hurts. Coincidentally i was reading all the letters she wrote me. But theyre going to be gone now. She has someone else now.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 She didnt move on quickly, she moved on months before she broke it off with you. Thats why she was with someone so fast after you, she didnt have to get over you. She was probably with that guy right after she broke it off, but you didnt find out about it until much later. You NEVER believe what they say when they start acting distant towards you. if their actions dont match their words, you dont believe them. You will remember this in your next relationship. People lie to keep you in the dark depending on their agenda, and you found this out the hard way, like pretty much everyone does that has ever been dumped more than once. Disagree. Possible, but not likely, especially if it was GiGs...though I don't really know OP's story
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Highs and lows will come. The highs with "I don't need that b!tch." The lows torturing you. Your mind probably harms you more than she does.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/331815-needing-miracle-there-still-hope
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/335467-time-quit
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/336127-here-we-go-again Theres another small part in the beginning of this thread. A link. But the three i posted were mainly everything. Hopefully i get everyones advice/opinion still. Now that they know the story
Gulf-Delta Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Sounds like GiGs to me. If that is the case, then it was probably on impulse...doesn't mean there's hope though.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Sounds like GiGs to me. If that is the case, then it was probably on impulse...doesn't mean there's hope though. Whats gigs? I know it means grass is greener syndrom but idk. And idk if it was on impulse. Or why she did it. But there is no hope, none at all. It hit me so hard. The way i found out was hard too. I havent been hurt this much or lied to/betrayed. Im just so miserable now. I cant sleep at all.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Whats gigs? I know it means grass is greener syndrom but idk. And idk if it was on impulse. Or why she did it. But there is no hope, none at all. It hit me so hard. The way i found out was hard too. I havent been hurt this much or lied to/betrayed. Im just so miserable now. I cant sleep at all. The GiGs thing is where the dumper, for whatever reason, just decides to do a 180 in personality, tastes, activities, etc. They think you aren't compatible with this new lifestyle they want (all the intentions and thought of marriage, family, stability, etc) go out the window and the only thing that matters to them is a change of scenery and "fun". They trade in the important things in life (healthy relationships, financial stability, etc) for superficial things, like partying, drinking, sometimes drugs...basically their priorities go haywire. "Real life" goes slides way to the bottom, and suddenly being/having "fun" is of the utmost importance. In most of the stories I've seen on here, and in my own case, this change happens practically overnite. In a lot of cases, it's just the dumper going nuts, and not knowing who they are, who they want, why or what they are doing. Whether or not this mindset lasts, or if they ever come back to being "normal", apologize to those they hurt, or look back it, etc. I have no idea. You hear very much about GiGs here, but never the outcome, ending, post-GiGs... 1
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 The GiGs thing is where the dumper, for whatever reason, just decides to do a 180 in personality, tastes, activities, etc. They think you aren't compatible with this new lifestyle they want (all the intentions and thought of marriage, family, stability, etc) go out the window and the only thing that matters to them is a change of scenery and "fun". They trade in the important things in life (healthy relationships, financial stability, etc) for superficial things, like partying, drinking, sometimes drugs...basically their priorities go haywire. "Real life" goes slides way to the bottom, and suddenly being/having "fun" is of the utmost importance. In most of the stories I've seen on here, and in my own case, this change happens practically overnite. In a lot of cases, it's just the dumper going nuts, and not knowing who they are, who they want, why or what they are doing. Whether or not this mindset lasts, or if they ever come back to being "normal", apologize to those they hurt, or look back it, etc. I have no idea. You hear very much about GiGs here, but never the outcome, ending, post-GiGs... Yeah i understand that. Theres no reconciliation. I just wasnt expecting it. Especially if you read my stories. She doesnt party,smoke,or drink. She doesnt sleep with random guys or do anything with them. She hates people like that. It just suprised/shocked me that shes kissing/making out with this guy already out of nowhere. I cant imagine how long its been happening. Like theyve been talking and working on things. Cause we just broke up at the end of may.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Yeah i understand that. Theres no reconciliation. I just wasnt expecting it. Especially if you read my stories. She doesnt party,smoke,or drink. She doesnt sleep with random guys or do anything with them. She hates people like that. It just suprised/shocked me that shes kissing/making out with this guy already out of nowhere. I cant imagine how long its been happening. Like theyve been talking and working on things. Cause we just broke up at the end of may. Well then maybe it was a case where she was thinking about leaving for a long time.... When I saw your age and circumstances, I automatically thought GiGs, but it appears I could be incorrect on that call
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Well then maybe it was a case where she was thinking about leaving for a long time.... When I saw your age and circumstances, I automatically thought GiGs, but it appears I could be incorrect on that call Ill just never know. I remember the day we broke up she said she was thinking about it for a few days, and talked to her mom and two best friends about it. Either way i lost in the end. Was completly blinded and fooled. Each day seems horrible. Just dark and hurtful. Like im a wounded animal waiting to die. Suffering each day and taking a beating. Between this and other things going on in my life. It just makes it so much harder after hearing this today. Anywheres better than here at this point.
darkmoon Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 don't let one crappy evening out hold you down - welcome back to the land of no contact xx
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 don't let one crappy evening out hold you down - welcome back to the land of no contact xx Today was one of the worst. But its not a crappy evening if its been this way since day one.
dannykeyz831 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Why do we continue to get played this way. Is it us? Is it them? Maybe we need to man up and treat them like crap. It's a proven method. When I started being mean to my ex gf, that's when she started becoming attached and needy. I felt guilty and resorted back to my old little boy ways and voala, I got dumped again. I hate women! 1
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 Why do we continue to get played this way. Is it us? Is it them? Maybe we need to man up and treat them like crap. It's a proven method. When I started being mean to my ex gf, that's when she started becoming attached and needy. I felt guilty and resorted back to my old little boy ways and voala, I got dumped again. I hate women! Because as heartless, carefree and just nasty as they can be, it isnt about putting them down. It isnt about stooping to their level. As hurt as i am, im not gonna fight with her or this new guy. She found who she wants. And just seems to be happy with him. The whole time she was with me just seems like it was all a lie. Constant letters and pictures from her. Memories, things she d say or do. How commited she seemed to the relationship and crazy about me she seemed. I guess it was just all a lie. She blinded me. Theres nothing i can do about it. Once someone i was with does something with someone else, i dont ever go back. They must notve cared or loved you in the first place if they could do that. Especially that quickly. You just gotta let them be. Thats what im doing. Theses days will be nightmares but shes gone. She has someone else. I gotta come to grips.
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