hooked up with a guy and I guess I'm still not ready? I feel awful now!

[fificremefarben]

My story -> http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/304090-my-breakup-story-tell-me-what-you-think

 

 

It's been 10 months now since my breakup and, in that time, I've found that I've really not been attracted to any other guys in that time. I've also definitely steered clear of rebounding in the immediate aftermath.

 

I was out at the weekend, and I met this guy at a bar. He went to school with the friend I was with so he stayed to talk to us. We were talking for a few hours and he came back to my friend's place with us so that we could open a bottle of wine. We were flirting and stuff and I was surprised to find that I was actually pretty into him (though, I'm sure the wine helped). We were getting along really well and had a lot in common. So, that night, I ended up hooking up with him (not fully. We didn't sleep together, but went further than you would normally go).

 

He asked for my number, which I gave him. I wasn't fussed about him calling because I was just so happy that I'd gotten my "mojo" back and that my ex was no longer the last guy who had touched me.

 

I didn't think I cared whether or not he would actually call but, now that it's four days later and he hasn't called, I'm finding myself wanting him to call and wondering why he hasn't. I know WHY he hasn't called me- because it was a "hookup"- but I'm worried about how horrible it's made me feel about myself now.

 

I've never done anything like that so it's all new. Whilst we were talking, we both admitted it had been a while for both of us, so I don't think he thinks I'm that kind of girl, but it's done nothing for my confidence that he hasn't called.

 

Does this mean I'm still not ready to be getting back out there, if I've reacted like this?

[sunlover]

I think this is a great stepping stone. You should be happy. Maybe he isnt ready. Or msybe he'll call. Dont stresd, focus on positives