michaelhopes Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Hang tough....you know she is/was/will continue this krap Guess it sucks worse when youre getting a live feed from a PI Keep in mind the future will be better for you and your daughters when this hell passes....and it will pass
Eye of Hourus Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Wow trailer trash BDSM mentor.....somehow I imagined something a little more classy. I can't quite imagine where you would put a dungeon in a trailer. From - My name is Earl.... Randy: Uh, let's not do that. Ralph: I don't want to. I really don't. You're a good friend of mine. I don't want to burn your testicles. Keep your chin up and keep those girls safe. Find out what you can about the trailer park dom, if he has a criminal record it could bode well in your divorce case. It can also help keep your girls safe (sex offender/drug busts etc). The Eye
wicar1 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Quit wasting time doing nothing and take action. Collect all the evidence you can; capture her FB screen posts, secure witnesses, keep a journal. Then, call the police and use them as a witness in your home when you explain that her behavior must change or you'll ask her to leave. If she refuses, take the children to another location. Be sure to tell her where, if you don't that's kidnapping. File for legal separation and gain temporary custody of the kids. When the dust settles regain control. If she pulls away, pull away harder in the opposite direction. Never beg, plead or reason. Except for the kids and financial issues, leave her alone and do not contact her. It is time to take action, be a responsible adult and end the sickness. Accept no more of it. That's the right thing to do.
wicar1 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 (edited) Having posted the above... Just got a call from the PI. She in with another man....in his mobile home. Just need support guys....all the support. I know we are all anonymous here, but I just need some encouraging words. You got all our support... -Because of your b*** wife you and your kids are at risk. Sooner or later your wife can/will become a danger to your kids. A selfish, crazy person, sex freak.. like her can harm/abuse kids. Get proof of what she does , I am sure your PI will will help. Get as much as visual and audio evidance as possible. Hire a good lawyer. The only objective here is to save your kids and yourself. Get full custody. You should do whateve it takes to keep her away. Once you get enough evidance you will get new ideas on how to use those to reach your objective. There is not need to play fair against a zombie. Anything can be done for the saftey of kids. Edited December 20, 2010 by wicar1
controlledchaos Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 i know i don't know you. but, i honestly did think about you all day today. i said a couple prayers for you and your girls as well. i didn't know what time zone you were in, but 3p today you were in my thoughts and prayers! i am so sorry you are going through this. i'm so sorry your wife has lost her mind. i hope you and your girls can find some peace this holiday season. remember dec. 25 is just a day. love those girls and make them know they are loved and did nothing wrong. help them end 2010 on a good note if you can. please know people are here for you. ((HUGS))
collegeguy_24 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I agree with Eye of Horus on this. Its worth paying extra for the PI to get more information on the mentor. If he has a criminal record and poses a risk to your children then the backround check must be done.
Surfer203 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Wow.. this is quite the story. I am praying for you and your children.
What_Next Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Like surfer I am praying for you and your children. It sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and you are doing the best you can for your children. Good luck and gods speed.
Author losttoerotica Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 Again. Thanks everyone. Tomorrow will be the most difficult day of my life. Thanks for the support. My wife....I still care for her. I hope she finds the help she needs - for the sake of herself and the children.
Eye of Hourus Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Lost, You sound resolute. Stand strong and be a pillar of strength for your family.... As I said earlier find out as much as you can about Dom Earl, this can be used to establish a character profile of your wife and those who she may bring your little ones into contact with. If drug busts or evidence of drug use show up in the "Mentors" history see about getting your wife tested. (get a sample of her hair from her hair brush and have a hair drug test done) The Eye All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it's possible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer. Niccolo Machiavelli
Author losttoerotica Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Background check had some misdemeanors, nothing serious.
collegeguy_24 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Hey man, its been a few days, how did she react to getting the divorce papers? How are you and your kids holding up?
controlledchaos Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 thinking of you and your daughters here too! ((HUGS))
Author losttoerotica Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 She was served yesterday afternoon. She asked me "why". I reminded her if she ever cheated on me it was over. I have not divulged any information about the rest of the stuff. She tried to lie and deny everything but failed to do so. She went to see an attorney today. I am not doing well today. I think holding that all inside really took a toll on my emotions. We've agreed to make X-mas as "normal" as possible for the girls so we shall see how that goes. Thanks all for the support. I'm in for a fight.
collegeguy_24 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 you did a very brave thing and I commend on it. Just remember, if you need any help or want to talk, we are here. I know I will be here for Christmas because theres not much to my life. Be sure to keep us updated as to how the weekend goes, and to try and enjoy your time with your daughters.
KOSiz2Phacet Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 hey man, good job on taking charge and demanding accountability. Once a woman goes out and tastes the erotica fruit, especially the internet stuff, she seldom straightens out. It's very much like a drug addict and it leads to the mess you're in right now. I can relate. Good luck.
imagine Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Do your kids know about her infidelity. They have to know at some stage. Do it before she tries to dilute the affair. Expose to everybody.
willowthewisp Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Sounds like your wife is having a mid life crisis. It could take up to seven years before she resolves it, protect yourself and your children and grieve the loss of the women you loved. For now, she is gone and may not return for a long time. Grieve and when you are ready find someone who is emotionally stronger, someone who faces up to their issues and addresses them (everyone has midlife, but most transition without a crisis) and find the happiness and love that you truely deserve.
Author losttoerotica Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 UPDATE - Wow....what a rollercoaster Dec 22nd she was served papers, the 23rd was terrible. The 24th, after holding all the emotions in I had an anxiety attack and ended up at the ER. The 24th-27th were awesome days. Really. I don't know what happened. It seemed as if all the thoughts of divorce were gone. She was back to her old self. We were talking....even about potentially "giving it a try". The 28th, she lost it again cause the papers were officially filed with the court. Took the kids to her parents at the last minute. Accused me of being a danger to her and the kids because of my anxiety. WTF!!!! Today we went to a coffee shop. We agreed on "boundaries" within the house. It was good until she brought up some of the harsh verbiage I used in the divorce papers. I asked for a psycho-sexual assessment of her. She's pissed about that. I guess I would be too. I just told her to let the process work itself out. It will probably get ugly. Thanks for all the support guys.
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 You kids are lucky to have a Dad as special as you! Keep the faith Brother!
Author losttoerotica Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 OMG!!! Last night she told me I was the one who needed to change to make the marriage work and today she recreated her facebook page. unreal. I have to end this and end it quickly. Thanks for all the support everyone!!!
Author losttoerotica Posted January 4, 2011 Author Posted January 4, 2011 Agreed surfer. Still living in the same house. Have to be patient unfortunately. Life is not fun. She's already planning her concerts and such. Waaaayyy gone. More lies and lies. Not worth it. Have to go after my kids although I'd be surprised if I get them more than 50/50 BUT worth the fight. Every day is getting easier. Can't emphasize how much everyone's comments here have helped. Between those, my family, friends and religion I'm hanging in there.
Duckduckgoose Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 I've been reading your story and it seems like you are a very strong person! Keep leaning on your family, friends, and religion during this. You and your kids deserve much better than a woman who went off her chain and wrecked her family like this. My heart goes out to you and I've said a few prayers for you already
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