Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 She was diagnosed a couple of months into us dating. Yes, I did go to counseling with her. No, I did not read the book "Stop Walking on Eggshells", but I did do my homework on the topic of BPD. Props to you.. I hope you are getting out of the fog...
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Look at CFM's earlier threads and their titles AND U TELL ME? Lol. IMO this thread is devaluing the healthy people who are wrongly being diagnosed with BPD in this thread.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 IMO this thread is devaluing the healthy people who are wrongly being diagnosed with BPD in this thread. How so...tell us how we're wrong, with something more than didn't get it officially DX'd. I don't have to have a meteorologist tell me it's raining. I bet you don't believe in global warming either... At least, for now, it seems you have the perfect avatar.
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 How so...tell us how we're wrong, with something more than didn't get it officially DX'd. I don't have to have a meteorologist tell me it's raining. I bet you don't believe in global warming either... At least, for now, it seems you have the perfect avatar. First you call me names.. now you are hurling insults.. Dude... Goodnight
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 (edited) First you call me names.. now you are hurling insults.. Dude... Goodnight See, that's all they do...make it all about them...like BPDers..they can't stand what seems like a party w/out them. I'd bet anything he's lying about his wife. Keep doing what you're doing and ignore the trolls not matter what forum..no matter what package they come wrapped in. They never put up...and never shut up either..until you ask to put up(temporarily, cause they always have the trump card to harass you again). FTR, selfish isn't a name...it's an attribute. Edited June 3, 2011 by sinnister
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 (edited) Now I have BPD... and you are now calling me a liar too... How many other names and insults are you going to throw my way ? WTF ??? You are soooo out of line.. By the way.. I said I WAS married to someone suffering from BPD.. My wife today doesn't have BPD Edited June 3, 2011 by Art_Critic
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Now I have BPD... and you are now calling me a liar too... How many other names and insults are you going to throw my way ? WTF ??? You are soooo out of line.. I thought it was goodbye..and it's obvious you don't know what a simile is...damn. We really need to fix the ed system. I asked for your insight, proof and you stonewalled, and just crapped out of the mouth about whatever. I would say that makes you call YOURSELF a liar. I asked to tell us how we were wrong in a way other than you have...I would even bet you haven't read ANYONE's posts in here that didn't provoke a attack posture
plasma Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 how well does she have everyone else fooled that shes an angel and your the devil ? how often does she complain shes " sick " yet theres nothing wrong with her ? can you almost predict when she is going to throw a tantrum or attention stunt? look at her friends i can assure you they act the same towards there men! im looking at my ex's situation now with her man and newborn, the guy is an community voulenteer, just graduated police acadamy, adores his newborn son ect ect ect wanna know he is close to putting that 9mm to his own head. feathers of a bird flock togther, all toxic andstick togther, you have no shot in hell to get this picture perfect relationship!!!! im the observant type and my ex's friends are very very very UGLY people on the inside. realization is key ! stop chasing the high ! ween off it but stay silent about your moves!
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 More insults.. go figure This is worse than congress...is this how stupid nonsequitors stifle debate?? Damn...where was the insult in last statement..r do you really have to be the victim as you supposed comeback/distraction. You said u were gone as you could find no other logical way to shut us up. Doesn't matter to me what you do...it's just been obvious a lot of intentions on some of the other member's today.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 how well does she have everyone else fooled that shes an angel and your the devil ? how often does she complain shes " sick " yet theres nothing wrong with her ? Very often, nearly flunked out of A-levels b/c of it...prob flunked out college same reason..made Lebanon fall back plan. can you almost predict when she is going to throw a tantrum or attention stunt? Became like clockwork after a while...she knew it too...think she would provoke it for the drama and closeness that came afterwards...think she wanted to find a way to cry for some reason. look at her friends i can assure you they act the same towards there men! im looking at my ex's situation now with her man and newborn, the guy is an community voulenteer, just graduated police acadamy, adores his newborn son ect ect ect wanna know he is close to putting that 9mm to his own head. Same here b/f this place...nearly catatonic. Thought I was healing..but there was acid in my soul from the betrayal and subsequent freeze out. feathers of a bird flock togther, all toxic andstick togther, you have no shot in hell to get this picture perfect relationship!!!! im the observant type and my ex's friends are very very very UGLY people on the inside. Or they'll find new friends that reveal their true/current selves. But if you want to know a BPDers priorities...it's through his/her friends. im the observant type and my ex's friends are very very very UGLY people on the inside. realization is key ! stop chasing the high ! ween off it but stay silent about your moves! Last point is key...don't ever telegraph your punches...they will stay up furiously plotting to negate them r their impact upon them. Big gestures don't work..sentimentality...only way is to let them either come to you or look them in the eyes outside of NC. (if you want the nuclear option, they're smarter than you in environment/relationship mgmt.)
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 (edited) That's right... We are all wrong and you are right. With Sinnisters last Ex... The new guy, her parents and law enforcement had to get involved and lucky for him, his Ex decided to drop the criminal charges... Ignore this guy! So Homebrew loses one (tentatively) and decides to go total troll. You have no self-esteem dude. You're using character assassination like we're running for the presidency on some chat forum...WOW. Edited June 3, 2011 by sinnister
diablodude64 Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Same with ex's mom. She goes out of her way to pit the children against the father. He tries to take her on vacation with her...she complains about the type. He goes by himself....he's now the most selfish man on the planet..and it's all good when he includes her BEFORE the reality of the situation happens...then any little setback has to be his fault. My ex said out of nowhere that even as we've seen and DX'd this failure to communicate as nothing short of insanity..that we'd end up being the same couple. No grey..unless you could the haze over their hearts/logic. Holy crap... This sickens me beyond belief. Where the hell did logic go in all of this? I can't run around saying things based on how I feel. It would get me know where. I live in reality, and that is the reality.
plasma Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Correct BPD's are very very intelligent! The worst possible thing to do is try and 1-up her after the relationship, you will lose in every aspect. She has men on the backburner TRUST ME you think by getting a new car she will conform? she will reel a guy with a better car! you think by getting in shape and getting jacked she will conform? shes will have a guy thats much athleticly built! you get a better job to prove you can make money ? she will get a guy who has own buisness and tons of disposable cash ! you want to 1-up her ? fold em and find yourself again, or pray your head doesnt explode trying to figure her out or try another crack at the relationship ! if she has dirt on you pray it doesnt go public! prepare prepare prepare ! get your mind focused right now on what YOU need im going to be all over this thread like white on rice so be ready for my posts mine was also gorgous, smart, amazing sexually yada yada yada im not demonizing women im deminzingthese life sucking scumbags!
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 This is classic... You have insulted the following people on LS today... ArtCritic, Me, BeeGirl, Fedor, EgoJoe, WTRanger, etc. It would seem that my self-esteem is better than yours. Thing is...I don't keep score..I don't need a trump card against you...how you act tells everyone how you r..not you words my friend. You DO NOT like being challenged.
Author CFM Posted June 3, 2011 Author Posted June 3, 2011 IMO this thread is devaluing the healthy people who are wrongly being diagnosed with BPD in this thread. So I need to drag her to the doctor she would never see to get her professionally diagnosed before I can consider her having BPD? She thinks -NOTHING- is wrong with her.. you know, like most BPD people. You're a classic example of what I was talking about.. it's too easy to come into a thread like this and say what you're saying. And you think you're some sort of genius for doing it. I will say again that I do not care for your unprofessional analysis of my unprofessional analysis. I lived and walked in this life and with this person for FIVE years. I know what I experienced and I know that she is an extremely messed up person. I could quote 10 different emails (out of 500+, she used to email me EVERY SINGLE DAY) and then quote our AIM conversation from 10 minutes ago to any online "PROFESSIONAL" and they'd diagnose her ass with BPD ON THE SPOT.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Holy crap... This sickens me beyond belief. Where the hell did logic go in all of this? I can't run around saying things based on how I feel. It would get me know where. I live in reality, and that is the reality. They believe their reality...I'd bet they'd even be able to fool a polygraph. It's you challenging that reality once they've "split you back" is where the chaos starts. So insecure, they want POWER..but to be rescued...it's hard how they get/keep it..but it's all passive aggressive. Still, they have a side/mirage that's so beautiful...you could say it's their true selves, could say it's their mirror of you..that makes you think/feel you can/should save them...with the addition of the backstory/high notes of r/s. That is why you're usually shamed by people..they have breakups based on boredom...BPD breakups are wars.
plasma Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 BPD is too hot of a subject for loveshack!!! loveshack is for standard normal relationships ups and downs People coming from BPD relationships are wartorn and need the help! id suggest visiting bpdfamily.org His mental well being is at stake and is lost so dont bash him, he is unraveling his emotions, hes angry, confused, depressed, anxious, nervous, scared. help him dont try and undermine him. homebrew your a DR ? I dont have a phd or medical degree but i know i am smarter then you! i read some of your posts and they are usefull for normal relationships but this is above and out of your league my friend.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Correct BPD's are very very intelligent! The worst possible thing to do is try and 1-up her after the relationship, you will lose in every aspect. She has men on the backburner TRUST ME you think by getting a new car she will conform? she will reel a guy with a better car! you think by getting in shape and getting jacked she will conform? shes will have a guy thats much athleticly built! you get a better job to prove you can make money ? she will get a guy who has own buisness and tons of disposable cash ! you want to 1-up her ? fold em and find yourself again, or pray your head doesnt explode trying to figure her out or try another crack at the relationship ! if she has dirt on you pray it doesnt go public! prepare prepare prepare ! get your mind focused right now on what YOU need im going to be all over this thread like white on rice so be ready for my posts mine was also gorgous, smart, amazing sexually yada yada yada im not demonizing women im deminzingthese life sucking scumbags! All the ways u listed was what I was going to do to get her back lol. It'll prob get me a better woman..but I have to detox NOW!
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 BPD is too hot of a subject for loveshack!!! loveshack is for standard normal relationships ups and downs People coming from BPD relationships are wartorn and need the help! id suggest visiting bpdfamily.org His mental well being is at stake and is lost so dont bash him, he is unraveling his emotions, hes angry, confused, depressed, anxious, nervous, scared. help him dont try and undermine him. homebrew your a DR ? I dont have a phd or medical degree but i know i am smarter then you! i read some of your posts and they are usefull for normal relationships but this is above and out of your league my friend. He doesn't care..it's all about keeping score for his rep...he has no self esteem..he HAS to be right...about the only person with (ITS A GREAT READ!!) on his threads..lol, and stickied links. I think his life is this place. I've never seen someone melt down so personally over being challenged.
Desensitized Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 Correct BPD's are very very intelligent! The worst possible thing to do is try and 1-up her after the relationship, you will lose in every aspect. She has men on the backburner TRUST ME you think by getting a new car she will conform? she will reel a guy with a better car! you think by getting in shape and getting jacked she will conform? shes will have a guy thats much athleticly built! you get a better job to prove you can make money ? she will get a guy who has own buisness and tons of disposable cash ! you want to 1-up her ? fold em and find yourself again, or pray your head doesnt explode trying to figure her out or try another crack at the relationship ! if she has dirt on you pray it doesnt go public! prepare prepare prepare ! get your mind focused right now on what YOU need im going to be all over this thread like white on rice so be ready for my posts mine was also gorgous, smart, amazing sexually yada yada yada im not demonizing women im deminzingthese life sucking scumbags! This is SO true. You can try and 1-up her, but you will most likely fail. Like you, Plasma, my BPD ex-fiancee was beautiful, intelligent, and gave me amazing sex. But like you said, if they are attractive, they tend to have A LOT of men on the backburner.
plasma Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 ahhh the mysterious chronic back pain that never goes away ! look at her friends PB posts i bet they complain their " sick" or in " pain " all the time too ! ok so when you two faught i bet she told you she was sick and being the nice guy you are you were quick to jump in and help so you reeled her back in even tho she started or was the root of the fight !!!!!!!! you needed that hit of " herion" so you consold her aches and pains and did what ever it took to be of her aid!!!!! sound familiar ?!?!?!
Desensitized Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 ahhh the mysterious chronic back pain that never goes away ! look at her friends PB posts i bet they complain their " sick" or in " pain " all the time too ! ok so when you two faught i bet she told you she was sick and being the nice guy you are you were quick to jump in and help so you reeled her back in even tho she started or was the root of the fight !!!!!!!! you needed that hit of " herion" so you consold her aches and pains and did what ever it took to be of her aid!!!!! sound familiar ?!?!?! Haha yes! It sounds very familiar
Desensitized Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 All the ways u listed was what I was going to do to get her back lol. It'll prob get me a better woman..but I have to detox NOW! Lol. I actually did what Plasma noted. The whole working out and getting ripped, I did. It only worked for a while... until she finds another guy that is more ripped than me xD. Although, I am not doing it to get her back... so why are you? Why do you want to go through that dysfunctional phase again? Unless I read what you said incorrectly.
sinnister Posted June 3, 2011 Posted June 3, 2011 ahhh the mysterious chronic back pain that never goes away ! look at her friends PB posts i bet they complain their " sick" or in " pain " all the time too ! ok so when you two faught i bet she told you she was sick and being the nice guy you are you were quick to jump in and help so you reeled her back in even tho she started or was the root of the fight !!!!!!!! you needed that hit of " herion" so you consold her aches and pains and did what ever it took to be of her aid!!!!! sound familiar ?!?!?! yeah, it's like heroin when it's gone..but that's her fault..I didn't have to hang out and I warned against it that damned long...lol..but I did. Her migraines were caused by me needing space or just the back of any crisis...we did go a whole year w/out her reporting a migraine...I thought it was progress that her self-esteem was stabilizing, even if she didn't want to admit it. She really stopped with the psychosomatic stuff right after she claimed the therapist just dropped her out of thin air...no further recommendations..no anything. I did credit my care for her insecurities as did she....she felt finally she was beautiful..until we had some stresses.
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