one goal Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/332064-how-approach-girls-school-i-give-up related to my previous thread, just for this class how should I talk to, get to know these two girls in my class I find attractive? We have ten classes left and about a month to go. What steps can I take so hopefully end of the semester I can ask them to go hangout? I mean only ten classes and kinda desperate. Like crashing the net and trying to score to tie the game late in the 3rd.
whichwayisup Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 OG, can I ask? Do you have trouble just making friends with people? This really should be not as hard as you make it out to be. I've posted just about on every single one of your threads and you ask the same questions, people give you the same answers, good suggestions and you do the opposite and become too pushy, too forward with these girls. People smell desparation a mile away, girls run from it, so really stop and think about your approach, your intentions.. Are you truly looking for a 'friendship' with one of these girls, or are you looking for a relationship/sex? If you like one of the girls, be kind, be witty/funny and don't rush to ask her out. You become buddies in class, when classes are done (end of semester) exchange numbers, be a cool cat and say "I had so much fun hanging out, let's do this again soon" or something along those lines. Remember, casual and laid back , not pushy and in her face. 1
oaks Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/332064-how-approach-girls-school-i-give-up related to my previous thread, just for this class how should I talk to, get to know these two girls in my class I find attractive? We have ten classes left and about a month to go. I imagine the advice given previously (and last semester, and the one before) may have relevance. Do you know how to talk to that third guy from the left, over there, who is also in your class? Think about how you would have a conversation with him. You don't know him yet and he knows nothing about you, but you both share something in common (this class). If you can figure out how to talk to him then that would be a start, and it might help you to practice talking to people without the anxiety of "she's hot, I mustn't mess this up". And you never know, but he might know something about the girls that you like that would give you something else to talk to them about! What steps can I take so hopefully end of the semester I can ask them to go hangout? Waiting until the end of the semester is too late (as has been mentioned before) but try having a conversation with them... about class, about campus, about current events, about music, about your hobbies (and find out what hers are). I mean only ten classes and kinda desperate. I think girls can smell desperation, so make sure you use a good deodorant but, generally, relax about it.
Author one goal Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 I imagine the advice given previously (and last semester, and the one before) may have relevance. Do you know how to talk to that third guy from the left, over there, who is also in your class? Think about how you would have a conversation with him. You don't know him yet and he knows nothing about you, but you both share something in common (this class). If you can figure out how to talk to him then that would be a start, and it might help you to practice talking to people without the anxiety of "she's hot, I mustn't mess this up". And you never know, but he might know something about the girls that you like that would give you something else to talk to them about! Waiting until the end of the semester is too late (as has been mentioned before) but try having a conversation with them... about class, about campus, about current events, about music, about your hobbies (and find out what hers are). I think girls can smell desperation, so make sure you use a good deodorant but, generally, relax about it. The thing is I need a chance to talk to them.
oaks Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 The thing is I need a chance to talk to them. Is there a tongue in your mouth?
Author one goal Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 Is there a tongue in your mouth? No. What I mean is in class we don't get a chance to talk a lot.
runner Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 set up a study thing outside of class. doesn't matter what the project is, even if it's a one page summary of why you love your cat, make it sound like you need a "study partner" for it.
oaks Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 No. What I mean is in class we don't get a chance to talk a lot. Sure, but we covered this last semester and the one before. Talk to her before, or after. Use those things at the end of your legs to propel you closer to her, then use your mouth to speak some words. Doesn't really matter what the words are (well, "suck my dick" probably won't go down well) as all you need to do is succeed in having a conversation. Having a conversation has nothing to do with her being "a hottie", as you could do that with anybody in the class, so just walk over there and say hi, introduce yourself, talk about the weather or the class assignment or even just find out her name. When is the next class?
Cracker Jack Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 No. What I mean is in class we don't get a chance to talk a lot. Create opportunities for yourself, then. There is no perfect way to approach this.
Author one goal Posted June 24, 2012 Author Posted June 24, 2012 Sure, but we covered this last semester and the one before. Talk to her before, or after. Use those things at the end of your legs to propel you closer to her, then use your mouth to speak some words. Doesn't really matter what the words are (well, "suck my dick" probably won't go down well) as all you need to do is succeed in having a conversation. Having a conversation has nothing to do with her being "a hottie", as you could do that with anybody in the class, so just walk over there and say hi, introduce yourself, talk about the weather or the class assignment or even just find out her name. When is the next class? Tue is the next class. It's depressing for me though that I never get a date and don't have a gf. Really upsetting me.
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Create opportunities for yourself, then. There is no perfect way to approach this. How am I supposed to by just sitting in class?
Cracker Jack Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Uh, dude, just approach one of those girls and introduce yourself. Here, it's simple: "Hey, so you're ready for that *insert test, project, whatever talk* we have coming up?! Btw, my name is one goal. Nice to meet you." Just introduce yourself, one goal. Stop asking questions and just give it a shot for once.
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Uh, dude, just approach one of those girls and introduce yourself. Here, it's simple: "Hey, so you're ready for that *insert test, project, whatever talk* we have coming up?! Btw, my name is one goal. Nice to meet you." Just introduce yourself, one goal. Stop asking questions and just give it a shot for once. We don't have test in this class.
Cracker Jack Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 As usual, you've missed the point of the post. Read it again without focusing on (the most irrelevant part of the post) the test part.
oaks Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Tue is the next class. It's depressing for me though that I never get a date and don't have a gf. Really upsetting me. Well you have to take some positive action to get a gf. What are you actually going to do on Tuesday to move in that direction? You've had plenty of advice about it...
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Well you have to take some positive action to get a gf. What are you actually going to do on Tuesday to move in that direction? You've had plenty of advice about it... Hopefully in class when we do work in groups I get one of the hotties. Maybe speak up in class more so they notice who I am?
oaks Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You're relying too much on fate to bring you together. You could take action yourself! Fortune favors the brave.
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 You're relying too much on fate to bring you together. You could take action yourself! Fortune favors the brave. What I mean in class the teacher puts us into groups each class. If I'm not put in a group with one of the hotties, then I don't get a chance to talk to them then. I have to speak up in class more then so they hear me, make them laugh ect. We do have a final project though we will be put into groups and have a month to work on it. I really hope I get one of them in my group cause then chances are we have to meet outside of class somewhere since class is only twice a week. At school this fall I'll be there 5 days a week and not working at all so I hope I'll meet more people this time. The clubs at my university though are geared towards gays, and girls it seems. Our school the girls outnumber the guys like 57 to 43 percent I think. It's fairly liberal small private university. Last year sucked. The few girls I did meet it didn't work out no matter what I did! I really emptied the tank all I could.
oaks Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 If you can't talk to them in class then you'll have to talk to them before or after! Quit making excuses about how you can't follow the advice you asked for.
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 If you can't talk to them in class then you'll have to talk to them before or after! Quit making excuses about how you can't follow the advice you asked for. What about looking them up on facebook to talk to them?
oaks Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 What about looking them up on facebook to talk to them? Not as effective as actually talking in person. You do want to be effective, don't you?
Author one goal Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Not as effective as actually talking in person. You do want to be effective, don't you? I want to be effective, but like I said I don't get a lot of chances in class.
oaks Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I want to be effective, but like I said I don't get a lot of chances in class. So talk to her before class. Make sure you get there early.
Author one goal Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 So talk to her before class. Make sure you get there early. I am there early. Most don't pile in until class starts.
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