jenjen83 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Just after opinions as I find it hard to assess myself. I lost 4 stone a couple of years ago but have put 2 back on. The clothes I bought when I lost the 4 stone still fit but I must be bigger now but find to hard to assess how much bigger if that makes sense. http://img827.imageshack.us/img827/1182/image517k.jpg I don't have a block for a head just shy
Feelin Frisky Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Of course you're not "fat". Do you feel fat? Or think you're fat? It's clear that you are within the realm of fitness. Obviously you're not naked and wearing a black dress which doesn't allow for inspection of any front roll of flab but in my personal view, you'd no doubt fit well into jeans and other flattering clothes that truly or even somewhat fat women can't pull off without a floppy sweater to hide a fold or some love handles.
Kamille Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Op, just know that a bunch of trolls are going to show up to try and take advantage of your mild display of insecurity. They're part of a mob of negativity invested in reproducing misery in the world. I suggest you ignore them. Obviously, what matters most is how you feel about yourself. Clearly you're not fat. You look pretty good I would say. 1
Nightsky Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You look good but as others have warned you've set yourself up for aholes to come in and say what ever nasty thing they feel like.
Leigh 87 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 you have a great shaped body. A person can be thin and have a lesser attractive shape than u - you have a clearly defined waist that is much smaller than your hips. I am thinner than u, but I have a thicker waist and smaller hips -= I would rather a small waist and hips much bigger than my waist. A lot of guys would find your body hot.
somedude81 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Being honest here, as I always am. Judging by your arms (the angle and quality of the photo leaves nothing else to judge by), it does look like you have a few extra pounds on you. But are you fat and outside the realm of datable? Of course not.
Nightsky Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Being honest here, as I always am. Judging by your arms (the angle and quality of the photo leaves nothing else to judge by), it does look like you have a few extra pounds on you. But are you fat and outside the realm of datable? Of course not. I never thought I'd say this but it actually would have been more polite to say "I'd hit it" than what you just did. I feel it was insensitive to put things the way you did and not necesarily in the spirit of honesty. You'd do well to list to what I'm trying to tell you. 1
cerridwen Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Just after opinions as I find it hard to assess myself. I lost 4 stone a couple of years ago but have put 2 back on. The clothes I bought when I lost the 4 stone still fit but I must be bigger now but find to hard to assess how much bigger if that makes sense. http://img827.imageshack.us/img827/1182/image517k.jpg I don't have a block for a head just shy I would never describe you as fat! If you put weight back on somewhere, you're hiding it well.
whichwayisup Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You are fine the way you look. Healthy and curvy - what I would call voluptuous!
somedude81 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I never thought I'd say this but it actually would have been more polite to say "I'd hit it" than what you just did. I feel it was insensitive to put things the way you did and not necesarily in the spirit of honesty. You'd do well to list to what I'm trying to tell you. The thing is, everyone is always so PC with questions like this and never honest. Just look at what everybody else has said so far. I'm not trying to mean or hurt her.
hotloader Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Just after opinions as I find it hard to assess myself. I lost 4 stone a couple of years ago but have put 2 back on. The clothes I bought when I lost the 4 stone still fit but I must be bigger now but find to hard to assess how much bigger if that makes sense. HELL NO you're not "fat"! You've got an absolutely beautiful figure. You've got curves in all the right places, and little to no visible muscle definition. That's a good thing. You look like what a woman is supposed to look like. I don't know why some women think they need a "body by Auschwitz" in order for men to find them attractive.
Els Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You appear to be perfectly well within the realm of healthy weight, and that's a great thing. I think you look good, and you should be proud of it. It does make me sad that some would consider you to have 'a few extra pounds'. Of course you do - compared to the incredibly skinny models and actresses idolized by the media. But that isn't necessarily what is healthy. That isn't what a woman should be expected to look like, IMO. And that should not be the standard for judgment.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You are kind of a bombshell, IMO. Truly "curvy." NOT FAT. Somedude, you are messed up. This is a picture of a girl who is not a skinny girl. This does not mean that she has "extra pounds."
FeelingLonely98 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 DEFINITELY NOT. You do not have an athletic body, but you are in-shape, have a very nice figure, and probably a body 90% or more of women would trade you for! Hope this helps!!
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I think that you look good and have naturally great proportions
Kamille Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Being honest here, as I always am. Judging by your arms (the angle and quality of the photo leaves nothing else to judge by), it does look like you have a few extra pounds on you. But are you fat and outside the realm of datable? Of course not. The thing is, everyone is always so PC with questions like this and never honest. Just look at what everybody else has said so far. I'm not trying to mean or hurt her. This is off topic but... What makes you think the rest of us aren't being honest? I just realized something important about you Mr. Dude - you have high standards! ha!
zengirl Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You have an hourglass figure that's very attractive! I expect you know you don't have a waif-like figure, but I think more people (certainly men where I live! This does depend, of course) would actually find your figure attractive than the waif look. You have a very Mad Men va-va-voom look to you and look great in that dress. The idea that you'd wonder if you were "fat" is just sad to me. You look fit and curvy.
jerbear Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Okay everyone! Keep Calm and Carry On! Honestly, I think you look fine, nice figure, great legs, nice curves, and pretty good height. The British accent would work to your advantage for a Yank.
somedude81 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 This is off topic but... What makes you think the rest of us aren't being honest? Because they aren't. It's nothing but, your body is great, bombshell, etc. I see a girl who has big arms (and not from working out) and know what that translates to in real life. And then the photo is directly facing the camera in a black dress and that makes it impossible to see if she has a stomach or not. I just realized something important about you Mr. Dude - you have high standards! ha! No, I don't have high standards. But I am critical when asked. As I said before, I would be perfectly fine dating her and I would not complain about anything. But if she asked me if she looked fat, I'd probably get slapped (I need to start lying to women more)
nofool4u Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Just after opinions as I find it hard to assess myself. I lost 4 stone a couple of years ago but have put 2 back on. The clothes I bought when I lost the 4 stone still fit but I must be bigger now but find to hard to assess how much bigger if that makes sense. http://img827.imageshack.us/img827/1182/image517k.jpg I don't have a block for a head just shy I think you know you aren't fat.
Els Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I see a girl who has big arms (and not from working out) and know what that translates to in real life. But they aren't big. Those are normal and healthy arms, and judging from pictures, they are smaller than yours. Why do you feel that arms (or, specifically, female arms) shouldn't have an ounce of fat on them? A moderate quantity of fat is a normal and healthy part of the human body, and going with too little does nobody any good. It isn't about standards, it's about the fact that it's just mind-boggling that any reasonable person could perceive her as 'fat' or 'big'. Probably shows the degree of influence media has had on some people, and the unrealistic perception of the female body consequently. What is 'healthy' and 'normal' has been skewed so far out of proportion, it's getting to be ridiculous. 1
somedude81 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 But they aren't big. Those are normal and healthy arms, They just seem bigger than they should be. Look at this woman's arm. It's smaller and obviously has muscle on it. and judging from pictures, they are smaller than yours. Hopefully they're smaller than mine. I'm a guy and I work out. I also don't have any fat on my arms. Why do you feel that arms (or, specifically, female arms) shouldn't have an ounce of fat on them? A moderate quantity of fat is a normal and healthy part of the human body, and going with too little does nobody any good. I know that it's important for women to have a moderate quantity of fat on them. But I'm saying that fat on the arms can be an indicator of having excess weight. Though I'm also aware that every body stores fat differently. I've got more fat than I'd like and it's all in my gut. It isn't about standards, it's about the fact that it's just mind-boggling that any reasonable person could perceive her as 'fat' or 'big'. Probably shows the degree of influence media has had on some people, and the unrealistic perception of the female body consequently. What is 'healthy' and 'normal' has been skewed so far out of proportion, it's getting to be ridiculous. It doesn't have anything to do with the media for me. Just what I see in my everyday life. Also, I didn't say that she was fat or big. Perhaps I should have said, "not ideal" ? I was trying to think of the kindest way to say the truth according to what I saw. 1
cerridwen Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Also, I didn't say that she was fat or big. Perhaps I should have said, "not ideal" ? I was trying to think of the kindest way to say the truth according to what I saw. She didn't ask if she was ideal. She asked if she was fat. Your "bonus" criticism was insensitive.
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