wild_urge Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I think that if you really truly believe that you want to be with him more than anything else and decide that you can bear with unhappiness for some more, then you should, there's nothing to lose if you want to be with him, but you should tell him that you'll trust him more and being happy for the few moments that you are together really make up for all the unhappy ones and never break up with him for something like that. Otherwise, I think that you should move one. . . and not respond to him.
HeavenOrHell Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 If you reply, what you would you like to say? I think I would want to apologise for doubting him and for doubting him about the parcel he is sending, only say sorry if you don't intend to doubt him again like that. If you reply, what would be the purpose behind it, to apologise for doubting him and upsetting him or because you want to try again? I just think go easy on him, it doesn't seem like he's done anything wrong. His emails are very caring...
Kamille Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I personally think that you should communicate honestly about what you would want. What do you want? Do you believe you could work on the trust issues that caused him to decided to break up? How? What's your plan for resolving them? In your shoes, I would put my cards on the table and let him decide whether or not he thinks you two stand a chance.
Author cracker2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Author Posted October 17, 2011 Heaven or hell .. I tried to pm you but I don't think that I can. Let me know if u got the message.. Both - I want him to know I'm sorry for doubting him and I do want us to try again... But I know well il be too afraid to ask about the latter. I dont think I could handle it if I got another refusal...
Kamille Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I dont think I could handle it if I got another refusal... How would a second refusal be different from the situation you're in now? I don't think you have anything to lose by being clear about what you want, what you think needs to change in order for your LDR to thrive, and how you can contribute to making it better.
Author cracker2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 i think i am going to email hiim. tell him im sorry for always doubting him and ask him was it because of my insecurities he broke up with me. something along the lines of i want to know so i can learn from this and not make the same mistakes in the future! what do ye think?
HeavenOrHell Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Sounds good to me, if it feels right for you to say that i think i am going to email hiim. tell him im sorry for always doubting him and ask him was it because of my insecurities he broke up with me. something along the lines of i want to know so i can learn from this and not make the same mistakes in the future! what do ye think?
Author cracker2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 im not sure what is right or not right anymore, but i kinda feel he deserves some kind of reply.
Author cracker2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 i just sent my email... i feel sick and nervous.. now the waiting game!!
Kamille Posted October 18, 2011 Posted October 18, 2011 You were true to yourself and you spoke from the heart. He will respond. He has so far always responded. Why not take some time do some yoga, go for a walk or take a bath?
Author cracker2011 Posted October 18, 2011 Author Posted October 18, 2011 lets hope so!! il keep ye updated anyways. il try do something.. i might give the house a good clean or something...
Kamille Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I'm sorry to hear that. Ex-bf and I have been exchanging a few emails as we both deal with the aftermath of our break up. Sometimes I need a few days to think about my reply. But no matter what, try to find solace in the fact that you told him what was on your mind and you took responsibility for your actions.
HeavenOrHell Posted October 19, 2011 Posted October 19, 2011 I don't think he'll ignore your email, maybe he's just not sure how to reply, also he might not want to give you any false hope of getting back together, (if there's no hope) so might be unsure what to say. Ugh, I'm sorry, situations like this are horrible
Author cracker2011 Posted October 19, 2011 Author Posted October 19, 2011 ya i think he will reply at some stage too..i have a feeling he might be a little angry at me..with the whole doubting thing again. i really hope he replies soon..
Kamille Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Cracker, maybe he's just thankful to hear your apology and wants to leave things on a good note for the time being. ((Cracker))
HeavenOrHell Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 ((((((hugs))))) Cracker, I agree with Kamille. Please keep us posted.
Author cracker2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 I just got email. I will pm you ok
HeavenOrHell Posted October 21, 2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Ok honey, just going to bed now, but will read in the morning ok? Hope you are ok xx I just got email. I will pm you ok
Author cracker2011 Posted October 21, 2011 Author Posted October 21, 2011 ok cool.sent you a pm too kamille.
wild_urge Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Ooo, tell us what he said, I've been waiting to fnd out for a while now. I'm hoping that you'll get back together! Good luck
Author cracker2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 He basically said it was my lack of trust and my constant breaking up with him that drove us apart. And that he misses me alot etc etc..
wild_urge Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 That's good, that's good, it means that things CAN improve Hopefully you guys will find a way to make it work!
Author cracker2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 I would like to think so, he didn't say he wanted to get back together or anything like that tho,,.
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