one goal Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 and it's depressing. How do I meet them in college especially? I go to a university, but during the summer I take a class at community college to save money and transfer the credits over. Like in my class there is this one hot looking chick. Really hot. The teacher breaks us up into groups and today she was in my group. Of course I didn't say a lot because I was nervous and because you can't hit on her with others around? How the world am I supposed to talk to them then? Should I just randomly look her up on facebook or would that be creepy? We will be doin a group project soon so always a chance I could be in her group, then I'd have her cell number and email addy. I'm really down though. It's like the girls don't like me. Im more mid, later 20s but look really young. Most girls think I'm more around 20.
MrCastle Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Don't let your mind set you up for failure. Talk to them like you would anyone else. Just because the girl is hot doesn't mean she's earned anything, or that you owe her something. 1
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 I never get a date though. It never works.
MrCastle Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I never get a date though. It never works. Just be cool. Establish a rapport with her during class, and then afterwards say hey let me get your number so we can finish the project or whatever. Then take it from there. 1
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Well I hope for our final project I'm in the same group as her. Then I'll likely get her cell number, then at the end of the semester I could possibly ask since if it's awkward I won't see her anymore anyways.
MaxNoob Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I don't agree with the advice here - to just be ordinary. For a really hot girl that could have 10 guys chasing her, you've got to be extraordinary. You're doing a project with her; you can draw attention to yourself by treating this project like it's the most important task in world; show optimism, effort, and don't trivialize anything. This of kind of attitude makes you glow with electricity; it's infectious and it allows you to establish yourself as the leader of the group. When she sees that you're taking the initiative and that you really care, it can make you irresistible. Her subconscious might be telling her: look at the effort he's putting into this project, now imagine the effort he would put into raising a kid. Match found, release chemicals, go crazy for this guy. Now that she's noticed you, you've got to flirt with her. Eye contact, smile, keep your head up, talk to her, ask questions, show interest in what she's saying. Make an effort to have a deep, soothing tone of voice. Compliment her on some tiny detail. Then ask her out. 2
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Well I dunno yet what the groups will be for the final project. Was mentioning it because if she's in my group then I'd get her cell number and could text her after the semester. If not in my group I don't know how else I could talk to her then.
MaxNoob Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Well I dunno yet what the groups will be for the final project. Was mentioning it because if she's in my group then I'd get her cell number and could text her after the semester. If not in my group I don't know how else I could talk to her then. Just go sit next to her and start a conversation; you can open it with some observation about the room. And stop this negative thinking, telling yourself that it never works. You've got to keep trying. Abraham Lincoln - Portrait of an Achiever 1831 - Failed in business - bankruptcy (age 22) 1832 - Defeated for legislature (age 23) 1834 - Failed in business - bankruptcy (age 24) 1835 - Sweetheart & Fiance dies (age 26) 1836 - Nervous Breakdown (age 27) 1838 - Defeated in election (age 29) 1843 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 31) 1846 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 34) 1848 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 39) 1855 - Defeated for U.S. Senate (age 46) 1856 - Defeated for U.S. Vice-President (age 47) 1858 - Defeated for U.S. Senate (age 49) 1860 - Elected President of the United States 1
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Just go sit next to her and start a conversation; you can open it with some observation about the room. And stop this negative thinking, telling yourself that it never works. You've got to keep trying. Abraham Lincoln - Portrait of an Achiever 1831 - Failed in business - bankruptcy (age 22) 1832 - Defeated for legislature (age 23) 1834 - Failed in business - bankruptcy (age 24) 1835 - Sweetheart & Fiance dies (age 26) 1836 - Nervous Breakdown (age 27) 1838 - Defeated in election (age 29) 1843 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 31) 1846 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 34) 1848 - Defeated for U.S. Congress (age 39) 1855 - Defeated for U.S. Senate (age 46) 1856 - Defeated for U.S. Vice-President (age 47) 1858 - Defeated for U.S. Senate (age 49) 1860 - Elected President of the United States We pretty much have assigned seats. Well its college but everyone has their seat picked out now and people sit next to her.
MaxNoob Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 We pretty much have assigned seats. Well its college but everyone has their seat picked out now and people sit next to her. People get into the habit of taking the same seat, but no one's going to care if you break the seating order, especially not in college. If you have to do a presentation and you're able to stay relaxed and throw in some jokes to make the class laugh, girls will break the seating order to sit next to you. One thing that worked for me; when I noticed a girl had missed a class, I went right up to her the next day and asked if she needed the notes, with a seductive tone, making it blatantly obvious that I'd been noticing her. Sure, people are going to notice that you're hitting on her, but who cares. In my case they were impressed.
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 People get into the habit of taking the same seat, but no one's going to care if you break the seating order, especially not in college. If you have to do a presentation and you're able to stay relaxed and throw in some jokes to make the class laugh, girls will break the seating order to sit next to you. One thing that worked for me; when I noticed a girl had missed a class, I went right up to her the next day and asked if she needed the notes, with a seductive tone, making it blatantly obvious that I'd been noticing her. Sure, people are going to notice that you're hitting on her, but who cares. In my case they were impressed. Oh and this chick is probably like 7 years younger than me.
MaxNoob Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Oh and this chick is probably like 7 years younger than me. But you look younger than your age. I had a girlfriend who was 1 year older than me; I was 23, she was 24. But since I looked younger than my age and she looked older, her friends constantly put her down, telling her I was too young.
oaks Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Don't wait until the end of the semester. Ask her next time you see her.
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Don't wait until the end of the semester. Ask her next time you see her. LOL I don't even know her besides working for a bit with her today and didn't even get to talk to her much. Like I said by the end of the semester hopefully Im working in the group project with her and can get her number that way.
Cracker Jack Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 If you get her # that way, she likely wouldn't be comfortable talking to you about anything outside of the project. Didn't you have a situation like this before?
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 If you get her # that way, she likely wouldn't be comfortable talking to you about anything outside of the project. Didn't you have a situation like this before? Yea, last summer. However last summer that girl actually talked to me in class and was very chatty with me and we'd exchanged tons of text back and forth and she was actually friendly. Until the end she got mad because she wasn't interested but before then she'd text me a lot.
oaks Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 LOL I don't even know her besides working for a bit with her today and didn't even get to talk to her much. Like I said by the end of the semester hopefully Im working in the group project with her and can get her number that way. I realise that you don't really know her but that's the point of going on a date; to get to know her. You've been here before... pretty much every semester for a while now... where you find a "hot girl" in class but decide not to ask her out until semester finishes and then it turns out that you're not interested. That sounds like a great way to waste a lot of your time! You could find out today (or, at least, in your next class) if this girl wants to go for lunch/coffee with you and if she doesn't then you can focus your attention elsewhere and possibly find someone. Usually you come back at about this point and say that it would be super awkward in class if she's there but had turned you down, but that's just BS that you need to get over. If you ask her out and she says 'no' and you don't get all bent out of shape over it then she won't give it another thought by the next time you see her. So ask her.
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 I realise that you don't really know her but that's the point of going on a date; to get to know her. You've been here before... pretty much every semester for a while now... where you find a "hot girl" in class but decide not to ask her out until semester finishes and then it turns out that you're not interested. That sounds like a great way to waste a lot of your time! You could find out today (or, at least, in your next class) if this girl wants to go for lunch/coffee with you and if she doesn't then you can focus your attention elsewhere and possibly find someone. Usually you come back at about this point and say that it would be super awkward in class if she's there but had turned you down, but that's just BS that you need to get over. If you ask her out and she says 'no' and you don't get all bent out of shape over it then she won't give it another thought by the next time you see her. So ask her. But they always say no! Never once said yes!
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 You could try women your own age. Yea but must of the girls I'm around are younger like early 20s.
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 Then get out more. Like where? School has the highest quantity of them.
utterer of lies Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Now that she's noticed you, you've got to flirt with her. Eye contact, smile, keep your head up, talk to her, ask questions, show interest in what she's saying. Make an effort to have a deep, soothing tone of voice. Compliment her on some tiny detail. Then ask her out. It's tricky, as one goal has a bit of a history as a stalker of celebrities and/or classmates. See his thread history. Hard to give good advice, except for: Don't stalk the poor girl, this time.
Author one goal Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 It's tricky, as one goal has a bit of a history as a stalker of celebrities and/or classmates. See his thread history. Hard to give good advice, except for: Don't stalk the poor girl, this time. How do I get to know her better if I don't get a chance to talk to the couple hotties in my class a lot?
Cracker Jack Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 Why don't you try to meet women at clubs, bars, or try and take up some hobbies where they'll likely be available?
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