skyisfalling Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 Hey Guys! So I've been on this forum for the past 3 weeks reading about different types of situations, digging up threads from the past, and i think this beautifully sums EVERYTHING you need to know about your breakup. I'm quoting it from a LS member named DenverBachelor and I hope he doesn't mind that I'm copying his thread because I think everyone could find his advice VERY useful. <http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/236209-ls-breakup-f-q-feel-free-add> I see a lot of posts that could easily be answered just by the question in the title. So let's begin. Q) Should I write my ex a letter / send this letter. A) No. Absolutely not. He or she doesn't care about what you think. If they did, they wouldn't have broken up with you. Q) Should I break NC? A) No. Absolutely not. You should stay in NC to heal so you can find someone better. Forget about a second chance. In 99.9% of all breakups, second chances aren't going to happen. Don't think you're special because you're not. Q) Should I wish him/her a happy birthday/graduation/wedding/divorce/got out of jail/etc. A) No. If you have the desire to send it, you're still pawing over them. If they reply back, it will set you back. Either way, no good will come of it. Q) Need help with this weird / complicated situation. A) It's never really that complicated. If you're posting on LS, your instincts are at least telling you the end is near or it has come and past and you've ignored it. He/she comes home late? Wants a "break?" Spends less time with you? It's all the same -- you're breaking up. Q) I'm going to die.] A) No, but you will be a lot stronger and more attractive in 6-12 months. Then you'll get someone even better. Q) It was all my fault. A) No, it wasn't. It takes two to tango. You might have made some huge mistakes, but some of those mistakes could have been from frustration from their mistakes. It failed -- but it's not the end of the world. It's just the end of one chapter and the beginning of a new one with plenty of potential. Q) What does this text/e-mail/call mean? A) It doesn't mean anything. Ignore them all and get into the new chapter of your life. You're hanging out in the echoes of things already past.
barese1 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 This stuff is toooo true. I know there are many threads saying this but maybe not so concise!
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