rana-rana Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 sh*t! went on a date last time with this guy to ihop. afterwards he wants to go to the movies but I want dave & busters so he gets pissy and tells me to take myself home. date cancelled! another guy from facebook hits me up. he's a mutual friend. a little older in his late 20s. I say ok cool he's cute. we exchange numbers. he wants to text but I wanna hear his voice. he says talking on the phone is boring but texting is more fun. hey, I dont meet guys without hearing their voices. after I tell him this he stops texting. poof! another loser. 2 nights ago a guy working at duane reade tells me I look good & wants to get me out friday night. I like his approach so I say ok. we meet up in the city last night. he's late. I dont like that so I tell him. he gets pissy about it and says girls are late all the time so its not a big deal. he's really annoying me now. then he fusses about what I was wearing. I wore a wifebeater underneath a button-down. he wants to see just the tank. I say no. date cancelled! then on my way home on the train 3 *******s start catcalling me. I leave the cart to go to the next. this one has only about 5 people. a pervert in there sits across from me and starts talking sh*t to me then unzippers his pants. nasty! I get off the next stop. guys really need to learn how to act right around girls. this sucks!
TheFinalWord Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 sh*t! went on a date last time with this guy to ihop. afterwards he wants to go to the movies but I want dave & busters so he gets pissy and tells me to take myself home. date cancelled! another guy from facebook hits me up. he's a mutual friend. a little older in his late 20s. I say ok cool he's cute. we exchange numbers. he wants to text but I wanna hear his voice. he says talking on the phone is boring but texting is more fun. hey, I dont meet guys without hearing their voices. after I tell him this he stops texting. poof! another loser. 2 nights ago a guy working at duane reade tells me I look good & wants to get me out friday night. I like his approach so I say ok. we meet up in the city last night. he's late. I dont like that so I tell him. he gets pissy about it and says girls are late all the time so its not a big deal. he's really annoying me now. then he fusses about what I was wearing. I wore a wifebeater underneath a button-down. he wants to see just the tank. I say no. date cancelled! then on my way home on the train 3 *******s start catcalling me. I leave the cart to go to the next. this one has only about 5 people. a pervert in there sits across from me and starts talking sh*t to me then unzippers his pants. nasty! I get off the next stop. guys really need to learn how to act right around girls. this sucks! Yeah, you can tell that these guys are immature...but if you are noticing a trend, could it be that you are contributing to it? Not necessarily in your actions, but the type of man you are going for?
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Who the hell goes on a date to iHop? Maybe it was all you can eat pancakes day. Pretty good value for your dollar.
Kamille Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Cases 3 and 4: the guys are definitely out of line. Note, however, that case 4 has little in common with the others ones. As for case 3, it sounds like the minute he showed up, you two engaged in a power struggle. But cases 1 and 2? Whatever happened to compromising? Is that now entirely out of the question?
SmileFace Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Who the hell goes on a date to iHop? That was my first thought but I didn't want to sound snobby -_- 1
d'Arthez Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 International House of Pancakes, if memory serves. It has been a while. Not exactly the most expensive place to go to.
SmileFace Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 What is iHop? Is is like line dancing? International house of pancakes..It is family chain restaurant.
Cracker Jack Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Yeah, men know how to act. Holy hell, those outings sound terribad.
SmileFace Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Did any of you guys read past the first line ? Nope....lol kidding
d'Arthez Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Did any of you guys read past the first line ? I did. Had nothing to add to your words of wisdom.
Joaquin Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 International house of pancakes..It is family chain restaurant. Thanks. And onto the 2nd line. Dave and busters? Is that a bar?
SmileFace Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Thanks. And onto the 2nd line. Dave and busters? Is that a bar? I think most Dave and Busters have a bar. However it is a grown up restaurant/arcade. However I have no idea what the case was in the op. Did he generally hate Dave and Busters? Did is ex work there? Did they already have plans for the movies and she wanted to change them? Was he trying to get some moive booty? Did he not have the money to cover it? Did he already buy the movie tickets? Who knows...
Joaquin Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 OP your having such a bad run you may actually be quite close to meeting someone decent. Your out and about. Putting yourself out there. Keep your head up. 1
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I still think a safe first date is still dinner at a good decent restaurant (no chains pls)followed by dessert ie. Sharing an ice cream cone. Op your problem is you go out with the guys who hit on you without thinking a bout their dateability values. if a Duane Reade guy hits on you and asks you on a date of course u should be flattered. But he's also working a miinimum wage job where a first date usually consists of hamburgers. Granted I'm not telling you to be a gold digger,_ bujt if u want to be treated better, aim higher. Men will test how much you ared willing to take so set your grfound rules before you decide to go out with them. Again the problem isn't them, its the fact you put up with them that's the problem.
kaylan Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) ^Man, if it was me the first date wouldnt even be hamburgers. This girl would get coffee and a walk in the park until I know her better. And btw...arent you not working at the moment yourself? Granted the convenient store isnt a glamorous job, but how do you know the guy isnt the manager of the store? Even if he isnt, some people have to do with whatever jobs there are available in a recession. People should be mindful of that. I agree with what youre saying about people getting away with what you allow them to get away with. But you cant assume a guy will treat you well just because he makes decent change. You should know that from first hand experience ms cutz. I treated girls well when I had nothing in college, and all do the same now as a graduate, and also do the same when I have my MBA and am doing well in my career. Edited June 2, 2012 by kaylan
TheFinalWord Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I think the place is largely irrelevant. If it's the right person, the environment is secondary. Too many people look at the surface when it comes to dates, instead of looking at the person.
Pyro Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 If you want a true class act you need to have a date take you to the soup plantation. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/142941-never-been-so-insulted-date 1
oranged Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 sh*t! went on a date last time with this guy to ihop. afterwards he wants to go to the movies but I want dave & busters so he gets pissy and tells me to take myself home. date cancelled! another guy from facebook hits me up. he's a mutual friend. a little older in his late 20s. I say ok cool he's cute. we exchange numbers. he wants to text but I wanna hear his voice. he says talking on the phone is boring but texting is more fun. hey, I dont meet guys without hearing their voices. after I tell him this he stops texting. poof! another loser. 2 nights ago a guy working at duane reade tells me I look good & wants to get me out friday night. I like his approach so I say ok. we meet up in the city last night. he's late. I dont like that so I tell him. he gets pissy about it and says girls are late all the time so its not a big deal. he's really annoying me now. then he fusses about what I was wearing. I wore a wifebeater underneath a button-down. he wants to see just the tank. I say no. date cancelled! then on my way home on the train 3 *******s start catcalling me. I leave the cart to go to the next. this one has only about 5 people. a pervert in there sits across from me and starts talking sh*t to me then unzippers his pants. nasty! I get off the next stop. guys really need to learn how to act right around girls. this sucks! i'm 41 don't do any of those things but i know less than them. i can't even get the dates. no i don't know how to act.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 (edited) ^Man, if it was me the first date wouldnt even be hamburgers. This girl would get coffee and a walk in the park until I know her better. And btw...arent you not working at the moment yourself? Granted the convenient store isnt a glamorous job, but how do you know the guy isnt the manager of the store? Even if he isnt, some people have to do with whatever jobs there are available in a recession. People should be mindful of that. I agree with what youre saying about people getting away with what you allow them to get away with. But you cant assume a guy will treat you well just because he makes decent change. You should know that from first hand experience ms cutz. I treated girls well when I had nothing in college, and all do the same now as a graduate, and also do the same when I have my MBA and am doing well in my career. Kaylan you seem to take offense at people who disagree with your modus operandi. Are we not entitled to our own opinions? Dinner dates are my modus operandi if not everyone elses. I don't expect a guy to buy me a fancy dinnr but I'm a old fashioned girl who believe in conversations in frfont of candles. Obviously if you like walks in the parks and coffee dates you will also meet girls who enjoy that as well. Different ppl date differently but I also believe if you don't have the finances to do so,don't date. Just because I'm not working rivght now doesn't mean I'm broke. I also worked hard to save up and when I. Am treated nicely I always reciprocate in kind (I've treated guys to dinner). The fact is if OP doesn't like men wsho are cheap or horrible dates she needs to be a better date picker rather than saying yes to every guy who flatters her because they flirt with her. However from the OPs perspective I think she enjoys simple Edited June 2, 2012 by xpaperxcutx 1
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