bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I have to say, I've come across some pretty demanding profiles,.... She stated that she's not going to RUSh or JUMP into meeting someone, she'll take her time online..next would be the IM and then FINALLY the phone. Yikes She said it all depends on the guy ,and how the GUY makes her feel comfortable towards HIM. She said to keep ALL phones in your CAR and not on your person, if she SEES it, she's gone. (interesting since everyone keeps their communication devices on their person, I just don't answer it) Even weird...in the "First dates" section she has NO fishing, boating (that kind of makes sense) Tiki bars, bike rides,anything water related, movies (that kind of makes sense too)...or anything similar to what was listed, she said she can do those on her own anytime. Even better, one time I saw a woman list SIX signs of the Zodiac of men that should not EMAIL her AND.....that he HAS be circumsized LOL!! I'm talking strictly bizarre/irrational demands. I am a woman and I can not see anything wrong with the demands. What is wrong with getting to know a guy before the first meeting? I think it is rational unless you are looking for random sex with every guy. Why can not you keep your phones out of the first date? Is it so important for you on the first date to check your messages from your other girls who you are multidating? I personally have fun watching my guys checking the messages while they are on the date with me because I am not serious about the men. But, perhaps, other girls are looking for guys who are capable of being exclusive and respectful. What is wrong with the first date with no kayaking, boating, cycling, skydiving and other stressful stuff? I think it is rational that the first dates are time to get to know each other and have conversations. Also, girls have right to have special preferences and interests. If she cares for Zodiac, that is her right. If she wants a circumcised man, it mean she is into sex. There is nothing irrational in wanting a circumcised man. The demands show girl's personality and attitude toward dating. It means that the girl has self-respect, values and she is not afraid of being herself. If you prefer plastic girls with no personality and the standard demands, there are plenty of them online as well.
porter218 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I don't know anyone who gets 20 emails a day, and I tend to end up getting harassed by guys who are way too young for me, way too old, or quickly reveal themselves to have other issues. And there is a difference between "getting a date" which is easy if your standards are low enough, and finding someone worth spending a significant portion of your time and attention on. I get flooded with 20 emails a day.... but most of them are too young or just not what I am looking for. I really don't even know how to deal with it because I am only 1 1/2yrs into the dating world after my divorce and these guys are like vultures and very pushy about moving fast.
brainygirl Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I get flooded with 20 emails a day.... but most of them are too young or just not what I am looking for. I really don't even know how to deal with it because I am only 1 1/2yrs into the dating world after my divorce and these guys are like vultures and very pushy about moving fast. It could be a regional thing. I live in a rural/midwest area and there isn't a whole lot of saturation as far as technology use goes. And people tend to pair off really young around here, so the single population isn't that big.
bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Actually, it's easier for women than men in the dating world, tons of women typically have no problem getting dates. Esp with online dating, I hear from female friends how they get 20 emails a day from men. Also, going beyond that, even the law typically sides with women in divorce, law , and custody cases. I do not think that it is easier to get a quality date for a woman. But, it is true that it is not very difficult to get dates with the worst men in the area who are dating online. Do you think it is a lot of fun to date the worst men with PDs and other issures? If it was harder for males to get a date, they would appreciate women who gave them a chance. In fact, they treat the online women as they do not give a f...k for them because there are tons of other women online. Every man who I have known was multidating online and they were multidating for years. What is so hard in having sex with 3-4 women ? (if you are not doing the women at the same time:) ) And, the men are always looking for new women to replace the older ones.
Angel1111 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 The people who are writing dating profiles like this still have huge issues from past relationships. Steer clear of them.
porter218 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 The people who are writing dating profiles like this still have huge issues from past relationships. Steer clear of them. 100% agreed! If someone puts forth so much effort to talk about want they DON"T want and what they DON"T like and just negativity in general online, then there is no reason to believe they will be anything less then negative IRL. A Debbie Downer is never any fun.
sanskrit Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) Birth control and no morals have led to a return of the "harem" as a social structure, which laughably, feminists seem just fine with. 80% of the women are seeking, sleeping with and comfortably happy to share 10% of the men sexually during their wild, overlong youth (everyone is thought a baby til 30 today) even through their 30s, then when they want to settle down and be taken care of, they don't understand why the "nice guys" are wary of them and don't want to raise children they got in their "harem" days. (Not directed at porter or any single moms in particular, no idea who played the marry the cheating stud game and who did not) This situation makes life hell for the quality women who don't play the harem game, as many of the nice average guys who would have loved to date them earlier have been made extremely cynical based on what they witness among the harems, and have learned to get in on the harem game or resign to bitterness. "I've had my fun!" Yeah, sure you have babe, go have some more, just not with me. And then someone of quality comes along and he can't distinguish the difference. Edited September 27, 2010 by sanskrit
brainygirl Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Birth control and no morals have led to a return of the "harem" as a social structure, which laughably, feminists seem just fine with. 80% of the women are seeking, sleeping with and comfortably happy to share 10% of the men sexually during their wild, overlong youth (everyone is thought a baby til 30 today) even through their 30s, then when they want to settle down and be taken care of, they don't understand why the "nice guys" are wary of them and don't want to raise children they got in their "harem" days. (Not directed at porter or any single moms in particular, no idea who played the marry the cheating stud game and who did not) This situation makes life hell for the quality women who don't play the harem game, as many of the nice average guys who would have loved to date them earlier have been made extremely cynical based on what they witness among the harems, and have learned to get in on the harem game or resign to bitterness. "I've had my fun!" Yeah, sure you have babe, go have some more, just not with me. And then someone of quality comes along and he can't distinguish the difference. Wow, just . . . wow. How about taking each person at face value until you have information otherwise?
porter218 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Birth control and no morals have led to a return of the "harem" as a social structure, which laughably, feminists seem just fine with. 80% of the women are seeking, sleeping with and comfortably happy to share 10% of the men sexually during their wild, overlong youth (everyone is thought a baby til 30 today) even through their 30s, then when they want to settle down and be taken care of, they don't understand why the "nice guys" are wary of them and don't want to raise children they got in their "harem" days. (Not directed at porter or any single moms in particular, no idea who played the marry the cheating stud game and who did not) This situation makes life hell for the quality women who don't play the harem game, as many of the nice average guys who would have loved to date them earlier have been made extremely cynical based on what they witness among the harems, and have learned to get in on the harem game or resign to bitterness. "I've had my fun!" Yeah, sure you have babe, go have some more, just not with me. And then someone of quality comes along and he can't distinguish the difference. No worries... I didn't think it was directed at me at all. I don't think I've found any problem finding quality men. My biggest problem really is to be willing to spend time away from my kids to date. I find I would rather be at home spending quality time with them then risk wasting a couple hrs on a man that may not be the right one. I dated one guy so far from those sites and he was fantastic. We dated for 5 months and even went away on a few trips out of the country but after some time I found out his life plan didn't work with mine. He wanted to buy a marina in the Caribbean and move down there with me and the kids. That would be great for me....not so much for my kids. Other then him I just haven't found myself willing to actually meet in person.
sanskrit Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 How about taking each person at face value until you have information otherwise? Taking everyone one meets at face value, without any preconceived notions whatsoever, is a nice ideal, but just that, an ideal. I don't do it, nor do you. We are all colored and shaped by our past experiences in how we treat others going forward initially whether we like that fact or not. If a dog (or a person) is beaten enough, it will growl at even the nicest people who approach it.
bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Birth control and no morals have led to a return of the "harem" as a social structure, which laughably, feminists seem just fine with. 80% of the women are seeking, sleeping with and comfortably happy to share 10% of the men sexually during their wild, overlong youth (everyone is thought a baby til 30 today) even through their 30s, then when they want to settle down and be taken care of, they don't understand why the "nice guys" are wary of them and don't want to raise children they got in their "harem" days. How did you calculate the 80% and the10%?
elaina Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) Even weird...in the "First dates" section she has NO fishing, boating (that kind of makes sense) Tiki bars, bike rides,anything water related, movies (that kind of makes sense too)...or anything similar to what was listed, she said she can do those on her own anytime. QUOTE] Water-related activities are great for dates! (maybe not for first dates though...) Lol that was funny. She is very picky! Edited September 27, 2010 by elaina
sanskrit Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 How did you calculate the 80% and the10%? "Highly scientifically" via a modified 80/20 rule. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle
bac Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) "Highly scientifically" via a modified 80/20 rule. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle The group of females should be around 100 persons to conclude the statement. Also, the females should represent the general population correctly. There should be no bias in the group related to age, education, social situation/status, emotional health, drug abuse, nationality, location, and others. Good luck in your reseach of sexual behavior of next 100 females! Edited September 27, 2010 by bac
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